Most Berries on here have a strong love for multiple names. I was curious, what do you plan to do if you have 2 names you love equally and can’t decide which to use first?
[name_m]How[/name_m] would you handle it if they’re on an equal playing field (both or neither are honor names, your SO views them equally, you’ve loved them both forever, combining isn’t an option, etc) and you just can’t decide?
DH and I might face this dilemma if we ever have a girl so I was curious how others would handle it and pick “the” name for the first baby. If you’ve faced this what did you actually do to decide and what were the two name options?
*as a note it’s 2 names for the same gender since if it was 1 for each that would be a simple fix- find out what you’re having
I’ve thought of that but knowing my luck I still wouldn’t know (most indecisive person ever). I’ve considered flipping a coin xD
Hopefully when the time comes I’ll actually have a solid idea of which I’d want.
I like the suggestion of waiting until the baby is there and then actually deciding which to go with, but it still seems like it would be hard to choose because babies don’t have much of a personality there at the beginning.
I think I would ask around and talk to friends and family. Of course that will give you a new perspective, and sometimes when I talk to people, it makes me realise I actually do prefer one over the other. Maybe do a baby name test run, like “the Starbucks test”, and just say the full name out loud over and over again. If you get sick of it or if one of the names starts to lose its appeal, then I would toss that one.
Well it would depend on the names for me. Like, if they were both honor names but one of the people we were honoring was very ill or expected to die soon, I’d use the name honoring them so they would know about it. If that weren’t the case, I’d probably wait until the baby was here and pick which I felt fit them best. And, if all else failed, I’d assume we would probably have another daughter/son in the future so I would still get to use both names. Then do it in alphabetical order, like pick whichever comes first in the alphabet.
I’d also wait to meet the baby and if I still couldn’t decide I’d ask someone else to choose. Flipping a coin is a good idea too cause you usually secretly hope for one over the other so it’ll let you know.
I actually think about this a lot! WhI checked name feels like it would be the older/younger sibling. I try to imagine the littles interacting and which name fits the best with the older/younger one.
Great advice! For me personally I don’t think seeing the baby would help much and they don’t really have much personality to show right when they’re born. They’re just little squishy humans (cute squishys though!) So I don’t think I personally could decide that way.
The Starbucks test is a great one that I want to do when pregnant. I talk about the names a ton with friends to get their reaction and online (never ever family) to see what random people think and will definitely do so when it’s actually baby time.
For me I don’t think it would be a matter of appeal being lost as most of the names I’ve had stored away for a long time but more of which I couldn’t live without. So I think a lot about if I only had 1 baby of whichever gender, what name would I be most heart broken to never use? (Or which works best for a future pup that I get so I can still use it xD)
