idk if you’d be open to it but the way the Compromise with your (assigned) partner! thread worked was another “nursery thread” was created where users could go in and put their own children. instead of tagging people, we would just add our own users and not tag it but we would still get credit for the name.
i have linked it below for reference !!
Nursery for Babies Born in the "Compromise with your (assigned) partner" thread
this was able to stop overcrowding the database with nursery threads but was also easier on op as they didn’t have to worry about constantly adding names because the people having the kids added them themselves. maybe you’d be interested in that option? you could also give people set sections for their kids rather then in the compromise one how we did it alphabetically.
for an example:
@/cactusgram has:
mabel lavender
posy harriet
linus theodore
@/RileyAddison13 has:
beckett grayson
blake austin
brinley laurel
@/readingreverie has:
giselle cordelia elain
adelaide illyria gwyn
cassian louis rhys
aelita eleanor feyre
and so on so forth. this would also keep all of the users kids together in one thread !!