Well, since I was one of the people who mentioned [name]Aster[/name], I’m probably a bit biased. But I do think it’s a beautiful name. I just asked my husband, what he thought of it, and he likes it too! (Usually, he doesn’t like more uncommon names, so that’s really saying something.)
As others have said, kids can find a way to tease any one with any name. I know a little girl by the name [name]Ellie[/name]. [name]How[/name] could anyone find a way to tease an [name]Ellie[/name] about her name, you might ask. Easy. One possibility, and not the only one … [name]Ellie[/name] Smelly. Now that could put a little girl into tears! But, at the same time, kids get past it. I was teased as a child about my name, but I don’t think I’m permanently scarred by the experience.
Also, I think it’s important for you to remember that no one will ever nickname an [name]Aster[/name] as A$$. That just won’t happen. A$$ would only be used in a mean way, and your daughter would know it was meant to be mean, and would take it in that light. I don’t think it would spoil her beautiful name for her. [name]Just[/name] as [name]Ellie[/name] Smelly shouldn’t spoil the name [name]Ellie[/name] for my friend’s daughter. Because ultimately, she’s not [name]Ellie[/name] Smelly; she’s [name]Ellie[/name].
The other thing is that [name]Aster[/name] is a legitimate name. Yes, it’s uncommon, but certainly not unheard of, so in that way it has the destinction of its own history AS a name. No one who hears the name [name]Aster[/name] and knows it as a legitimate name will wonder why you chose a name that sounds so close to A$$. They’ll just think of the full name [name]Aster[/name]. For me, I immediately think of the star meaning. It’s like the name [name]Stella[/name], for me, in its associations. But a bit more distinctive than [name]Stella[/name].
The only problem would be that if you did have a son, [name]Asher[/name] would be ruled out as a name for any future son. Those names are just too close. But that being said, you could probably come up with another name you love for any future son or daughter.
I am so sorry to hear about your surgery and health problems. This has certainly stressed out this period of your life for you, and made coming up with a name all that more tricky. You could certainly take a bit more time with this, if you needed to. Try living with [name]Aster[/name] [name]Miriam[/name] for another month or so, then make the final choice. I always liked [name]Blythe[/name], too, though I like [name]Aster[/name] just a tiny bit more. And that is because I like the sound of [name]Aster[/name] a little bit more than the sound of [name]Blythe[/name]. I just don’t think at all of A$$, I think [name]Aster[/name] and what a beautiful sound it has (in the whole shape of the word).
I haven’t read everyone else’s posts, so after I do, maybe I will come back and say a little more. But I’ll just end by saying that I hope you feel better soon. I hope you will be able to have all of the children you want, but if it turns out that your little daughter is the only child you have, it sounds like she will grow up with two devoted parents. It sounds like you have a great family!
P.S. We’re worried about teasing by kids, right?! Well, maybe older kids wouldn’t have a problem coming up with A$$ Turd, but I think that’s a bit too sophisticated for the average littler kid to come up with. A$$ Turd is funny on a TV show for adults because it’s not quite so obvious. We don’t automatically think of it, which is why it is funny. But who would write a TV show based on teasing a person with the name [name]Ellie[/name] as [name]Ellie[/name] Smelly? So boring. … So, in that sense, your daughter would probably be spared from A$$ teasing until she is a bit older (and more able to handle it).
P.P.S. After reading the other posts, it sounds like a lot of the worries about potential teasing come from a recent episode of “The Office”. Admittedly, I haven’t seen this episode (nor the TV series, for that matter). But if this is a recent episode, it’s important to keep in mind that it will quickly fade from people’s memories. In another year or 2 or 3, I doubt anyone will remember this episode unless s/he were a real fan of the show. Have you asked your mom or someone else of an older generation how she feels about the name [name]Aster[/name]? The one other very similar name to me is [name]Astrid[/name].