8 weeks ago we had our 5th and final baby. His delivery was my only c section and I was drugged or nauseous the entire time in the hospital. We took 2 names to the hospital [name_f]Indy[/name_f] and [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m]. Once we saw him we both agreed he didn’t look like a [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m]. But for whatever reason I wanted to name him [name_u]River[/name_u] a name that wasn’t on our list at all. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though my DH didn’t like it be agreed after 9 days of having an un named baby. Now I am having second thoughts [name_u]River[/name_u] is such a popular name and I feel like it doesn’t go well with his sibling’s names. I also feel bad that in my hormonal rage I may have bullied my DH out of using the name he has wanted but I have vetoed for our last 3 kids: [name_f]Indy[/name_f]. [name_f]Do[/name_f] u think [name_u]River[/name_u] is too popular to match with brother Miro?
[name_f]Indy[/name_f] and [name_u]River[/name_u] are not my style of names. I like [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m] and Miro and they are both the names of artists, which links them.
If you don’t mind, what are the names of your other children (just to see your style)?
Personally, I think [name_u]River[/name_u] and Miro sound quite nice together.
I definitely prefer [name_u]River[/name_u] to [name_f]Indy[/name_f]. [name_f]Indy[/name_f] is a type of film/music to me (though I know it’s spelled differently). I’ve never heard the name Miro before, but I think it works fine with [name_u]River[/name_u]. [name_u]River[/name_u] may be more popular, but it’s hardly [name_m]William[/name_m] or [name_u]James[/name_u].
Without knowing your other children’s names, [name_f]Indy[/name_f] is my favorite by far. I’ve heard of other women giving birth and then wanting to use names out of the blue and totally not in their usual style (maybe hormones? I’m not sure). So I would trust your gut, if you don’t like [name_u]River[/name_u], don’t keep it but if you are going to change his name, do it ASAP for his development. Good luck!
I prefer [name_f]Indy[/name_f] to [name_u]River[/name_u], esp with Miro. But more importantly, I think that if you are doubting it/not liking it only a few months in, you should definitely change it now. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t wait for it to “grow” on you. The longer it goes, the harder it will be to change it. I would worry about your husband harboring at least a little resentment as well, and that the child could pick up on the fact that either/both of you aren’t comfortable or happy with his name (subconsciously and that is a big maybe, but there nonetheless). If you are questioning it, change it asap! No reason NOT to at this point if it will make you happy and hubby happy, and you can feel relieved and move on. 
hope this helps at least some!
If you’re really not sure about [name_u]River[/name_u] and your SO still isn’t either, its early enough to easily change the name!!
[name_f]Indy[/name_f] and Miro sound great together for me.
I love [name_u]River[/name_u] and think it sounds good with Miro.
I really like [name_u]River[/name_u], I only know one and it’s great for him. I think Miro and [name_u]River[/name_u] are extremely comparable and that said Dashiel I don’t like and [name_f]Indy[/name_f] seems more feminine to me.
I think both are fine names, but I do feel sorry for your husband. I would change the name to [name_f]Indy[/name_f], I think it’s the nicer name of the two.
Thank you for all your comments. As someone mentioned I do think hormones exhaustion really played into this decision the recovery from the C section was like nothing I have ever dealt w/ in my other 4 natural child births. My DH felt bad that i had such a traumatic child birth so he let me choose whatever I wanted. I like the name [name_u]River[/name_u] and the name [name_f]Indy[/name_f]. I am mostly worried about the popularity of the name [name_u]River[/name_u]. For reference my other kids are:
[name_f]Lila[/name_f] (leela)
M!ro
P@loma
B0heme ([name_u]Bo[/name_u]-em)
For privacy reasons pls use these spellings. [name_f]Lila[/name_f]'s name is popular and at Times been one of 3 [name_f]Lila[/name_f]/[name_f]Lyla[/name_f]'s in her class. I have met maybe 3 P@lomas since all lived in a different country. I have never met any kids names M!ro or B0heme.
I think [name_u]River[/name_u] goes perfectly with them, it’s got the same feel and it’s not as popular as I think it seems. Also it’s a word and naturey and all that. If you wanted it when you weren’t over thinking it I think you’re provably ok
[name_u]River[/name_u] is relatively more common, but it’s still a long ways down the list. I would actually worry with [name_f]Indy[/name_f] that it’s becoming more popular, especially [name_f]Indie[/name_f] as a girls’ name/nickname. But all of that could depend a lot on where you live. Either one goes well with his siblings’ names.
I much prefer [name_u]River[/name_u] and really like it with your other names. I don’t see it becoming super popular at all. I’ve never met a little river and I live in a mountain town where nature names are more common. I prefer [name_f]Indie[/name_f] as a girl nn for [name_f]Indira[/name_f] or [name_f]India[/name_f], if at all. [name_f]Indy[/name_f] reminds me of the car races.
Sorry to hear the delivery/recovery was so tough.
I really like everything about the name [name_u]River[/name_u]… It feels strong and fresh. It’s a bit quirky without being weird. I also seem to like names with Rs and Vs in them. [name_f]Indy[/name_f] on the other hand falls short and feels incomplete to me… I’d like it better if it were a nick name for [name_f]Indira[/name_f], [name_u]Indiana[/name_u], [name_f]India[/name_f] or [name_u]Indigo[/name_u].
If your husband does like [name_u]River[/name_u] and you like it, then stick with it and ignore the popularity. It is gaining popularity but realistically it’s still only 244 for boys and 350 for girls so you’re not even in the top 100.
As far as feeling guilty for taking your husband’s name choice away from him, I think letting you choose the name of your final child after a tough delivery is an incredibly sweet gift for him to give to you. I’m sure it’s a reflection of how grateful he is to you for the struggle you went through bringing this child into the world. Appreciate the gesture and don’t feel badly
What about [name_u]Indigo[/name_u]?
I think it would fit perfectly!
My favorite is [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m]! But [name_f]Indy[/name_f] or [name_u]River[/name_u] are lovely with the sibset too.
Agreed. Also like to point out that [name_u]River[/name_u], thematically seems appropriate. I also wonder if you might be placing some of the trauma of the birth, on to the name choice. I Think it can be easy to disregard the feelings we have post c-section as “unnatural” if it had been a vaginal birth you might view the name more as a " when I met him I knew his name". But c-sections are still a birth! You still successfully brought this little boy into the world! And when you did you knew his name. My suggestion for you would be to keep the name [name_u]River[/name_u], and to have [name_f]Indy[/name_f] be a nickname for the family.
Is including either [name_f]Indy[/name_f] or [name_u]River[/name_u] in the middle spot a choice? Or simply adding another middle instead of losing the middle you already have? I think [name_f]Indy[/name_f] [name_u]River[/name_u] MN LM would be a good way to go if you choose to switch. Or [name_u]River[/name_u] [name_f]Indy[/name_f] MN LN if you’d like to include [name_f]Indy[/name_f] for your husband but don’t want to switch. If your other children do not have an extra middle name I still think it would be fine. There is so much variety now with names that even a name that ranks higher on the list will be given to fewer kids. Popularity in this case wouldn’t worry me a bit. It’s hard enough to find the right fit for your family.
My son’s name is [name_u]River[/name_u] so obviously I think the name is awesome. I chose it for very personal reasons, but I love that it sounds like it should be more of a classic. I’ve never met any other [name_m]Rivers[/name_m] though it’s widely accepted as a name. At least people don’t look at me like I named my kid Hammer or something. I love it as an iconic nature name rather than a poetic statement.
HOWEVER if you are having doubts, it doesn’t seem too early to change it. I think [name_f]Indy[/name_f] is a really cool boy’s name. And like pearls said, [name_f]Indy[/name_f] [name_u]River[/name_u] is a nice combination. You’re just kinda adding a name in rather than changing it altogether. It was so loving of your husband to do that for you, but maybe compromising would be a way to give back? He brought 5 children into the world with you, and was Right there through an incredible birth. And I hope you don’t take this the wrong way, but it would make a pretty good story to tell your son.
(Sorry for the novel)
Good luck!
No they go well. [name_u]River[/name_u] [name_u]Quincy[/name_u] ([name_u]Quincy[/name_u] means estate of the fifth son and has a similar vibe to [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m] for me)?