Thank you for sharing your wonderful thoughts and input on the subject :). Something your post made me reflect on is burdens in baby naming and which names could cause trouble for children later on. I’d say that most children might go through a phase of feeling hassled by their name, because it’s something we came into the world initially having little control over. Having a male name hasn’t caused me as much distress as some people may think, but I’ve actually truly enjoyed having it. Which would truly be the greater hassle, though: to grow up with a name like [name_f]Antigone[/name_f] [name_f]Cosima[/name_f] [name_f]Imogen[/name_f] [name_f]Salome[/name_f], or simply being a girl named [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] or [name_u]Ryan[/name_u]? The same goes for boys, as well. Would a little [name_m]Bartholomew[/name_m] [name_m]Lysander[/name_m] feel more troubled by his name then a boy named [name_f]Holly[/name_f] or [name_u]Wren[/name_u]? Or would they each be able to embrace their names as part of who they are as people? Considering people’s diversity in naming tastes, I’m crossing my fingers for the latter.
Hmm… I love unisex namss if established unisex or have a unisex feel. I rarely like masculine names on girls.
([name_u]Elliot[/name_u], [name_u]Kyle[/name_u], and [name_u]Michael[/name_u] are NOT unisex!)
I would be as likely to pick on a girl with a boy name as a boy with a girl name if I was a kid. (Yes, I was a jerk when I was younger.)
the only established girl name I like on a boy is [name_f]Autumn[/name_f] p, because it’s similar to [name_m]Adam[/name_m].
As [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is one of my favorite boy names, I mighf feel a bit shocked at first seeing it on a boy but I’d get used to it.
Most of those occurrences are probably gender-coding errors (more common before the 1990s or so), and they happen the other way too.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with unisex names on boys (or girls). But there are some names that are not unisex ([name_f]IMO[/name_f]), such as [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. [name_f]Rose[/name_f] only works on a girl for me. On the same hand, [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] is a boys name for me, yet there are lots of little girl [name_u]Charlie[/name_u]'s running around. [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] might be my #1 favourite name for a boy, but I don’t know if I’d use it because of it’s rising popularity among girls. It’s the same the other way too though, I wouldn’t use [name_u]Alex[/name_u] on a girl or a boy, even though I like it equally for both. I just don’t like the idea of meeting someone of the opposite gender with the same name as me. Sorry, this whole paragraph is super confusing.
[name_m]Long[/name_m] story short: No to a boy named [name_f]Rose[/name_f], yes to unisex names, they just aren’t for me.
I said no, mostly because of tradition. While some names are great unisex, like [name_u]Rowan[/name_u], we’ve got some names that always have been and always (in my opinion) should be either feminine or masculine. I would never even consider naming my son [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] or my daughter [name_m]Isaiah[/name_m]. Granted, if no one gets the ball rolling mindsets will remain the same, but that person won’t be me. Sorry!
I voted Yes, I don’t mind…
But I wouldn’t ever chose [name_f]Rose[/name_f].
I agree that a name’s gender is entirely a social construct.
However, as a person who has had their gender mistaken as a kid, my opinion has always been. Why wouldn’t you want to make your child’s life easier if you possibly can?
There are so many circumstances that can make life difficult. Most of those circumstances can’t be avoided or they are accidents of fate/luck/providence what have you. As a parent, I would personally want to give my kid the advantages and opportunities that I’m able to.
Sure there are things to learn and ways to grow out of those circumstances, but I wouldn’t wish hard times and challenging situations on them. And I certainly wouldn’t force a challenging lifestyle on my child for the sake of my own pride or so that I can feel artistic and edgy.
I would opt for [name_m]Ambrose[/name_m]. [name_f]Rose[/name_f] isn’t unisex to me.
It is definitely more socially acceptable to give a girl a boys name, but I see why it shouldn’t be that way.
I’m also a huge fan of names that went from masculine to unisex to primarily feminine such as [name_u]Ashley[/name_u] on boys.
I think people should do whatever the hell they want as long as they aren’t offending/hurting people. If you want to name a boy [name_f]Rose[/name_f], go for it. Personally, I would never do it, but I have no issue with it
I generally dislike all ‘unisex’ names because it can quickly go from a girl named [name_u]Taylor[/name_u] or [name_u]Jordan[/name_u] to a girl named [name_u]James[/name_u] (looking at you [name_u]Blake[/name_u] Lively). Giving girls a masculine name is confusing and tacky, as it implies you either secretly wanted a boy or you think feminine names aren’t good enough. And it never seems to go both ways (many would name their daughter [name_u]Reese[/name_u] but not their son [name_f]Rachel[/name_f]). Give your children names appropriate to their sex until they have the chance to establish their gender identity. If they later choose a nickname or different name associated with an alternative gender identity, that is up to them.
I’m all for naming a boy [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. I wouldn’t necessarily name my boy [name_f]Rose[/name_f], but that doesn’t mean you can’t. I’ve met many men named [name_m]Roosevelt[/name_m] who go by [name_f]Rose[/name_f] or [name_f]Rosie[/name_f], and even an [name_m]Ambrose[/name_m] who went by [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. The idea that [name_f]Rose[/name_f] has to be feminine was a societal convention. Naming your son [name_f]Rose[/name_f] isn’t disgracing a culture, like naming your daughter [name_u]Tristan[/name_u] is. [name_u]Tristan[/name_u] was, and will always be, firstly, a boys’ name. [name_f]Rose[/name_f], on the other hand, did not start out as a name. Regardless of what people nowadays think of it as (a classic), [name_f]Rose[/name_f] began as a word name, as is therefore open to both genders. I think every word name (the ones I can think, at least) are unisex. Does that make sense?
Names I like on boys but hate on girls: [name_u]Casey[/name_u], [name_u]Mackenzie[/name_u], [name_u]Meredith[/name_u]
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] this helped!
Some feminine names are okay on boys however, some of them seem awful.
I don’t think boys suit names like: [name_u]Robin[/name_u] and [name_u]Ashley[/name_u].
Most names started out as words though, just in a language other than English. [name_f]Sophia[/name_f], for example, is a word name in Greek.
I did a study and found out that it is much more acceptable for names to be more masculine but not feminine. I personally love [name_f]Hazel[/name_f] for a boy [a rabbit from Watership Down] but everyone uses it for girls I would hate to be a boy called [name_f]Rose[/name_f] though. It has too long a history of being a girl’s name.
My only qualm with it really is that I’d be worried about my son being teased for it. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if I loved the name I wouldn’t use it if I thought he could be ostracized.
I really hate unisex names. I want the name to indicate the baby’s gender.
I voted no, not because boys shouldn’t have unisex names, but because the guaranteed teasing that would come from a boy being called [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. I think the names that used to be all boys like [name_u]Aubrey[/name_u] and [name_u]Avery[/name_u] are quite soft and don’t sound very masculine like [name_m]Stephen[/name_m] and [name_m]Henry[/name_m] do, which made it easier for parents to use them on girls. Also, with every saying that giving a girl a boys name is like saying you were wishing for a boy but ended up with a girl, isn’t that the same with a boy being called rose then? Maybe if the name wasn’t [name_f]Rose[/name_f] and was something harder it wouldn’t be as bad, but [name_f]Rose[/name_f] basically radiates femininity and girlyness.
I wouldn’t do it myself, just because there are too many really wonderful gender specific names that I love and want to use. But if I met a little boy named [name_f]Rose[/name_f], I would not assume that his parents were horrible people.
Here is my only issue with people using boys’ names on girls: I often meet baby girls named [name_u]Ellison[/name_u] or [name_u]Emerson[/name_u] or [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] or even [name_u]James[/name_u]. The parents are universally offended when people assume their daughters are boys based on the names. They complain about it. I have never met a baby who looked particularly male or female. Put the baby in a yellow sleeper and no one can tell.
If you give your daughter a traditionally male name (or you name your son [name_f]Rose[/name_f]) be prepared for some gender confusion. Educate your children to cope with it. If you care about people mistaking little [name_m]Maxwell[/name_m] for a boy, for goodness sakes, name her [name_f]Maxine[/name_f] instead.
I would also not decline to use great names like [name_u]Avery[/name_u] or [name_u]Auden[/name_u] just because someone somewhere has used those names for a girl. Using a name on a girl does not contaminate the name.
Questions like this are often polarizing, in that I think a lot of people fall into one of two camps, those that tend to be strongly against boys having names with any notion of “femininity” linked to the name (precluding not just traditionally girl’s names, but names that are unisex and thus used by girls too) and those that support the idea, although often support tends to be less strongly pro, than those that are more strongly against. Kind of like those that support nuclear power, but wouldn’t want a reactor in their neighborhood, they support the idea of boys with unisex/feminine names, but they wouldn’t use it for their son, etc.
As a guy with a “girl” name, I find myself seeing both sides. I am supportive in a somewhat selfish sense that the more it happens and becomes accepted, the less unusual I appear. Equally, I know that it’s not that terrible thing that some people proclaim that it could be either and in fact even has it’s benefits. Equally, I am aware of the downsides, and know that it’s far more accepted for a girl to have a unisex/boy name than a boy to have a unisex/girl name and until that changes this will always be a question that appears to buck social convention. This of course is also wrapped up in questions and issues that go far beyond just names.
I do think things are changing, albeit slowly, but I think names are becoming more gender fluid. Ironically I think it is mostly because of girls being given more and more boyish names that leads down this path. Eventually parents of boys will have to give up and accept that there may always be a girl with the same name as their son and so, why not just pick a name that they want rather than worry about a name that some girl they don’t know has because they read it on the internet. I remember thinking about this a couple of years back as I noticed people fretting over whether [name_u]Sawyer[/name_u] was trending girl or not (it was, but it was barely breaking into the top 1000 for girls as I recall and yet was already deemed as to be unusable for boys because of this by some).
It’s funny the OP chose [name_f]Rose[/name_f], because I remember that someone posted a similar question once after they had read about a boy named [name_f]Rose[/name_f] in a book and they liked it. I don’t think of [name_f]Rose[/name_f] as a unisex name myself though, I put that one in the girl camp. But I would like to see some names that were once more male, that shifted female, maybe at least shift back to unisex, names such as [name_u]Lindsay[/name_u], [name_u]Kelly[/name_u], [name_u]Shannon[/name_u], [name_u]Dana[/name_u], [name_u]Stacy[/name_u], etc, etc, at least as a starting point.
To me there is a big difference between giving a child a unisex name and giving them a name that is used 99% of the time for the opposite gender, eg. Naming a boy [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. I like unisex names, and have several on my boys list that are more common for girls or are seen as more feminine eg. [name_u]Sasha[/name_u] and [name_u]Sawyer[/name_u], but i would never consider using a female name for a boy, nor would i use a male name for a girl. That said I would not smirk at somebody for naming their little boy [name_f]Rose[/name_f], after all its their decision. I would only use a namr on the less-popular gender if the name actually IS unisex.