Last week, I experienced my first miscarriage. It was a chemical pregnancy and way too early to determine the gender. I have been feeling frustrated because I feel like the people around me aren’t taking my loss seriously because we only knew for one day before my menstrual cycle started.
Anyway, I have been struggling to deal with this news and I’m wondering if naming the baby we’ve lost will make me feel like I can have some closure before trying again.
My husband is not going to be involved with the naming process since he’d think it was weird, so this will be private for me. He doesn’t even know that I’m making this decision.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what to name my angel baby? I don’t even know where to begin to decide.
I’ve done this. Since all babies have an X Chromosome, I assume any baby I had before a gender was apparent is female.
I use honor names that you wouldn’t want to use for a born child. Mine are [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Sharyn[/name_f] and [name_f]Freeda[/name_f] [name_f]Bernice[/name_f]. You may find this too personal. You may want to choose a name you love but wouldn’t actually be brave enough to use on a born child. You may want to name it a [name_m]Jr[/name_m]. After your husband or yourself.
The possibilities are endless really. Would you like me to help?
I’m sorry you’re going through this. I’m here if you need anything.
@casperkenzie1993 -much love and support from me. I found the naming very important. Our baby did live for a short time and legally we had to name her. We were going to use a name we had considered during the pregnancy but changed it to a special although regular name we loved and I feel good when people ask and they do ask. Now years later I feel much happier giving the lovely name we chose. It is intensely private and people don’t need to know any detail. Where to start I am not sure -I think just a name you might have used for a baby anyway not something that continually says she is an angel baby or miscarriage - just part of the experience women and families go through to build a family. Female is likely as per PP but even a non gender specific name if you are okay with them. I hope as the years go on you will feel more peaceful. It was the advice I was given -you’ll never forget but it gets easier - and its proven correct. You must feel very raw right now. Everyone is different but that’s my experience. Very best wishes.