Ok ladies, Im a first timer in TTC . And the internet is bombarding me with information (ok I went loooking lol) Basically I have been tracking my ovulation and I know my cycle very well, but one thing I am having a difficult time is how often my husband should be “doing it” I was told everyday multiple times a day on the week of. But then I was told, NO dont do it everyday, it makes his sperm weak and have a lower count, so do it every other day all month long… but then I feel like I could miss my “window” of opportunity. But sex every other day seems a lil more doable in my opinion, its very hard to keep the spontaneity up all month long for multiple months everyday (we have been trying since march of 2012) Is any of this a make or break deal? Am I totally reading into too much?? Thanks so much in advance for any help! I know its a very personal question but I was hoping for some wisdom from other mothers (or doctors =) out there.
A man makes between 100 and 300 million sperm each time he ejaculates. Each time. The count does diminish with more frequent ejaculation, but even if it went down by half (it doesn’t) his odds are lots better than yours. As you prepare and release one egg, perhaps 2, monthly YOU are the rate-limiting step. Time everything to you. You neednt keep up the daily frequency except for the week flanking your ovulatory date, unless of course you want to.
As far as I know you are fertile only during during ovulation – so sex every day or every other day during the ovulation portion of your cycle is THE way to conceive. Check out this book and the forums on this site for more professional and guided discussions: http://www.tcoyf.com/
Good luck!
Well I definitely know to be “pro active” during my ovulation, but my main concern was whether it makes a huge difference to be doing everyday or every other day due to the sperm count. But from what [name]BLADE[/name] said it sounds like it doesn’t matter? Some websites and even a doctor I talked to said everyday can be too much even if it is only during my ovulation week. But others say you should do it everyday. Maybe Im feeling the pressure and reading to much into it since we have been trying almost a year already =(
We tried for 6 months before be got pregnant. What we ended up doing is using this site – American Pregnancy Association - Promoting Pregnancy Wellness – to calculate when my most fertile week was then did it every day for that week. We didn’t do anything the week before and then did it so much that week. Then we waited. That’s the month we got pregnant. Nothing else worked for us.
As far as I know, trying to do it everyday wouldn’t really make his sperm weak, but it would really hurt you and him after a while. You’d be tired and sore and so would he and neither of you would feel up to it. [name]Every[/name] other day would be the same. Find your most fertile week and do it like a rabbit then 
Having sex every day is only a problem is he has a medically low sperm count. That said, it really isn’t necessary! [name]How[/name] long is your fertile window? If you can manage every other day the five day period leading up to your ovulation, especially if youcan do every day when/if you get the most fertile cervical fluid (sorry TMI, but the stuff that looks like egg white), you should have more than adequate coverage!
I second the recommendation of www.tcoyf.com. 
You definitely don’t need to have sex every other day all month long… But making time for it once or twice outside your fertile time would probably be very helpful for your relationship. Good luck for a healthy happy pregnancy soon!
The others phrased it better-- do what Dantea did, if you can manage it. [name]Daily[/name] during the week of actual fertility. That’s by far your best shot. If you were to perform a quantitative semen analysis on a man who engaged in daily intercourse versus every other day, or rarer, his cout would be lower. But we’re talking 100 million instead of 200 million. 100 million of the little guys every day during your period of peak fertility is pretty good odds.
Sperm can live up to 5 days in your body, but needs about 12 hours to get to the egg. The egg has about a 12-18 hour span where it is fertile and receptive to sperm. So you should have sex the couple of days before ovulation. So if you’re using ovulation predictor kits, once you get a positive start having sex. They give a positive 12-36 hours before ovulation, so they are a good indicator of when to have sex.
I had sex three days and the day before I ovulated only and that was enough.
If it helps - I tried for a while having sex every other day but without taking note of my ovulation dates, once I took note of my ovulation I conceived having sex just once during my ovulation window, which was the day before I ovulated.
I never used any particular method, when I decided I wanted a baby I basically just stopped trying to prevent it. If you’re in a healthy relationship, you should be having sex at least 2-3 times a week anyway so why time it and over analyze it? We just stuck to our normal routine and I ended up pregnant in 4 months (I understand it’s not that easy for everyone) It just seems like it would take the spontaneity out of sex. [name]Just[/name] my opinion. 
I bought a book called “how to choose the sex of your baby” it was VERY informative about how to get pregnant, recommend.
In the meantime, I’ve been pregnant three times (1 kid, 1 miscarriage, pregnant now) and each time it only took 1-2 months to conceive. Knowing when you ovulate is the hardest part, once you figure that out, have sex around 4-5 days before you ovulate and then the day before…I say this because if you wait a really long time to have sex and try to conceive the sperm are “old” so to speak but don’t do it everyday because it can lower the count and/or “strength” of the little guys. Then the day before you expect to ovulate. The book says (to have the best chance of a boy at least) to have sex as close to ovulating as possible, however, when I tried to do it on the day I thought I was ovulating it didn’t happen, but when I did it the day before it happened all three times! [name]Hope[/name] that helps!