I want a unique name. Very edgy but not crazy. An impossible request I am finding.
I like [name]Landry[/name] [name]Kate[/name]. I like [name]Sunday[/name] [name]Kate[/name]. I have also liked [name]Ezra[/name] [name]Kate[/name] and [name]Noa[/name] Laycie. And I have liked [name]Monroe[/name] Laycie.
Names are starting to seem like they are full of nothingness and- surprisingly- I am tired of thinking over it constantly.
While everyone here loves [name]Sunday[/name]- my mom and husband think it is super weird. While my mom and husband like [name]Noa[/name] for a girl, everyone here thinks it too weird for a girl in the US.
While my mom and husband like [name]Ezra[/name]- everyone here only thinks boy.
I have approval at home with [name]Landry[/name] and some say yes here some say no.
I like surnamey/boyish names on girls as well as some frilly ones if they are unique enough (hence [name]Sunday[/name]).
I have thought [name]Lux[/name]- but I know there’s no way my husband will go for that. I kind of liked [name]Lucy[/name] for a while but it seems too common. i considered [name]Luca[/name] for a girl- but I dont like how much it resembles my brother and cousin’s names- [name]Luke[/name]/[name]Lucas[/name].
I just really need help… or just to give up, hahaha!
When I find I’m at an impasse with names, I tell myself to wait and be patient. When you see your baby girl’s face for the first time, you’ll know. And if not, you’ll have to figure it out PDQ.
First of all, take a deep breath! It’s going to be okay.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed with thinking about names too much, maybe it’s best to step back - give yourself a week or so to NOT think about it! Maybe when you start again, you’ll look at the problem with new eyes.
Lastly, not everyone is going to love the name you pick. No matter what, I guarantee someone will hate it, whether it’s your mom or someone on here (hopefully NOT your husband, since this is his daughter too!). Other people’s opinions are valuable, but they aren’t everything.
I feel your pain. I am looking for the same thing. And my baby is already named, and is 2 months old. My husband vetoed everything I loved.
I think you need to take a deep breath and first work up an extensive list. I’d try to find a list of names that are [name]TRULY[/name], equally gender neutral or are distinctly feminine but still have edginess, since one of the problems you are having is picking GN names that are more tied to boys. ([name]Luca[/name] is too boyish to me, (believe it or not), as the only [name]Luca[/name] I know is a 6 yo boy).
I’d get a book or an online list, and start compiling a list of names that you like features of. Then winnow it down. Then say the name out loud a lot (that’s the mistake I made, I did NOT practice the name and I hate the way certain things feel when I say them).
And FWIW-Cassidy and Darcy come to mind.
Then I’d get it down to 5-8 or so names that you’d be OK with and present them to your husband.
That’s what I’d do ( since I feel I did not handle the naming process well/forcefully enough this last time, I’ve given this a lot more thought).
Alternatively you can just get a glass of wine, open a book, close your eyes, point, and be done, lol!
[name]Hi[/name], lindseywhite03! I am sorry to hear that you are losing hope in your baby name search–it sounds like you’re in a tough position because you would like approval from your mom, husband, and the Nameberry clan. However, I hope that you take the Nameberry advice with a grain of salt. That is to say that the name you choose for your child is ENTIRELY in the hands of you and your husband. Berries are happy to act as soundboards for your ideas, but hopefully you recognize that we are a small representation of the population. Sure, maybe some Berries don’t love [name]Noa[/name] for a girl, but if your family does, then go for it! Ultimately, the opinions of your self and your family have more weight than those of strangers, however well-meaning they may be
I want to suggest some names that might fit your style, which seems like alternative unisex with a frilly touch, if I could give it a title. I like your sense of edginess. My best friend is also expecting and this is one of the styles of names she is interested in. The name that she almost chose to go with was [name]Delaney[/name]. [name]How[/name] do you feel about that one? It feels like [name]Landry[/name] but has some of the feminine sound of [name]Ezra[/name] and [name]Luca[/name].
I know how you feel, most berries hate my names as well. [name]Do[/name] remember, though, it’s your kid. It’s not your mother’s, it’s not your friends’ and it’s not any of us berries’: it is your child’s. You will be the one who has to live with the decision every day until your little girl grows up, and at that point she can change it if she’s unhappy. Seriously just take a breather, relax, and just think about these names in a calm setting where you can formulate your own opinions without anyone else telling you how to feel about those names, and maybe take your husband along to do the same- but don’t talk to each other! Then you will know how much you really love- or hate- a name.
Also, FWIW, I think [name]Landry[/name] [name]Kate[/name] is pretty perfect for you. It’s cute and has a lot of the qualities you’re looking for without being too boyish (unlike [name]Noa[/name] and [name]Ezra[/name], in my opinion), and if you’ve got approval at home, too…
I think you should stop taking so much care to what people on here think. it’s YOUR baby. for that matter, your mom’s opinion shouldn’t count as much either. go with what you and your husband love.
I’m sorry, but PLEASE don’t use [name]Landry[/name], it sounds like laundry and can’t be shortened to anything better either, it has no redeeming features. I have a nephew called [name]Ezra[/name] so that’s out for me but [name]Sunday[/name] and [name]Stella[/name] are great, and even [name]Noa[/name] and [name]Monroe[/name] are fine too.
Thanks this was very helpful! It is funny that one poster says I think [name]Landry[/name] [name]Kate[/name] is perfect for you and the next said its like Laundry LOL! But I think [name]Landry[/name] [name]Kate[/name] will be a front runner for me because it doesnt bother my husband and its cool. As for NN I would probably use “dree” or “landy” (my cousin named her little girl Landynn and calls her Landy)
Once when I was in a store I saw the cutest little baby girl and the mom said her name was [name]Garner[/name]. I loved it bc 1. the girl was precious 2. It was a surname 3. it felt funky!
Similarly I had Greenlee on my list but it was vetoed due to my color last name.
I still have [name]Garner[/name] as a consideration- but for some reason without the face of the little girl it isnt striking me the same. At one point I loved [name]McLain[/name] for a girl but decided to use it as a boy’s MN instead.
I reallly want to use Laycie as a MN for a girl to honor my twin sister if I dont use [name]Kate[/name] or if I have a second daugther. [name]Do[/name] you think [name]Garner[/name] Laycie has a weird flow?
The only way I could really switch my style to a more girly one that fits more people’s taste is by using [name]Sunday[/name] and [name]Stella[/name]- and [name]Sunday[/name] in my husband’s mind seems to be so weird that it is embarrassing to him. I can see an adorable little girl with the name- but he doesnt feel it.
In the U.S., I’d definitely use [name]Noa[/name] over [name]Landry[/name]. [name]Landry[/name] is a traditional Cajun male name and there may be a point in your daughter’s life where she would run into a male [name]Landry[/name], especially if she is in the South. At least [name]Noa[/name] is legitimately feminine, despite what most think. I also like [name]Sunday[/name].
Also I had considered [name]Dempsey[/name] before- is it too out there?
I haven’t even talked to my husband about it because our styles are so different and his reactions are so strong that I sometimes feel embarrassed and cant help but to take his vetoes personally. I know Im sensitive- but thats not going away any time soon LOL
I’m sorry for your struggle! You’ll end up with something great, I assure you:) Your taste might not be the same as mine, but the important thing is that you and your husband love the name! I liked the suggestion of [name]Darcy[/name] for you, maybe [name]Darcy[/name] [name]Kate[/name]? [name]Stella[/name] [name]Lacy[/name] would be great as well. [name]Do[/name] you like [name]Dilys[/name]? It’s pretty [name]IMO[/name] and very unique. [name]Maple[/name]? [name]Bellamy[/name]? [name]Ellery[/name]? [name]Just[/name] some thoughts. Good luck:)
I [name]LOVE[/name] [name]Luca[/name]…maybe [name]Luka[/name], as in [name]Suzanne[/name] vega’s “My name is [name]Luka[/name]…” Stunning song.
I’m the same as you re. [name]Lucy[/name], but [name]Luca[/name] and my surname which starts with a C is too stuttery.
Names I like that aren’t too girlie or common:
[name]Odile[/name]
[name]Cecile[/name]
[name]Hero[/name]
[name]Sloane[/name]
[name]Oriel[/name]
[name]Malone[/name]
[name]Dorian[/name]
[name]Hermione[/name]
[name]Rory[/name]
[name]Noa[/name] (is that common in the States?
[name]Delaney[/name] is a good call - nn [name]Laney[/name]
[name]Bertie[/name], [name]George[/name], etc…
[name]Landry[/name] sounds to me like a Cockney saying laundry - ha!
I don’t know any [name]Ezra[/name]'s in the UK. Wasn’t there a US sitcom with one?
My husband doesn’t understand my desire for something ‘distinctive’. If I can’t get [name]Romilly[/name] (nn [name]Romy[/name]) and [name]Ottilie[/name] (nn [name]Tilly[/name]) through for my twins, I’ll need to go for more popular names that have interesting nns…
I agree with the above - we tore our hair out with our first, but as soon as we saw her, she was “[name]Imogen[/name]”…
Good [name]Luck[/name]!!
Berries have a very different style than the rest of the world. So you may not find any love for a name here but will recieve nothing but complements on it [name]IRL[/name]. What about [name]Dillon[/name]/[name]Dylan[/name] for a girl. I think it seems very much your style. I think [name]Dylan[/name] Laycie White is adorable!!! I liked your male [name]Landry[/name] combo better, did hubby veto it? I think your cousin might get offended too if she used [name]Landyn[/name] for a girl and you used [name]Landry[/name]. It could get confusing at family gatherings too. I think [name]Sunday[/name] [name]Kate[/name] is cute! [name]Ezra[/name] is definitely a boys name and I have only seen it used on boys. I love [name]Noa[/name] for a girl! [name]Garner[/name] does not flow like a name to me, sorry! I think [name]Tenley[/name] from your signature is adorable too!! It has always been a GP for me
FWIW, I think [name]Ezra[/name] on a girl is fine and if you love it, you should use it! Who cares what the berries think (lol, sorry fellow Berries!)? What matters is -you- love the name.
I also love your suggestion of [name]Dempsey[/name]. I knew a woman who named her daughter [name]Dempsey[/name] [name]Pearl[/name] “[name]Demi[/name]” and I thought it was so stunning. I think [name]Ezra[/name] Laycie, [name]Ezra[/name] [name]Kate[/name], or [name]Dempsey[/name] [name]Kate[/name] are all perfectly lovely.
[name]Love[/name] “[name]Darcy[/name]” and “[name]Stella[/name]” as a sibset. Not a big fan of [name]Sunday[/name]…reminds me of ice cream “sundae” more than the day of the week. GL!!!
It’s going to be okay.