Since we’re looking at adopting in the near future, I was hoping to start a discussion about adoption and changing the name or adding a middle name to the kid you adopt. Is there an age point where it’s just not okay anymore, or if the kid is older, and they weren’t happy with their names or said it was okay to alter it, is that fine (with their input and thoughts too)?
My questioning comes from that we’re looking to adopt a 10/11 year old boy. His name is [name_u]August[/name_u] and while I love [name_u]August[/name_u], [name_u]August[/name_u] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] is a little weird. Would it be terribly rude to ask an 11 year old if he would be okay with [name_m]Augusten[/name_m]? Or even just asking him if he’s happy with his name or his middle name? Or say his name is [name_u]August[/name_u] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] (middle) and then he’d be [name_u]August[/name_u] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m], would it be fine then to ask him if I could change his middle name? Or say he doesn’t have a middle, can I ask him to collaborate with me to give him one or two? Or if he has one, would it be okay to ask him to add another so he’d have two like the other kids?
I know it’s a lot of questions, but we’re looking at starting this process within a month, maybe 2, and I know nothing about this part of it. >.<
Thanks to any who take the time to answer.