Advice/Tips/Help with Name

Girl Names
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Hii :slight_smile: my name is [name_f]Sera[/name_f] and I’m currently almost seven months along and I am freaking out, I’m only 15 n am the youngest of three kids and the only girl, my bf at the time moved to the UK with his family before I found out about baby and has been ignoring me since the 4th month, sent him a pic of the last ultrasound before he vanished maybe it was too much and long distance but my parents didn’t consent to me not keeping it and that they’ll raise their first grandchild so i can finish school becuz i’m not ready but I want to try and they’re being really difficult saying im too young and that they’ll take guardianship over baby til i finish school and college becuz they dont want me following their footsteps (my eldest brother is the result of a teen pregancy and my parents married after my dad graduated becuz mom had to drop out) n I know they’re doing it for me but i want to be mom and we had a fight about naming baby becuz i have gotten into the habit of just calling it baby even though i know it’s a little girl! and mom wants to name her which isn’t fair so, they’ve given me til two weeks before the due date to come up with a name but I like so many.

mom wants to call her : Graceanne [name_f]Louise[/name_f]

but I dont like that. at all. it’s what mom would of named my 2nd eldest brother if he was a girl and dad is agreeing saying that im not really in the best maturity to name a baby becuz its not like naming a dog or cat.

The names I like are

McKenzie [name_f]Kate[/name_f] (Kennie for short)
[name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Sue[/name_f]
[name_f]Sue[/name_f]-[name_f]Ellen[/name_f] [name_f]Jade[/name_f]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u]
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]
[name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Willow[/name_f] Cades
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f]
[name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Willow[/name_f]
Willadeen/Willadean [name_f]Lilly[/name_f]
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f] (I like the idea of JJ being a nickname)
[name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabella[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Katherine[/name_f]

A long list I know! but I love them all and I would like some help narrowing things down please what sounds the most ‘mature’ and pretty but strong also if you have a suggestion i’m open to it, i at least want to name my first baby, i know it’s mom n dads first grandchild n they’re wanting to be its parents instead of its grandparents but it is my baby. I also think too that mom is trying to take her from me becuz when i wasbetween 9 - 12yrs old she miscarried two babies, one just before 10 weeks and another at 15 - 20 weeks then dad got fixed becuz they couldnt deal with the pain of losing babies and didn’t want to try again but now they’re trying to take my baby :frowning: :mad: :-?

please help.

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If your parents will be raising your child for you, don’t you think they should have a say in the name? For example, you could put a first that you like with a middle they like. Graceanne (or just [name_f]Grace[/name_f]!) and [name_f]Louise[/name_f] both are lovely as middles!
[name_m]How[/name_m] about:
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] Graceanne

[name_f]Louise[/name_f] makes a lovely first name as well; maybe [name_f]Louise[/name_f] McKenzie?

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I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this ~ especially at such a young age.

I respectfully disagree with the previous poster. It sounds like your parents are not adopting the child. They are only taking guardianship until you finish school. Since this is a temporary situation, I believe that you should be able to name the baby. If they wish to take the baby because they desire more children, it seems like a small thing to allow you to name your daughter. With that being said, I think it would be a mature gesture to pick a name that your parents like, too.

Graceanne [name_f]Louise[/name_f] should be taken off the table. You don’t like it and it was meant for your parent’s baby. I listed your suggestions in order of my preference, but think that all of them work for your daughter. It might help your parent’s to accept the name, if you start using it now. As a grandparent, I know how quickly a previously disliked name can become one that you love once it becomes connected to your grandchild.

[name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabella[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Katherine[/name_f]
McKenzie [name_f]Kate[/name_f] (Kennie for short)
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f]
[name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]
[name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u]
[name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Willow[/name_f]
[name_f]Willow[/name_f] Cades
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f]
[name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Sue[/name_f]
[name_f]Sue[/name_f]-[name_f]Ellen[/name_f] [name_f]Jade[/name_f]
Willadeen/Willadean [name_f]Lilly[/name_f]

I think it might be more difficult to get your parents to go along with [name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] and [name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f].

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My favorites are

[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]
[name_f]Willow[/name_f] Cades
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Catherine[/name_f]

If you want to work out a compromise here are some combinations you and your parents might agree on!

[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Willow[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Louise[/name_f] [name_f]Willow[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Grace[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f]

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[name_m]Hi[/name_m] [name_f]Sera[/name_f],

Your are very young but obviously you know what names you like, so I would say trust yourself and select one of those as first names. It is your baby after all.

Of course, if you want, Graceanne [name_f]Louise[/name_f] could be middle names - you are not limited to two names, you can have four names - then perhaps everyone is happy.

I like:
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] (instead of [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f])
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f]
:slight_smile:

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Hi Sera

I disagree with the first reply, and think you should absolutely choose the name yourself. You should not use a name that you dislike, so Graceanne Louise needs to be taken off the list. Your parents will grow to love the name you choose in time, but you are the mother so you get to choose.

I like these best from your list:
Samantha Skye
Daisy Jane
Olivia Scarlett (please spell it this way)
Emily Willow
Mia Isabella
Sophia Katherine

I think any of these would be a lovely name. Maybe when you narrow it down to 3 or 4 names that you love you could discuss them with your parents - but you get the final say. Best wishes to you and your little one.

Just to add, I’m not sure of the legal situation where you live, but if you feel that you are being forced to give up guardianship of your child against your wishes could you seek some support, perhaps starting with a social worker who can advise you, or a school counsellor? While you may appreciate having your parents help you and support you, that surely can be possible without giving them guardianship if that’s not what you want?

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I’m glad your parents are supportive of you and your daughter and I’m sure they want what is best for both of you. But as the child’s mother you should absolutely get to name her. And I mean no disrespect to you parents, but if I’m being honest their name choice is more immature than most of yours.
I don’t like McKenzie. I find it dated. [name_f]Sue[/name_f] [name_f]Ellen[/name_f] and willowdeen I find overly southern. Nothing wrong with southern charm but they are a bit over the top and not versatile. [name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is a cheesy combination.
Are any of these names meaningful? If so that will influence my vote heavily. If not, based on just sound I love [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] followed by [name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Willow[/name_f] or [name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Sue[/name_f].

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Tbh Graceanne sounds less mature than most of the names you’ve listed ([name_f]Louise[/name_f] is cute though)

McKenzie [name_f]Kate[/name_f] - Mckenzie and other spellings have been frequently used for the last 20 years or so, it feels dated. I like [name_f]Kate[/name_f]
[name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Sue[/name_f] - [name_f]Molly[/name_f] isn’t really my style but I know it’s been coming back; [name_f]Sue[/name_f] isn’t my cup of tea
[name_f]Sue[/name_f]-[name_f]Ellen[/name_f] [name_f]Jade[/name_f] - not a fan of [name_f]Sue[/name_f]-[name_f]Ellen[/name_f], [name_f]Jade[/name_f] is cute
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u] - I like this combo a lot actually; [name_f]Samantha[/name_f], like McKenzie, feels a teensy bit dated because of how much it’s been used in recent years but I think is still nice/mature
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] - love this combo!! [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] is a very sweet name and an excellent choice
[name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f] - same deal with [name_f]Samantha[/name_f] and McKenzie, [name_f]Summer[/name_f] is a little dated but still a nice name. Not big on pairing it with [name_f]Rose[/name_f] because it makes it sound like adjective-noun which isn’t always great. I like them apart though
[name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f] - not a fan of [name_u]Winter[/name_u] as a first name, and I’m not a fan of [name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Willow[/name_f] Cades - [name_f]Willow[/name_f] is cute, not a fan of Cades
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f] - probably the most “mature” so far, [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] is a beautiful name and I like the pairing of [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f]
[name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Willow[/name_f] - one of the most “mature;” [name_f]Emily[/name_f] is a bit dated [name_f]IMO[/name_f]
Willadeen/Willadean [name_f]Lilly[/name_f] - not a fan of Willadean, and with [name_f]Lilly[/name_f] it’s too rhymy/has too much of an L sound
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f] (I like the idea of JJ being a nickname) - not a big fan, both names are bit dated
[name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] - definitely on trend, both names are pretty popular right now which just goes to show that they’re pretty good names
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] - probably my favorite choice out of your list. Sounds very mature and sophisticated.

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I’m also sorry that this is something you have to go through at such a young age.
First off, I also respectfully disagree with the first poster. I think you should get to choose the name. I in no way want to seem rude, but I personally don’t think Graceanne is the most ‘mature’ sounding name (I would not say that to your mother, though.) Most importantly if you don’t like it, I think it should be off the list.

My favorites of yours are:

  • Olivia Scarlett or Olivia Scarlet without the extra E makes it seem more mature.
  • Mia Isabella
  • Sophia Katherine
  • Samantha Skye
  • Emily Willow
  • Jessica Jasmine - I like the alliteration, some may find it childish though.

The ones I hesitate with are:

  • Daisy Jane
  • Summer Rose
  • Winter Caitlyn
  • Willow Cades
  • Willadeen Lily

^ These I think your parents are more likely to think are silly or childish because they contain words or are a bit more lyrical. There is absolutely nothing wrong with word names (I love them), but they can be see as a bit less mature/more like cat/dog names. I think that you could still save Willow, Lily, Caitlyn (maybe nickname Cades?), Jane and Rose from this list to incorporate with your other names. For instance, Caitlyn Willow, Caitlyn Lily, Lily Jane, or Lily Rose. However, I do really like Daisy Jane.

Personally, I find Sue-Ellen a bit dated (I also know a girl who has this name and does not like it), and McKenzie does seem childish to me.

Here are some other suggestions:

  • Samantha Lily
  • Jasmine Rose
  • Caitlyn Lily “Cades”
  • Daisy Isabella
  • Sophia Willow
  • Olivia Jasmine
  • Sophia Scarlett (a more sophisticated sounding alliteration imo)
  • Samantha Jane

Maybe pick some names from your list you have right now you want as Firsts, and some you want as Middles, and then work on rearranging them into the perfect names.

Here’s a bit of advice: If I were you, I would bring your list of names to your parents much before the due date. That way, they can’t say at the last minute, “We don’t like these, so we’re going to pick a name.” Maybe when you present the final few names you choose, you could then offer a compromise: your parents can pick one of the names you have chosen, and therefore they will feel like they have equally ‘picked’ your baby’s name. Ultimately, you SHOULD get the final say, though.

I would also second that you should seek help, may in a school guidance counselor or another trusted adult. I know in a lot of places you have legal rights, but knowing your rights whether you want your parents to take over or not would definitely be valuable for you. Also, having open communication with your parents through an unbiased person (like a school counselor) would also be helpful.

Good luck, and please come back to us with the name you’ve chosen and whether you’ll get to use it, as well as how you’re doing :slight_smile: I hope everything goes very well for you & your baby!

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Hello [name_f]Sera[/name_f]! I definitely want to emphasize how strong you are to be handling this with grace and maturity. I definitely think that you should be able to name your daughter. You are the parent, and even though your parents will assist you in raising your daughter until you are finished with school, she is still your child and you are her mom. From your post, it sounds like you definitely want to raise your daughter, and are concerned about your parents attempting to gain permanent guardianship of her. In the next few weeks, I would definitely recommend learning about your legal rights as her mother, to prevent them from doing so. Graceanne [name_f]Louise[/name_f] needs to come off the list immediately. I agree with the previous posters about that: The name is your choice. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though you are a minor, your parents do not have the right to name your child. I find it quite the double standard that your parents find you mature enough to have a child, but not to name them. You are both.

My favorites on your list:
[name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabella[/name_f]: This is such a beautiful name. [name_f]Mia[/name_f] is modern, tailored, and bright, and [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] is a gorgeous, classic choice. I really like how they flow together, and I think they work beautifully on a young girl and an adult woman.
[name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f]: This name fits one of my favorite patterns within your naming style: A modern first paired with a classic middle. [name_f]Summer[/name_f] is a beautiful, sweet, evocative name, and [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is one of my favorite classics ever.
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Katherine[/name_f]: This is my favorite name on your list! I really love it. [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] and [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] are both mature, sophisticated, timeless classics, and sound elegant together. What a great name!
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f]: I really love this too. I like alliteration a lot, and the nickname JJ is wonderful! [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] is a very mature and classic choice, one that I don’t see often on Nameberry but would like to see more of. [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f] is such a serene, beautiful nature name.
Best of luck throughout these next few months. You’ll be in my thoughts, and please keep us updated if at all possible.

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Hii! I just want to say thank you for everyone that has helped with tips and advice and helping me with the name!

I don’t think my parents are having double standards becuz they dont think i’m old enough to have a baby either but they didn’t and refuse to consider abortion and said they won’t give their first grandchild up for adoption! the only thing I feel is double standard is becuz yes I made a mistake and it is a HUGE one but my brothers have made mistakes too! and big ones but they get forgiven! my dad only speaks to me when he has to now when before I was his little girl! and he even called me his golden child becuz I was never difficult or did anything bad and got good grades! my eldest brother barely graduated from high-school than dropped out of college after the second year and my second eldest brother is facing military school after he was kicked out of the 2nd school in two years! i made a mistake and yes, sex happened more than once but it was only one time without protection cuz we forgot and at times it feels i’m being the shame of the family.

they took me out of school, I was allowed to go til i was six months along then the school said I had to leave til the pregnancy is completed and when i’m healed they’re enrolling me into a different school so i’m not bullied anymore one that even helps support teen-moms and has parenting classes in their system.

but I do think it is a good idea to come with a compromise! I’m not really a huge fan of Grace but Louise is a family/tradition name for the first born girls in the family.

my mom is Nancy Louise, my Grandma is Margaret Louise & I’m Sera Louise so I am willing to have that as a second name but that’s all, just like for the boys Nicholas is a tradition name and I don’t want to devide things anymore than they are but I am cranky that I can’t even have the cot/bassenette thing in my room.

I have rethought about my name chioces after taking in everything that has been said and I have narrowed it down to some but I’m having trouble narrowing it down more than it is becuz I don’t want to have so many choices that I really like, maybe bring it down to three.

Daisy Louise Mae
Theodora Louise
Samantha Louise Skye
Sophia Louise
Willadeen/Willadean Louise
Mia Louise
Rose Louise Jane

I know Theodora isn’t in my original list but I heard it in a show i’m watching on Netflix and there is something about it that I really like and I liked it more than some of my other choices, it strikes me as being related to someone strong and independant but I donno if maybe it is a bit too boy-ish.

I know my parents want the best for me before this happened I wanted to be one of three things, a nurse, a vet or a teacher and my mom really wants me to finish school and get a degree becuz she had to drop out of highschool and give up her dreams becuz she got pregnant and my dad only graduated highschool and just got a job and married my mom to support his responsibility and they both want their kids to go to college, I dont think they want to take baby perminately they just dont want me to feel like i have to give up my life becuz i made a mistake which created one.

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[name_m]Hi[/name_m] [name_f]Sera[/name_f] :slight_smile:

Like others have said, I’m sorry you’re having to go through all of this. Regardless of how old you are, it is rough, but being 15 makes it all the more hard. I wish you strength and peace through this process.

For the name, I have two primary thoughts on it. The first is: yes, you are the mother, and it is your choice what your child is named. If you are old enough to have a child, you are old enough to name it, regardless of what your parents say. I think your list shows, even, that you are capable of choosing a beautiful name, not only just one that ‘will do’. Only choose a name that you love. My second thought is this: Although it sounds as if your parents are being rather rude about the whole thing, if you like any part of the name they suggested, you might consider using it as part of the name. You are under no obligation to do so, but it might be a nice way to honor them and the support they will hopefully be giving you in the future. I will repeat: you are under no obligation to do so and I’m not saying you should, just if you happen to like it, it might be a way to tie your family together rather than divide it. There are times to stand your ground, and there are times to bend. You will only know which is right when looking at the bigger picture and considering what is at stake with either decision. It’s a hard thing to determine.

Now for your names. I think you have some real possibilities in there.

Names I think have great potential:
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f]
[name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Willow[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Katherine[/name_f]
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] - not as big on [name_f]Jane[/name_f] (personal preference), but love [name_f]Daisy[/name_f]. See paragraph below

Ones that work:
[name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u] - I’m personally not a fan of [name_u]Skye[/name_u] in the middle
[name_f]Willow[/name_f] Cades - Not big on Cades
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f] (I like the idea of JJ being a nickname) - I’m not as big of a fan of the flow on this name, but I think it is a very mature choice for a name and JJ is cute.
[name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabella[/name_f]

Ones I personally do not care for:
McKenzie [name_f]Kate[/name_f] (Kennie for short) - McKenzie to me is a bit ‘trendy’ in a bad way
[name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Sue[/name_f]
[name_f]Sue[/name_f]-[name_f]Ellen[/name_f] [name_f]Jade[/name_f]
[name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f] - I think [name_f]Summer[/name_f] is likely to be more accepted than [name_u]Winter[/name_u] by your parents as it is a bit more established as a name.
Willadeen/Willadean [name_f]Lilly[/name_f]

I personally love the first name of [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] for your child. It is a part of one of your favorite names and the flower symbolizes childbirth, motherhood, and new beginnings. Giving it to your daughter could have great meaning in declaring your new motherhood and your new beginning with your child. If you are inclined, you could take [name_f]Grace[/name_f] from Graceanne to make the name [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f]. I think that is a gorgeous name, and would promote grace in your daughter and family which is what will pull all of you through. Only do this, though, if you love the name combination or would like to do it. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t feel obligated to choose it to appease your parents. I think it could be a great olive branch to them, though, in this whole situation <3

Best of luck with your names. Do let us know how it turns out!

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I agree with pp. I think seeking advice from a social worker is a wise idea. I think your parents mean well, but maybe pushing you in an uncomfortable place.

I also think because your parents may be more involved than if you were 25, they should be more involved in the naming process. You have the right to decide how much involvement they get, but the name should ultimately make you happy. I would bring 2 or 3 to the table so they feel like they have a say, but in reality any of the the options would make you happy. Of course, if there is one name that you feel more connected to, go with that and let them help with a middle name.

SUGGESTIONS:
Going against the trend here, but I would remove [name_f]Olivia[/name_f], [name_f]Mia[/name_f] and [name_f]Sophia[/name_f]. [name_f]Lovely[/name_f] names and crowd pleasers, however even at 15 you have a style and I personally feel these showcase it as well.
McKenzie- trendy
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Molly[/name_f] and [name_f]Willow[/name_f] I would keep. [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] is lovely
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] is very 1990s… maybe [name_u]Juniper[/name_u] or [name_f]Jemima[/name_f]? Still get JJ and has southern [name_u]America[/name_u] flair

I would add
[name_f]Louisa[/name_f]- southern charm, and similar to [name_f]Louise[/name_f] that your mum loves.
[name_f]Georgia[/name_f]? Maybe too American, but [name_f]Georgette[/name_f] and [name_f]Georgina[/name_f] are nice variants and [name_u]Georgie[/name_u] is very cute
[name_f]Pearl[/name_f]/[name_f]Opal[/name_f]- remind me of [name_f]Jade[/name_f], but more southern charm
[name_f]Susanna[/name_f]- an alternative to [name_f]Sue[/name_f]
[name_f]Laurel[/name_f]- another nature name
[name_f]Sally[/name_f]-if [name_f]Molly[/name_f], [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] and [name_f]Sue[/name_f]-[name_f]Ellen[/name_f] appeal to you, [name_f]Sally[/name_f] fits right in. Plus it’s a diminutive of [name_f]Sarah[/name_f]/[name_f]Sera[/name_f], so that’s an added bonus

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Hii! I just want to say thank you for everyone that has helped with tips and advice and helping me with the name!

I don’t think my parents are having double standards becuz they dont think i’m old enough to have a baby either but they didn’t and refuse to consider abortion and said they won’t give their first grandchild up for adoption! the only thing I feel is double standard is becuz yes I made a mistake and it is a HUGE one but my brothers have made mistakes too! and big ones but they get forgiven! my dad only speaks to me when he has to now when before I was his little girl! and he even called me his golden child becuz I was never difficult or did anything bad and got good grades! my eldest brother barely graduated from high-school than dropped out of college after the second year and my second eldest brother is facing military school after he was kicked out of the 2nd school in two years! i made a mistake and yes, sex happened more than once but it was only one time without protection cuz we forgot and at times it feels i’m being the shame of the family.

they took me out of school, I was allowed to go til i was six months along then the school said I had to leave til the pregnancy is completed and when i’m healed they’re enrolling me into a different school so i’m not bullied anymore one that even helps support teen-moms and has parenting classes in their system.

but I do think it is a good idea to come with a compromise! I’m not really a huge fan of [name_f]Grace[/name_f] but [name_f]Louise[/name_f] is a family/tradition name for the first born girls in the family.

my mom is [name_f]Nancy[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f], my Grandma is [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] & I’m [name_f]Sera[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] so I am willing to have that as a second name but that’s all, just like for the boys [name_m]Nicholas[/name_m] is a tradition name and I don’t want to devide things anymore than they are but I am cranky that I can’t even have the cot/bassenette thing in my room.

I have rethought about my name chioces after taking in everything that has been said and I have narrowed it down to some but I’m having trouble narrowing it down more than it is becuz I don’t want to have so many choices that I really like, maybe bring it down to three.

[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] [name_f]Mae[/name_f]
[name_f]Theodora[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u]
[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
Willadeen/Willadean [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Rose[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]

I know [name_f]Theodora[/name_f] isn’t in my original list but I heard it in a show i’m watching on Netflix and there is something about it that I really like and I liked it more than some of my other choices, it strikes me as being related to someone strong and independant but I donno if maybe it is a bit too boy-ish.

I know my parents want the best for me before this happened I wanted to be one of three things, a nurse, a vet or a teacher and my mom really wants me to finish school and get a degree becuz she had to drop out of highschool and give up her dreams becuz she got pregnant and my dad only graduated highschool and just got a job and married my mom to support his responsibility and they both want their kids to go to college, I dont think they want to take baby perminately they just dont want me to feel like i have to give up my life becuz i made a mistake which created one.

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I agree with what most have said already: that you should try and compromise on the name if possible, but you should absolutely be included, and I don’t feel this baby should be Graceanne since that name was meant for another baby. This baby should have her own name. Also, if you feel your interests are not being met, I would consider a social worker or someone who can advise you legally, but if this is only a temporary guardianship and you’re already 15, it may be something you tolerate for a few years and then take on the role of mother at that time. Your parents seem to want you to have more than they did and not have to make the same sacrifices, and not every parent would be willing to do that, so I think meeting them in the middle might make things easier for everyone involved. Things may be strained for a while between you and them, especially with your father, but that doesn’t mean they always will be. Time will help and the presence of the baby in their lives, who all of you will love, will bring you closer together again. I think you are very mature for dealing with all of this so well. It is not easy.

I like several of your names: [name_f]Olivia[/name_f], [name_f]Sophia[/name_f], and [name_f]Mia[/name_f] are lovely–but they are also very popular, and for good reason, so if that doesn’t bother you then maybe add them to your shortlist.
[name_f]Theodora[/name_f] I like very much, it is a strong name, not too masculine to me, and could definitely be a good fit. Were you watching The Haunting of [name_m]Hill[/name_m] House on Netflix? There is a character with that name in the show and book. She is very strong-willed and independent. Not a bad namesake, for sure.
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] I love.
If I were you, this would be my shortlist. [name_f]Olivia[/name_f], [name_f]Sophia[/name_f], [name_f]Mia[/name_f], [name_f]Theodora[/name_f], and [name_f]Daisy[/name_f]. I would pair them with [name_f]Louise[/name_f], as a compromise, since it is a family name you all share (yourself included), it makes more sense to continue that tradition if you are willing, and I think it would mean a lot to your parents, more than using [name_f]Grace[/name_f] or [name_f]Anne[/name_f] in the middle would. So maybe consider that, or give her a double middle: [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Katherine[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]. [name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabella[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]. [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]. [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]. [name_f]Theodora[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] or [name_f]Theodora[/name_f] [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f], even. You have some great options here. Best of luck!

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I really love [name_f]Theodora[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]! I think that’s a great way to incorporate one of the names your parents love with a name that you love, too. Plus, it sounds vintage and cool, but also timeless and sophisticated. I also love [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f], which is one of the most classic and mature choices out there. [name_f]Sophia[/name_f] is one of my favorite names because it is so elegant, but also really strong. I’m really sorry about how some of the dynamics are at your home. During this difficult time, you deserve to have people there for you who are warm and reassuring. Sure, you did make a mistake, but everyone makes mistakes- even big ones- and we still deserve to be treated lovingly and respectfully. Also, please don’t feel like you’ve brought shame upon your family. Teen pregnancy is not uncommon, and while it is difficult for everyone involved, the maturity, poise, and thoughtfulness with which you have proceeded are admirable. Being a teen parent is complex (a dear friend of mine has recently been through the journey), but you can absolutely still attend college and achieve your dream of becoming a nurse, vet, or teacher. [name_m]Trust[/name_m] in yourself and what you’re capable of. :slight_smile:

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[name_m]Hi[/name_m] [name_f]Sera[/name_f]! I can only imagine the stress you must be under right now and I’m sorry you have to go through this at such an early stage in your life. While I do think it is a tad ridiculous what your parents are requesting – I do agree with some of what the other posters about it being quite a mature move on your part to try to come to a compromise with them on the final name choice.

I will list your choices in order of what I believe would be most agreeable to least agreeable with some suggestions:

[name_f]Sophia[/name_f] [name_f]Katherine[/name_f]
[name_f]Mia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabella[/name_f]
[name_f]Olivia[/name_f] [name_f]Scarlette[/name_f] [–[name_f]Scarlet[/name_f]?]
[name_f]Emily[/name_f] [name_f]Willow[/name_f]
[name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] [–[name_f]Margaret[/name_f] or [name_f]Marguerite[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f] with [name_f]Daisy[/name_f] as a nickname?]
[name_f]Molly[/name_f] [name_f]Sue[/name_f]
[name_f]Sue[/name_f]-[name_f]Ellen[/name_f] [name_f]Jade[/name_f]
McKenzie [name_f]Kate[/name_f] [–Mckenzie [name_f]Katherine[/name_f]?]
[name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f] [–[name_f]Caitlyn[/name_f] [name_u]Winter[/name_u]?]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u] [–[name_u]Skylar[/name_u]?]
[name_f]Jessica[/name_f] [name_f]Jasmine[/name_f]
Willadeen [name_f]Lilly[/name_f] [–Willowdean [name_f]Lilly[/name_f]?]
[name_f]Willow[/name_f] Cades

Some alternatives to the names your parents like that you might enjoy better:

[name_f]Gracelyn[/name_f], Graceleigh, [name_f]Gracen[/name_f], [name_f]Graciela[/name_f], [name_f]Gracie[/name_f], [name_f]Graciana[/name_f], [name_m]Grayson[/name_m]
[name_f]Louisa[/name_f], [name_u]Lou[/name_u], Louelle, [name_f]Luella[/name_f], [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], [name_f]Lux[/name_f], [name_f]Luisa[/name_f], [name_u]Lisa[/name_u], [name_f]Luana[/name_f], [name_f]Lulu[/name_f]

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Oops – [name_m]Just[/name_m] saw the update! Those are all lovely choices. My favourites would be [name_f]Theodora[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] and [name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u]!

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I love [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_u]Winter[/name_u], and Willadean!

Other combos I like:

Willadean [name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Bea[/name_f]
[name_u]Winter[/name_u] [name_f]Louise[/name_f]
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f] [name_f]Gwendolen[/name_f]
Willadean [name_f]Mae[/name_f]/[name_f]Maeve[/name_f]

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[name_m]Hi[/name_m] [name_f]Sera[/name_f]!

While [name_f]Willow[/name_f] and [name_u]Winter[/name_u] are my favorites, I would choose [name_f]Summer[/name_f] or [name_f]Samantha[/name_f]. I like the idea of an S name for your baby. Since it will be a [name_f]Summer[/name_f] baby, I think [name_f]Summer[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u] is very pretty. I personally love the name Sunflower but I think it is waaay too far out. If I might make a suggestion…
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f] [name_u]Wren[/name_u] would be so pretty. Not to add to your list but I prefer [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] or [name_f]Savanna[/name_f] to [name_f]Summer[/name_f]. [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u] or [name_f]Savannah[/name_f] [name_f]Louise[/name_f] [name_u]Skye[/name_u] is so pretty