Hopefully I’ll be 26/27. I want to be done having kids at 35.
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I was 26 when my first was born. We’re currently ttc so I’ll at least be 30 or possibly 31 when we have our 2nd. It’s a little bit bigger of a gap than I initially wanted; originally I wanted about 3 years between our first and second, but I was so not ready when at that time. So now it’ll be closer to a 4 year age gap probably.
We’re not sure if we’re going to have 2 or 3 kids, but ideally, I think I’d want to be done by 35.
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I wanna be around 25/26 bc I really like the age gap between my mom and my brother lol ut I’d like to be done by like 35 only bc I want my kids to be pretty close in age
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We fostered a little girl when I was 24, but ended up deciding that we weren’t quite ready to to be parents. A year later we changed our minds and our son was born when I was 26. I’m definitely glad we waited and had those 2 years to get ready. It was a lot harder than we expected, but we were fine. If we had tried to raise a newborn at 24, it would have been a nightmare.
I had just turned 29 when my son was born; my husband was turning 31. I feel like it was the right time in our lives.
I hope to be 28.
I always figured I would be a young mom, like 22-23 years old. But we’ve been trying for now four years, and I am now 24, my boyfriend is 25. We definitely wanted to have all our babies before 30, but we are not sure it’s gonna play out like we wanted at first.
Slightly unrelated but reading through these comments have made me feel so much better. I just turned 24, and not only am I the only sibling of all my sisters to not have a kid, but my friends are all starting to get married and have kids too. I always planned to have my first around 26, and I’m happy to see that even that’s early for a lot of moms.
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You’ve probably had your twins by now so congrats! And happy belated Mother’s [name_u]Day[/name_u]!
Yup! She had twin girls! Twin Girls are here!
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I was pretty young, I was 21 when I had my first child. I wish I’d waited a bit longer and worked out what kind of man I was married to. [name_u]Or[/name_u] better still, not married him in the first place. I rushed into my first marriage too early. That might be the right time for some people, but not for me.
Commenting so I can “follow up” when it actually happens. I always thought I’d be around 26, but we weren’t ready to start ttc yet. Started in [name_u]Jan[/name_u] of this year with no luck yet. I’m 27 currently and will be 28 very soon.
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I’m currently almost 21, single and no children. I’d like to be around 25-27 for my first but we’ll see what the future holds!!
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I don’t have any but my best friend and MOH was 38 when she had her first and 41 when she had her second. Her husband was 31 when the first was born and 34 for the second. [name_f]My[/name_f] friend has no regrets about becoming an older first time parent as she and husband had done what they wanted in life and both had stable careers, their own home and savings.
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I am currently 20 years old, going on 21 in 5 months here.
In my mind the perfect age for me to get pregnant with baby #1 and have the first kid would have to be getting pregnant I’m thinking along the lines of 4 months after my 21st birthday and then giving birth around a month after becoming 22. This gives sufficient time for my partner and I to stack up some more money since we are fortunate enough to already have a living place secured, I get to spend the beginning part of 21 being a 21 year old (meaning if I want to try seeing what going to clubs on the weekend is like for one example), and then after baby pops out I still get to be a young adult in the sense that my body should bounce back much quicker than my mom’s, for example, did - she was 35 during much of her first pregnancy and 36 when she had me.
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I would like to have my first by 23 so I really hope everything is fine by then
And i would want at least 2 more after that probably with a 2 year age gap with the first one
I’m 30 and will be 31 when baby is born 
Always thought I’d be younger but we started trying when I was 28 and it just didn’t go our way, we ended up having IVF.
But actually now I’m pregnant, it feels like a good age. I’ve done a lot of travelling, I’m married and we’ve bought a house and I actually feel properly honestly ready now in terms of where we’re at in our lives.
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Totally agree with @KateHaynes , it makes me laugh so much when I read comments like “I definitely want to start having kids before I’m 30!” because I’m sure I used to say the exact same thing! 
I think perhaps 30 feels a lot older when you’re in your teens and early 20s, but God I actually don’t feel any different 
I’m still working out how to be an adult, I still need my mum to hold my hand sometimes, trying to get a mortgage boggled my brain 30 really isn’t that old guys, I still have friends who are living the exact same lifestyle they did in their early 20s with absolutely no intention of giving that up any time soon!
But also, we started trying when I was 28 and it took us 2 and half years and 2 rounds of IVF! And it had nothing to do with me or my age! [name_f]My[/name_f] eggs were top notch 
One thing I have learnt over the last 30 years is that you absolutely cannot plan these things, you have to go with the flow and see where life takes you 
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I answered this 2.5 years ago, saying that I would want to have had at least my first kid by age 30.
This is still the plan, but I believe I have a better understanding of my future now, due to better knowing my financial situation and lots of talks about life plans with my partner (we have been together 4 years)! We plan to get married in Spring-Autumn 2025, and will likely start trying soon after. This would hopefully lead to us having a baby in 2026, when I will be 27 years old.
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