I’ve posted a few times about names for our daughter, due in five weeks. My husband and I have truly decided on [name]Evangeline[/name], but realized we were misunderstanding each other about the middle name honoring his deceased grandmother, who I never met. I thought we were agreeing on [name]Elspeth[/name]. However I just learned that her name was [name]Elsbeth[/name]! I don’t know why I’m having such a hard time adjusting to this, because it is just one letter away from [name]Elspeth[/name], but to me it makes the name completely different. Whereas [name]Elspeth[/name] with its P seems light, like a puff of air, [name]Elsbeth[/name] with its vocal B seems clunkier. Like an incomplete [name]Elizabeth[/name]. Maybe my feelings have to do with negative associations I have with the name [name]Beth[/name], or maybe I am confused because the name I’ve been poring over in my mind – [name]Evangeline[/name] [name]Elspeth[/name] – has become so fixed to my baby with its vowel alliteration and soft consonants. But [name]Elspeth[/name]/[name]Elsbeth[/name] is “just” a middle name, and it has significance for my husband.
What do you think? Are these two totally different names? [name]Do[/name] they have the same charm? [name]How[/name] far would you take this kind of concern when deciding on a name with your partner?