Announced our name and it did NOT go well

Hello…
We had a gender reveal party this weekend where we shared our baby’s name as well. It’s a girl and we are very excited!! Our name was not well received and it has taken me days to get over the initial shock of how our family reacted to it! The name we chose is [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] and you would have thought we announced that her name is Satan Rules. They said it’s ridiculous, no one will ever hire her, and she will always be labeled poorly in society. I mean come on?! It’s 2017, people are naming their kids Hashtag! Are we truly doing her a disservice? What do you think? Our son’s name is [name_u]Omari[/name_u] [name_u]Justice[/name_u] and they didn’t think it was bad at all!

I don’t personally like [name_f]Indi[/name_f], so I might opt for [name_f]India[/name_f] instead (which I also think sounds lovely with [name_u]Omari[/name_u]), but there is nothing wrong with [name_f]Indi[/name_f] or [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f]. If you like it, use it, I don’t think it will negatively effect her life

I really like [name_f]Indi[/name_f]/[name_f]Indie[/name_f]! It’s a cute name and I think it will age fine. There are plenty of names ending in that -ee sound ([name_f]Maisie[/name_f], [name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Molly[/name_f], [name_u]Hadley[/name_u]) that are used all the time and they work just fine.

[name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is a perfectly reasonable and wearable name [name_f]IMO[/name_f]. I’m sorry your family reacted the way they did; I guess you have to figure out how much it bothers you and decide whether to stick with your guns or reconsider.

[name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] sounds perfectly acceptable to me. It’s lovely. Sure, it’s not a buttoned up classical name but it’s far from something that will hinder her in life. I think your family needs to perhaps take a look around and see what kind of names people are actually naming their children these days. [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] fits in fine, and will when she’s working and whatnot.

Edited to add: I’m an ultrasound tech. I come across tons of kids / expectant parents who’ve picked a name for their baby-to-be. More people are going with uncommon names than ever. Or “different” spellings of names (which is not my style but it’s happening a lot, adding more variety to the kids’ names pool). I hope you don’t let your family put you off [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] if it is The Name to you and your partner.

I think this is a problem people run into if they announce the name before the baby is born- people for some reason seem to be much more critical of a name if it’s in the abstract rather than bestowed upon a real person they can see and hold. I think [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is a perfectly respectable name and a good fit stylistically with [name_u]Omari[/name_u]. If it really bothers you that your family dislikes the name, you can go for something longer with [name_f]Indi[/name_f] as a nickname, as previously suggested, but I wouldn’t go with [name_f]India[/name_f]. [name_f]India[/name_f] is a controversial pick as many see the name as appropriative, but there are plenty of other options:
[name_f]Indira[/name_f]
[name_f]Indra[/name_f]
[name_f]Jacinda[/name_f]
[name_u]Linden[/name_u]
[name_m]Sindri[/name_m]
[name_f]Rosalind[/name_f]

BUT, you can’t please everyone. And you’ve clearly found a name you love. So if you can live with your family not liking your choice, then go ahead and name her [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] as planned. It’s your child, you get to pick, and nobody else has to like it. There’s nothing wrong with [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] and I certainly don’t think that name will be a hindrance to your child in any way.

Screw them -if you are excited about it then use it. As someone who based my choices on what other people preferred - name regret is real. Go with your heart. [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is sweet, fun and perfectly acceptable and even if I didn’t think that, it’s not my place to dump on you when you have clearly already chosen and are obviously happy with it. People are rude.

I love the name [name_f]Indi[/name_f]/[name_f]Indie[/name_f] and I think [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is a lovely name! I don’t think it’s ridiculous. [name_u]Omari[/name_u] [name_u]Justice[/name_u] and [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] make a really cute sibset too. I’d say stick with what you love, your family will love the baby even if they don’t love her name. And eventually they probably will come to love/like/accept the name because it will so tied to your daughter.
All the best, and congratulations on your baby girl!

[name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is super cute! I prefer it spelled [name_f]Indie[/name_f], but that’s me. I think it goes well with [name_u]Omari[/name_u] [name_u]Justice[/name_u]. (great name)

Another option is [name_f]Indira[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] nn [name_f]Indi[/name_f]. Then she’d have the option of cute and sophisticated. Good luck!

[name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is a fine name. This is why I’m against parents announcing their name choice before it’s on the birth certificate. People are unreasonably rude about names.

I think [name_f]Indi[/name_f] does seem very nickname, adding the e makes it more substantial, [name_f]Indie[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f]. I don’t see anything wrong with the name and it goes nicely with big brother’s name I like the vowel first names, with the J beginning word middles. [name_f]Indira[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is a nice alternative, I don’t like [name_f]India[/name_f], but I think you should stick with the name. They’ll come around. :slight_smile:

I think [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is wonderful for your baby girl. I prefer the spelling [name_f]Indie[/name_f]/[name_f]Indy[/name_f] but that’s just me! I also love it as a nickname for the name [name_u]Indigo[/name_u] but that might get an even worse reaction from your family.

And honestly it’s one letter away from the name [name_f]Lindy[/name_f] so I don’t understand the super negative reaction you got.

You can’t please everyone so go with the name you love!

I think it’s perfectly lovely. We liked the name [name_f]Roselind[/name_f] nickname [name_f]Indi[/name_f] but it doesn’t suit our surname. [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is very sweet and matches her brother’s name nicely!

I prefer [name_f]Indie[/name_f] spelled this way. I like the suggestion of using a “fuller” name or [name_f]Indie[/name_f] as a spelling for it.

I love [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f]! [name_u]Unique[/name_u], but not over-the-top (like Hashtag lol). I think it’s beautiful and once you have your baby, everyone will start seeing her as an [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] and come around. I’m really surprised they reacted so negatively! Can’t please everyone though, so do what you guys love.

Xx

Nothing worse than people dissing a great baby name! [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is unique, sweet, and pretty! This is exactly why I kept my baby name a secret until he was born! Once she is born I think that people will see how great it is on her and will feel like jerks for saying negative things :slight_smile:

I prefer the [name_f]Indie[/name_f] spelling but I think [name_f]Indi[/name_f] goes perfectly with [name_u]Omari[/name_u]. I don’t understand why [name_u]Omari[/name_u] is usable and [name_f]Indi[/name_f] is not :confused: Use what you like!

[name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is lovely. It has a lot of warmth and happiness to it.

I think the problem is that our parents generation had a much more limited name bank to choose from so most people ended up with the same 100 or so names. These days with sites like this, parents have inspiration from all around the world and from lots of different types of people. So the range of names being given has expanded greatly and unusual names are becoming the norm almost. Actually I don’t even think [name_f]Indi[/name_f] is that out there but that’s just me…

My family reacted the same when we made the mistake of sharing our baby boys name pre-birth. [name_m]Will[/name_m] not be doing that this time round as you can’t please everyone and it just causes unnecessary doubt and worry. We ended up calling him it anyway. My mum still makes thinly-veiled comments.

I’m so sorry you had such a bad reaction to your name pick for your baby. [name_f]Indi[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f] is a very sweet, pretty name and while it wouldn’t be my style, I wouldn’t consider it to be “out there”. And I don’t know how it’s worse than names like [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] which had gotten very popular.

Go with what you love. It’s all that actually matters.

I agree with namenculture - for some reason, people tend to be way more critical of a name if it’s not actually attached to a living, breathing human.

With that said, I grew up with a girl named [name_f]Indy[/name_f], and she seems to be getting along just fine. :wink: If you love it, go for it.