Ok so i’m 20 and i’ve picked out all the names and middle names for my future children and they have remained stable for like 3yrs now. I just adore them and i don’t want to not use them, unless future husband really doesn’t like…:sad: Is this weird? also i think my names are a bit ‘posh’ by the estimation of other people but i didn’t pick them for that reason… I don’t think that your average day person would consider them too weird or unattractive sounding though! so if that’s the case then what’s wrong with them sounding a tiny bit posh. Oh dear maybe i sound a bit insecure about myself now. And i guess i am a bit.
I don’t think it’s weird at all!
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I are 22, and we casually starting compiling a list of our favourite names when we got engaged. [name_f]Every[/name_f] time we heard a name we liked we’d tell the other one, and if we both liked it, we’d write it down. Over the years we found a list of names we loved (thankfully we have very similar tastes!), and over the last 6 months or so, we have perfected that list into our ideal names for 2 boys and 2 girls. And we don’t intend to start TTC for at least another year!
So I think it’s part of getting older and beginning to feel more maternal; at least it is for me, haha!
And although I have four names that I do adore, I won’t know my baby’s name until I meet him or her face to face, whether that name is one of our favourite names or a name we hadn’t yet even considered
By the way, great names! Especially love [name_f]Lucia[/name_f], [name_f]Iris[/name_f] and [name_u]Rowan[/name_u]
Oh I’ve done this too. I’m 23 this year and my husband and I are pretty much set with like 6 names for each gender. And they’ve stayed the same for years now. We had [name_f]Persephone[/name_f]'s name picked out for like half a year before I even got pregnant.
And I like some of your names. I like [name_f]Lucia[/name_f] (but I say loo-sha), [name_f]Iris[/name_f] and [name_f]Kitty[/name_f] as a nn. I know a [name_f]Kitty[/name_f] whose real name is [name_f]Antoinette[/name_f] (has nothing to do with her name at all )
And I love [name_u]Tristan[/name_u] and [name_u]Rowan[/name_u] for boys.
I’ve been planning to name a son [name_m]Edmund[/name_m] since I was in grade 3, so no, I don’t think it’s weird. I am, however, quite aware that my future husband may hate all my names and we’ll be starting from scratch. As attached as I am to my favourite names, I’ve grown to love the idea of a compromise name (this is in my ideal world with an agreeable husband). I think the process of picking a name with someone I love, and coming to a consensus for what will be a piece of both our hearts is quite exciting… but wow, that just sounds ridiculous. I think I have a lot of faith in my future naming partner
Until then, I’ll enjoy names as a hobby, and not necessarily as a fantasy… it makes the nearly inevitable “Ew, no, I am not naming a child [name_m]Marius[/name_m]” conversation a little less painful.
Not weird at all =) I am 23 and have been compiling names for years. I think its kind of along the same lines of how most girls enjoy fantasizing about their future weddings etc. Its kinda like playing house…in your head. You imagine up all the characters =) Plus, I also want to be prepared and have the names well thought out by the time I have a child…that child will wear their name their whole life…its only respectful to have given it lots of thought =)
Hubby doesnt think its odd either…he says he thinks its actually logical!
I don’t think it’s weird (but, of course this is Nameberry…we’re all probably a little on the weird side). However, I would try not to get so attached that you’re unwilling to consider alternatives, because your future SO may not be into them, or may have ideas of their own.
I second what thatkathryngirl said. I’m so glad to see that there are so many berries in their early 20s (I’ve been thinking that my naming obsession is unusual this whole time.) I’m 21 and have a pretty solid list, though nothing is set in stone. [name_f]My[/name_f] SO is… very traditional when it comes to names and doesn’t like any of the names that I like.
It’s definitely not weird! I’m 15, and don’t even have a boyfriend or anything, and I’ve pretty much got my future children’s names picked out (and I’m not planning on having children for at least 10 years). I’m just hoping, by some strange coincidence, whoever I end up with will like the same names I do; at least for fns, and especially for boys!
No. I’m waiting on input from the other parent. There are a few names I’m ready to fight him for if the occasion requires it though.
Ditto. I have a few names I like but nothing set in stone.
In the end, I think it will come down to either looking for compromise names that both parents like or each parent taking a turn at naming children (following some reasonable criteria like names within a certain popularity range and nothing too trendy).
I have an eclectic taste in names so I can roll with the punches depending on the other parents naming style.
I don’t think it’s weird (but I’ve been planning to name a son [name_m]Henry[/name_m] since the start of ever). [name_f]My[/name_f] fiance, however, does not share my sentiments. He’s agreed to [name_m]Henry[/name_m] if we use his name for the middle. Yay! Since he doesn’t love [name_m]Henry[/name_m], I’ve agreed that he gets to choose the second boy’s first name and I get to choose the middle. We’ve talked about girls’ names too, and we have a favorite, but he’s kind of over it all. He thinks my name obsession is kinda creepy and prefers to take life one step at a time. I’ve heard way too often “[name_m]How[/name_m] about we wait until we’re actually pregnant to talk about names?” Umm, because I want to choose it now as well as our child’s other twelve siblings’ names?
I started writing name lists as a child. For instance playing ‘teacher’ and then for hours making the perfect role call.
[name_f]My[/name_f] lists have changed as some names have gotten popular. For instance 14 years ago I loved [name_m]Jax[/name_m] from my soap opera… but 4 years ago it started getting popular. I feel like even though my names have changed, I like the same style. [name_f]Angelina[/name_f] changed to [name_f]Jacqueline[/name_f] to [name_f]Emmaline[/name_f] to [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f].
I also don’t want to run into mismatched names. I’m so glad my husband is go with the flow. Right now I’m mainly working on middle names to go with my first names.
I love to think about what I’m going to name my children! But I also think that I’ll probably just see what feels right when the time comes. I would love to adopt in the future, so some of my children may already have names when I get them. So much for figuring out the perfect sibset right now!
I’m seventeen, and I do this. See: my signature. I don’t know how my future husband will feel about them, though. Hopefully, he’ll find my name obsession endearing!
All of my names are very flexible (or so I claim). So, like, if my future DH (FDH?) doesn’t like [name_m]Timothy[/name_m] [name_m]Bram[/name_m] and doesn’t like [name_m]Theodore[/name_m] [name_m]Penn[/name_m], but likes [name_m]Timothy[/name_m] and [name_m]Penn[/name_m], well, that’s okay! [name_m]Timothy[/name_m] [name_m]Penn[/name_m] it is! I don’t think it’ll be quite that easy, but a girl can dream!
[name_m]Callen[/name_m] has been our chosen boy name for over a year now. It used to be [name_m]Callen[/name_m] [name_m]Jax[/name_m], but I felt like [name_m]Jax[/name_m] was way too trendy, and so now it’s [name_m]Callen[/name_m] [name_m]Archer[/name_m]
Girl names have been more complicated. I picked out [name_f]Violet[/name_f] when I was about 7 or 8, when I heard it on [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] and the Chocolate factory. The boyfriend isn’t a fan, but he says if I really don’t like anything he likes, he could learn to love it. So, it’s our back up plan
I heard of [name_u]Everly[/name_u] for the first time when I was 14, and I really liked it. I suggested it to my boyfriend, and he really liked it. It came down to [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]/[name_f]Emalyn[/name_f]/[name_u]Evelyn[/name_u]/[name_u]Everly[/name_u] and [name_u]Everly[/name_u] is my favorite! It’s [name_u]Everly[/name_u] [name_f]Brynn[/name_f] for now, but the middle could change.
I love thinking about my future kids names! It’s so much fun for me, and my friends feel the same. They don’t love naming as much as I do, but my best friend has decided on [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] [name_u]Kennedy[/name_u], and [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] [name_u]Seth[/name_u] for a boy, and my other friend has decided on [name_m]Tobias[/name_m] for a boy, and [name_u]Wren[/name_u] for a girl. And we are all 18! So I think naming even when you don’t have any plans for children is very common
I’ve had several names lately that I’ve found perfect for my future children such as:
[name_u]Ashton[/name_u] [name_u]Michael[/name_u]
[name_m]Luke[/name_m] [name_u]Hayden[/name_u]
[name_f]Madeline[/name_f] [name_f]Amelia[/name_f]
& [name_f]Chloe[/name_f] [name_f]Grace[/name_f]
I find that even if I were to stick to these names now in a few years I’m sure I’d change my mind. Although I would hate it if my future husband didn’t like normal names and wanted to name them after characters from the [name_m]Lord[/name_m] The Rings or something strange like that. I did have a boyfriend who wanted to name his daughter with a Japanese name from an anime show he liked to watch. He’s not even [name_f]Asian[/name_f] and he wanted to give them a name that didn’t even reflect the culture or be semi normal. Weird!!!
I am 17 years old, obviously very far away from having any children whatsoever, and I have it all planned out. [name_f]My[/name_f] first son will be [name_u]Seth[/name_u] [name_m]Joshua[/name_m] and my second son will be [name_m]Gordon[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m]. Beyond that, we’ll have the choice of [name_u]Kai[/name_u], [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m], and [name_u]Elias[/name_u]. For girls, the top three I have picked out are [name_f]Melody[/name_f] [name_u]Ray[/name_u], [name_f]Joanna[/name_f] [name_f]Kathryn[/name_f], and [name_f]Tessa[/name_f] [name_f]Diane[/name_f]. If we have more than three girls, [name_f]Clarissa[/name_f] & [name_f]Lynette[/name_f]. The list has stayed that way for several years now!
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Not weird but husbands can be…lol. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband tends to veto most names I mention.
I have a lot of pets (chameleons and geckos) and go through names relatively quickly, so I have a notepad on my phone where I jot down all the cool names I hear as I come across them. And then if I’m on the plane or something is when I sit and filter through them, and delete the ones I don’t like anymore or don’t like once I think about them a little more.
I never name my pets anything cutesie, so I get to test out names on them and see how much I like them for day-to-day life before considering them for children. So say I love the name [name_f]Azura[/name_f], if I have a chameleon named [name_f]Azura[/name_f] I can see how easy it is to live with, to call her every day, to explain it to the vet receptionist over the phone, etc. If it’s difficult to live with I may stop considering it for children.
But at any rate, I don’t think it’s weird to start thinking about it. It’s one of the best (or worst) things you can do for your child, so picking a good name is vital. It can make being taken seriously or getting a position of power easier, or it can make life harder. So making the right choice is important.
Edit - The only thing I find a little weird is that people seem to have names picked out, complete with middle and even second middle names! I don’t care to think that far ahead, since middle names may be heavily influenced by my or his family so I don’t see the point in putting together entire names.
I don’t think it’s weird! I’ve been writing name lists since I was about 13 years old but have always been interested in names - naming dolls, playing teachers etc. [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] is my favourite boy’s name and luckily my partner has agreed so I’ll hopefully one day get to use that. [name_f]My[/name_f] partner likes names that are quite quirky and different, which fits well with my style too. His favourites are [name_m]Barnaby[/name_m], [name_m]Rupert[/name_m] and [name_m]Casper[/name_m], and I like all three names with [name_m]Casper[/name_m] being my favourite. He’s not too interested in girl’s names really, and isn’t particularly keen on Greek names like I am. However, we have decided that [name_f]Matilda[/name_f] will likely be the name of our first daughter, followed by [name_f]Beatrix[/name_f] and [name_f]Arabella[/name_f]. I’ve managed to push my favourite Greek names into the middle names spots, woop!