ASHER...For a girl~Discussion of the Day (by name-guru)

Hello berries!

Today’s name is [name]Asher[/name]! What are your thoughts on the name [name]Asher[/name] for a girl? [name]Do[/name] you prefer it as [name]Asha[/name] or any other variation? [name]Do[/name] you think it sounds too much of a boys name? What does it remind you of? [name]Do[/name] you know of any girl [name]Asher[/name]'s? What are your favourite pronunciations, variations middle names and close names?

Let’s get discussing!

name-guru x

I think it could work, though I would not use it. I love it as a boy name too much! I remember a few months back someone asked what people thought about using it on a boy and tons of people were ripping her to shreds for it.

At this rate Nameberry should start a message board for “[insert boys’ name here] on a girl?!” I don’t think this is even the first time [name]Asher[/name] has been mooted as a girls’ name. Second verse, same as the first: [name]Elliot[/name], [name]James[/name], [name]Carter[/name], [name]George[/name], [name]Butch[/name], [name]Rambo[/name], and, yes, [name]Asher[/name], are boys’ names. Using these names on a girl is exactly as ridiculous as naming a boy [name]Jane[/name], [name]Emily[/name], [name]Maria[/name], [name]Lily[/name], or [name]Isabel[/name]. And if you would use a boys’ name on a girl but not a girls’ name on a boy, please stop for a moment and ask yourself why. (Hint: internalized misogyny might have something to do with it!)

[name]Asher[/name] on a girl: No. [name]Asha[/name] on a girl: Yes.

I love [name]Asher[/name] for a boy. Or just [name]Ash[/name].

I love [name]Asha[/name] and [name]Aisling[/name] (pr. ash-ling) for a girl, but they have different backgrounds from each other and from [name]Asher[/name] as well. I don’t tend to think of [name]Asher[/name]/[name]Asha[/name] as interchangeable.

I don’t like [name]Ashley[/name] as much for a boy as much as [name]Ash[/name]/[name]Asher[/name] or for a girl as much as [name]Asha[/name] or [name]Aisling[/name]. I think I’m just a bit burnt out on -leys.

No. And I’ll tell you why:

Some parents like softer sounds for their sons. Some parents like named that are slightly feminine sounding.
Some parents like the name [name]Ashley[/name], which was legitimately male, but then it started to be used on girls, and it spiked a massive trend. Then it was the number one girls name in [name]America[/name]. Then it became unaccepted to name your son [name]Ashley[/name], even though it was a male name.
And then many parents have had gloss over a lovely name for their son because he would be ridiculed, and teased, and they’d receive massive amounts of side eye for it.

And then they turned to other [name]Ash[/name] names. [name]Asher[/name] being one of them.
And then balance was returned, some what.

And if [name]Asher[/name] begins to go to the girls, then there will be one less lovely [name]Ash[/name] names left for a boy to have without issue.

It is a BOYS name for a reason. I do not agree with it being used on girls, ever. Leave it alone, there are several wonderful girls names to choose from, [name]Asher[/name] doesn’t need to be an option, and it really isn’t.
Use [name]Ashley[/name] instead and nickname her [name]Asher[/name] if you’re that set on it.

Boys names on girls cause issues on paper, and it’s tiresome. I don’t view it as progressive, I view it as incredibly regressive.


To east93 and augusta_lee

I think you are being incredibley rude. I believe that [name]Asher[/name] sounds more feminine than masculine, but love it on either.
I don’t understand why people need to use such rudeness when expressing their thoughts. A simple “no-how about this” would be a little more respectful! But thankyou stripedsocks and anna.bliss for being more understanding.

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I fail to see the rudeness you’re alluding to in our posts, I provided an explanation as to why I did not like it. I did not insult you, nor the name.

The sound of a name doesn’t determine if it’s meant for males or females. If that was the case then [name]Gertrude[/name] would be used on boys, and [name]Andrea[/name] wouldn’t be a legitimate Italian male name.

I never said that the sound of it should make it a female name I simply said that it sounded feminine (not stating that it was a feminine name) and I also said that I love it for either.

My first exposure to [name]Asher[/name] was in the Bible as the father of one of the 12 tribes of [name]Israel[/name], so it’s a man’s name to me.
I have a friend named [name]Asha[/name] “aw-sha” so I love it. It doesn’t relate the [name]Asher[/name] as I pronounce it “ash-er”

I love the Hebrew names Asherah and [name]Ashira[/name] for girls, “a-sheer-a or asher-ah”. Asherah is a Semitic goddess while [name]Ashira[/name] means “I will sing”

I really don’t like this line of thought that if a name “sounds” soft it’s feminine. It’s kind of offensive. My 100% female name doesn’t “sound” soft does that mean I have a masculine name? [name]Asher[/name] may “sound” soft but that does not negate that it is a man’s name. Softness does not equal female.

Listen; as you said that you heard it first as a mans name, I heard it first as a female name, so therefore my thoughts are obviously different from yours-I also never said that it sounds soft and therefore feminine! I was really hoping for a discussion where people could express their POSITIVE feelings on the name and not draw on any negatives and openly disagree with other people’s opinions!

A discussion (how you labelled this thread) tends to be where you openly agree or disagree with other people’s opinions and give reasons why, which everyone has.

    • I think it’s a nice name overall. I can see it on a girl though I like it on a boy better, maybe because the name [name]Ashley[/name] is mostly male in my country. However my favourite [name]Ash[/name] name for a boy or a girl, equally, is just plain [name]Ash[/name]. :slight_smile: There’s also [name]Ashton[/name] and [name]Ashby[/name]. I also like [name]Aislinn[/name] for a girl, but not [name]Ashlyn[/name].
    • Someone is ahead of you because there is an Australian actress called [name]Asher[/name] Keddie.
    • I think the true internalised misogyny is people shying away from a name for a boy just because it’s been used on a girl. Some people can’t stand the thought of their son sharing a name with a girl. Dunno why.

Is it a discussion with only room for positives and no negatives and no disagreement?

I’m sorry you feel hurt but you did ask what we thought?

I mean just taking them in order:

Do you think it sounds too much of a boys name? What does it remind you of? Do you know of any girl Asher’s? What are your favourite pronunciations, variations middle names and close names?

  1. Yes.
  2. The Tribe of [name]Israel[/name].
  3. Yes, but I also know girl [name]Kyle[/name] and girl Michaels. I know more male Ashers than female, especially once you get to adult/senior citizen age brackets and not new babies. [name]Asher[/name] is relatively fresh to the mainstream; it’s traditional use is thoroughly male.
  4. I like [name]Asha[/name]/[name]Aislinn[/name]/[name]Aisling[/name] for girls, I think they’re super cute. But I don’t like “[name]Asher[/name]” itself for a girl.

I don’t mean to be mean. But I’m not sure what you were looking for, if not people saying what they thought of it?

My favourite androgynous-sounding Biblical names for girls are [name]Noa[/name] and [name]Michal[/name]. Or [name]Tamar[/name], if you think [name]Tamar[/name] sounds manly, which I’ve heard some people do. I might be a bit of a traditionalist in some ways, though many many people on Nameberry don’t like [name]Noa[/name] on girls either. :slight_smile:

Nobody’s going to like all your names, or all my names, or all of anything, I don’t think anyone is trying to be mean? I don’t get mad when people don’t really like my names so I hope you can forgive me for not really being all about [name]Asher[/name] for a girl.

And I think I sort of put it wrong when I said “openly disagree”-anyway no more talk of that haha!

There is an Australian actress who’s first name is [name]Asher[/name], it suits her. The first time I heard the name [name]Asher[/name] was when I heard her name, so for ages I thought it was actually a girls name! I now also know an [name]Asha[/name] and I have known an [name]Aislinn[/name] for a long time too. All great names in my opinion. I am usually opposed to the whole boys names on girls thing, but this one doesn’t bother me because [name]Asher[/name] has a soft sound and can sound feminine, unlike [name]Maxwell[/name], [name]James[/name] etc…

Sorry, I Only just saw this:)- I didn’t mean for anything to happen, I was in a mood already then anything I read, I read it in my own angry tone, so I took it all personally. :slight_smile:

Yes! We seem to share the exact opinion haha!

As a Polish-Australian, I grew up hearing the “[name]Asher[/name]” sound used on women all around me, in the pet form of [name]Joanna[/name], “[name]Asia[/name]” (kinda sounds more like [name]Usher[/name] though with the accent.) So for quite a while I associated it with the female persuasion. The only [name]Asher[/name], in that spelling, that I’ve ever known was the brother of girls that went to my school. But because they were South African Jews with strong religious beliefs I will always associate the male usage of [name]Asher[/name] as somewhat Jewish, and would find it a smidgen weird if it were used outside of this realm. In the same way I guess if I named my daughter [name]Lakshmi[/name] (even though I love that name).

That said, [name]Asher[/name] Keddie has to be one my favourite actresses/celebrities of all time so her name holds a special place with me. Thanks to her, [name]Asher[/name] as a girl’s names evokes intelligence, beauty and will. So I’m team female [name]Asher[/name]. And on a side note, I think Keddie would be such a cute name.

All in all, like the others, I sometimes flinch at the unisex-ification of names like [name]Elliot[/name] and [name]Christian[/name]. But I’m pretty half-half with [name]Asher[/name], kind of leaning towards the female side. I prefer [name]Archer[/name] to [name]Asher[/name] on boys.

I don’t like boys names on girls. [name]Asher[/name] is too popular for boys to work as a girls name.

I don’t like boys names on girls period. The only way I will ever find it acceptable is if you name your boy [name]Molly[/name] or [name]Susan[/name] or [name]Elizabeth[/name], etc…

Yes girls names get put on boys, but it’s very rare and often or not when people make that argument, they pick out names that are clearly unisex like [name]Robin[/name] and [name]Winter[/name]. [name]Asher[/name] is not unisex. It is a male’s name and should stay that way in my opinion.