[name_m]Hi[/name_m]! I’m looking for some opinions on the spelling of this name, for a girl? I’ve seen some people saying that “Astor” looks more masculine, and “Aster” looks feminine (this spelling is also from the flower!).
[name_f][/name_f]I prefer the spelling with an ‘o’ [name_m]Astor[/name_m], but I’m concerned someone might think of a boy when they are reading it.
I would assume [name_m]Astor[/name_m] was a boy to be honest, so I like [name_f]Aster[/name_f] more!
I agree that [name_f]Aster[/name_f] looks more feminine, but I’ve never met an Aster/Astor in real life, so I probably wouldn’t assume their gender just by their name
I’d probably pick [name_m]Astor[/name_m] as well as I’m not familiar with [name_f]Aster[/name_f]. Misgendering doesn’t bother me though.
[name_f]Aster[/name_f] definitely appears more feminine to me but if you love [name_m]Astor[/name_m] then use it, sure you’ll probably have to correct a people to begin with but once they know they’ll remember for next time 
I would agree that [name_m]Astor[/name_m] looks more masculine, but I wouldn’t be surprised if [name_m]Astor[/name_m] was a girl!
[name_m]Astor[/name_m] makes me think ‘surname’ whereas [name_f]Aster[/name_f] feels more floral, so if I was pushed to gender them, I would think [name_m]Astor[/name_m] leans more masc, [name_f]Aster[/name_f] more fem, but tbh, I see both as neutral 
[name_f][/name_f] If you like [name_m]Astor[/name_m] best, I’d go with that [name_f][/name_f]- just depends if you want it to have the flower connection or not?
[name_m]Astor[/name_m] does seem more masculine to me than feminine, but [name_f]Aster[/name_f] just looks like “faster” without the “f”, to be honest!
I prefer Aster… the -or ending feels more masculine to me, a la [name_m]Castor[/name_m] and [name_m]Pollux[/name_m]. [name_f][/name_f] I love the floral [name_f]Aster[/name_f] though!
I would say [name_m]Astor[/name_m] in more feminine actually. it’s how it was spelled in [name_m]Dexter[/name_m] so I just immediately think that spelling is feminine
My friend has a daughter, with the E version and given Esther and similar names, it reads more Fem to me. I also think it tones down the second syllable. Astor feels more AsTOR. I’m leaning E version as it feels a lighter touch, but I get that O looks a little smarter/ make tailored. Do their different meanings matter?
Edit: actually my friend’s daughter is Ast@ - another possibility (great meaning - though I get it’s more funky)
[name_f]My[/name_f] vote goes to [name_f]Aster[/name_f]!
[name_f][/name_f][name_f]Aster[/name_f] is a beautiful flower whose name derives from Greek and means ‘star.’ Changing the spelling to [name_m]Astor[/name_m] completely removes the floral and starry association, which I find truly wonderful. [name_f]Aster[/name_f] is a strong, vivacious, colorful and radiant name! I absolutely love it! [name_f]Aster[/name_f] is a gorgeous underused choice. It’s considered unisex, but I would assume [name_f]Aster[/name_f] is a girl.
[name_f][/name_f][name_m]Astor[/name_m] has a different origin and a distintc meaning [name_f][/name_f]- “hawk”. This name reminds me of [name_m]Castor[/name_m] which in my language means “beaver”. [name_m]Castor[/name_m] is a mythological name and a constellation name, but unfortunately, I’m not crazy about it. It imagine that it could be cool for a boy, a it sounds a bit harsh to me.