In my 38th week and we STILL have not made a decision! With DS we had his name picked out so early! Now I could go into labor any day now and really don’t like the “wait and see what she looks like” approach because I feel like that will just stress me out to make a decision right there.
This week we finally pretty much decided it will be [name]Avery[/name]. However, the whole reason I came up with that name was because I’ve always loved the name [name]Ava[/name] but really don’t want a name in the top five or ten. I do love [name]Avery[/name] too, but I mean [name]Ava[/name] has been my #1 name I’ve loved for about 15 years… [name]WAY[/name] before it became so popular! Now I’m having second thoughts and thinking, who cares how popular the name is if I really love that name? If we do go with [name]Avery[/name], I will likely call her [name]Ava[/name] as a nickname anyway, but at least she still has the option as an adult to go with a longer name.
So confused!!! What would you do?
[name]One[/name] other thing is that our last name is a male’s first name (think like [name]Ryan[/name], [name]Russell[/name], [name]Patrick[/name], etc.) so I want the first name to sound feminine enough to offset our masculine last name. [name]Do[/name] you think because [name]Avery[/name] is unisex (although more and more female, in my opinion) that makes a difference?
[name]Avery[/name] for sure. If you call her [name]Ava[/name] you will like it just as much but she’ll have the option, if she’s [name]Ava[/name]#5 to go by her full name. It really takes a hit on a child’s ego to be called [name]Ava[/name] P. or [name]Ava[/name] Sm. They want to be individuals. (I’m speaking from my own experience, I’m not actually totally sure how all kids with popular names feel but I’ve heard the same thing from lots of [name]Emily[/name]'s and [name]Mary[/name]'s)
[name]Ava[/name]! If your last name is a boy’s name, then [name]Ava[/name] will be very feminine and pretty next to it. Plus, like you said, you have loved [name]Ava[/name] for 15 years - and it doesn’t matter what rank the name is - what matters is that you love it!
(My DD’s name is [name]Emily[/name], and I did go back and forth on how popular [name]Emily[/name] was, but ended up choosing it because we love it.)
I would definitely go with [name]Ava[/name]! You’ve loved the name for a long time and I think [name]Ava[/name] on a girl will be so much more timeless than [name]Avery[/name]. I’m probably biased because [name]Avery[/name] is one of my top choices for a boy, but if I saw the name [name]Avery[/name] [name]Patrick[/name] or something on a name roster, I would definitely assume he was a boy!
Speaking as someone born with a top 10 name (eventually a number 1 name), having a really popular name has not affected my ego. I was not psychologically damaged or crippled because of it. I did not hate it and I have not wanted to strangle my parents because of it. This is not meant to be a rant, lol, but a popular name is just that–a popular name, not a death warrant! I think a lot of people put too much emphasis on picking an obscure or less popular name these days. In fact, I loved the popularity of my name because I was a shy kid and it was a way for me to fit in. Some of my best friends are other Ashleys and I’ve loved having inside-jokes with them that we’ve shared because of our names. To this day, I’m still excited when I come across other Ashleys. Popular names are popular for a reason–usually they’re great names. As is the case with [name]Ava[/name]. If you love it, then use it!
If you want something girly but less popular, I would suggest going with another option, like [name]Aveline[/name]/Avelaine, Avelina, [name]Aviana[/name], [name]Octavia[/name], [name]Savannah[/name], etc., with the nn [name]Ava[/name].
Go with [name]Ava[/name]! This is my favourite name and my favourite combo is [name]Ava[/name] [name]Caroline[/name].
You said it perfectly ‘go with the name you love’
I am sorry [name]Avery[/name] is just plain boring, there are other unisex names that have some pizzazz and if you want an unisex [name]Ava[/name] name then go with [name]Avalon[/name] which is much, much prettier than [name]Avery[/name].
[name]Even[/name] if there are a lot of Avas when you think of all the other popular names around you never hear people say I don’t like my name just because it is popular. And I am pretty sure that you won’t meet too many along the way. I named my daughter [name]Jacquelyn[/name] only to find that one of my friends had a [name]Jacqueline[/name] of almost the same age and yet she has never had to wade through an ocean of [name]Jacquelyn[/name]'s and the name was very popular at the time.
best wishes and hope you decide on [name]Ava[/name]
Sorry, I have never seen [name]Avery[/name] as a feminine name, so with another male name, as a last name, I think that would sound boyish.
[name]Ava[/name] is awesome and very feminine. It is popular, but maybe research to see if it is really popular in your area. If you want feminine and nn [name]Ava[/name], you might like [name]Aviana[/name]. I like nn [name]Avi[/name]. It isn’t that popular, but it is the name of [name]Amy[/name] [name]Adams[/name]’ daughter…
Well [name]Ava[/name] might be in the Top 5 but [name]Avery[/name] is on #23 and it’s been rising for years. So it might be in the Top 10 within the next 5 years… If you only wanna go with [name]Avery[/name] because of [name]Ava[/name]'s popularity, I’d stick with [name]Ava[/name]. [name]Avery[/name] is very popuar too. With a boy name as a family name I’d go with [name]Ava[/name] anyway, though I like [name]Avery[/name] as well. Although I totally get you don’t want your girl to be [name]Ava[/name] R., the same might just happen with [name]Avery[/name] R.
I wouldn’t choose either of them though I like them both because they are too popular (for my taste). But if you don’t mind that they’re both fine.
I think [name]Ava[/name] is far more feminine a name than [name]Avery[/name]. I feel your concern over popularity, though. However, I only know one [name]Ava[/name] and one [name]Avery[/name]. [name]Ava[/name] is a little girl and [name]Avery[/name] a little boy.
I agree with most pp’s. [name]Ava[/name] and [name]Avery[/name] are pretty similar on the popularity scale, and having a popular name these days doesn’t mean it’ll be absolutely everywhere. Your [name]Ava[/name] would be 1 of about 15,000 babies born this year when there are, like, 4 million babies born in the US each year–that’s still less than 1% of girls being named [name]Ava[/name]. I think a last name that’s a boy’s name merits a feminine, sweet name ([name]Avery[/name] feels pretty boyish to me, though I know a girl by that name), and you have loved it for so long that I think [name]Ava[/name]'s the keeper.
I love the name [name]Avery[/name], and see it as a girl’s name, but especially after reading the other comments? I think [name]Ava[/name] would be best - it’s your favorite name, and I would call it popular rather than trendy.
I generally love unisex names but [name]Ava[/name] really seems like the name for you ad [name]Avery[/name] just seems like a settlement. If you are going to call her [name]Ava[/name], just name her [name]Ava[/name]. If the popularity bothers her or their are a lot of other [name]Ava[/name]'s in her class she can always go by her middle name.
I love [name]Avery[/name]. And even though I know it is a unisex name, I see it as more of a feminine name. I am slightly biased in that I chose it for the mc in one of my stories, haha. But I know about 27 [name]Ava[/name]'s and the [name]Avery[/name] in my story is the only one I know. But based on the ssi, [name]Avery[/name] is getting more popular, so if you really love [name]Ava[/name] then don’t choose [name]Avery[/name] simply because it is less popular by 10-15 spots. I don’t know about the “trials and tribulations” of being one of many with the same name - I have a rather unique name - but it never seemed to bother the majority of my friends who had those kind of names. If you are really concerned, at least choose a name that isn’t so popular to get to [name]Ava[/name] because, as a pp pointed out, she could end up being an [name]Avery[/name] R. as easily as an [name]Ava[/name] R.
[name]Ava[/name] is so much prettier than [name]Avery[/name], and like the other posters said, [name]Avery[/name] is just as trendy whereas [name]Ava[/name] is classic. If you are worried about popularity I’d ditch these two altogether and go on the hunt for a new name ,I am sure you can find something! what about [name]Eva[/name]? (I love [name]Ava[/name] but [name]Eva[/name] is nice)That was #91 in 2010…
Before reading your full post I was totally backing [name]Avery[/name] but because of your surname I think that [name]Ava[/name] might be a better choice as it won’t leave any doubts that she is a girl.
I’m also inclined to back [name]Ava[/name] because it’s the name you love and if you really love it and have for so long I don’t think you should not use it just because it is popular.
My name is [name]Jessica[/name] and growing up in the 80s/90s it was very popular yet the number of [name]Jessica[/name]'s my own age I have met I could count on one hand - not one has ever been in my class in school or university - so the chance of her being one of 4 or 5 “[name]Ava[/name]'s” is unlikely [name]IMO[/name].
If you love [name]Ava[/name] but want a longer less popular alternatively have you considered [name]Avalon[/name]?
