I’ve been crazy lately. We have a plan… we’re going to start trying after the wedding, even that month I haven’t ovulated yet. I’m committed to the plan, but it just seems so far away right now. I think it’s hormonal this time. It really isn’t that long, just 15 months, but it’s all the way at the end of 15 months.
[name_m]How[/name_m] do you handle baby fever?
E and I keep a running list of why now is not a good time to have a baby. We have things we want to do before we have a baby, and every time I remind myself of that it makes me feel a little better. He wants to graduate the police academy, and right now my student loans cost as much as a baby per month. Everytime I think of something I add it to the list.
It’s tough when I see my friends posting pictures of their babies on Instagram, but I just sit back and remind myself that it’s just not the best time for me, and how good it will feel when it is FINALLY time to start trying.
[name_u]Baby[/name_u] fever never ends.
We HAVE a baby. He’s three months old. He’s our 4th. Guess who still has baby fever? Me.
lol Me too. [name_f]Persephone[/name_f] is 6 months and I’m already looking forward to [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] next year when we can start trying for number 2 (if our finances are good for it). It never goes away. When [name_f]Persephone[/name_f] was 2 months, one of our friends had her baby and I held him, teared up and looked at [name_u]Cody[/name_u]. He said “No! She’s only two months!” >.<
I deal with it by being on here and talking about names and helping other people. That, and there are 3 people in my novel who are currently pregnant and naming babies so I get it out through them 
I have this problem, and I’m eighteen without a significant other in sight. I write my characters having babies to get through it. It still kills me to see little ones and be around babies though. Gotta love those biological urges.
Not sure, I thought I knew I was done this time, but here I am with 4 kids, the youngest 3 months and I’m broody again. I know it’s just hormones, so am trying to ignore it. I’m 43 and not really wanting anymore, but my body says differently.
Right there with you! We’re getting married next winter ([name_u]Jan[/name_u]-[name_u]March[/name_u] 2015) and I don’t want to wait until after to start trying, so we’re going to be trying before the wedding. I think I’m going to plan a [name_u]January[/name_u] wedding so we can start trying that much earlier, but my birthday is in [name_u]January[/name_u], and then I think “ugh, [name_u]Christmas[/name_u], [name_m]New[/name_m] Years, Anniversary, Birthday… that’s a jam packed four weeks for the rest of our lives!” But I want a baby. I’m tired of waiting.
I’m spending my time researching, making plans, reading tons of child development books, etc. Talking with SO about our different parenting ideas. We were raised very differently, and we have a few things we don’t agree on, but we’re on board with most of the big things. The biggest thing is television. I grew up with none, he grew up with it always on. Not sure how we’re going to figure that one out.
I try not to look at too many adorable pictures of babies, because that makes it worse. I’m also reminding myself to be present, to enjoy what’s in front of me at this moment, instead of wishing for things in the future. Goals are great, as long as you’re taking the time to look around at what you’ve already accomplished.
That is a huge thing for us.
I decided to set one rule: No TV during dinner. Unless there is a major playoff game or something that he just can’t miss. TV in our house is off while dinner is being made & while we are eating.
@southern.maple: I’m exactly the same as you! I’m 19 and I know my life would change hugely if I were to have a baby; and I want to have a lot more ‘me’ time first - but at the same time, I feel so clucky! [name_f]Every[/name_f] time I see a baby I just want one, haha
Does anyone ever worry about getting the wrong egg? That sounds weird - I will love any child I have, but with [name_m]Ivan[/name_m] we both knew it was going to happen and we were both okay with it. It was still a surprise, but a kind of expected by logic, ‘this is the time’ surprise. It wasn’t the best time for us at all, one of the worst, but it felt like we were supposed to go along with what we were doing, not research natural family planning more than we had or try to prevent anything. It seems really irresponsible, but please don’t misunderstand it. It was just a few bad months.
Anyway, does anyone else ever worry about that?
I kinda get it. I think about the fact that I was born with half of all of my future children in there already, and that’s weird.
This! I have two beautiful babies, I dream of six, eight…
I remind myself of all the fun of pregnancy, which helps me wait. Also since I already have two kids I try to focus on how awesome this time is right now and try to really enjoy where they are at their respective ages. If you don’t have kids you could try the same thing where you try enjoying the parts of your life that you’ll have to give up.
When we were TTC our son I always told myself each month that it just wasn’t the right egg and by waiting another month to get pregnant I would get a better baby that ws cuter and better behaved. Now I have an adorable little boy but the behavior part didn’t work out so well.
[name_u]Baby[/name_u] fever has never gone away for me. My nephew might have calmed it a bit, but the minute he’s gone it’s back in full force. I’m not ready physically and financially, but the fever…
My first friend to have a baby gave birth two months ago. [name_u]Ever[/name_u] since then, I have had a difficult time talking to her without getting jealous and emotional.
ikfly- my fever is back full force!
My department had a lunch [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] party today, and two women on maternity leave came in with their babies. One was 8 weeks, and one was 4 weeks.
I am fevering hard right now.
I actually say down and wrote out a list and now I’m kind of terrified that I’ll get pregnant knew the reasons, but seeing it written out is completely different. We could absolutely do it, the money is there now, but we have a real chance at stability because the money’s there. I think [name_m]Ivan[/name_m] and Next Kid deserve that. So really scared, still feverish. Hormones are weird.
I don’t comment much on NB anymore since our MC this past summer but I can totally relate to this thread. When we got pregnant the first time we werent engaged and obviously not married. So when we lost the baby I decided to take that as a sign. Now I am engaged and our wedding is next Fall. We decided to shoot for a honeymoon baby which ends up working out perfectly because even though I will have AF for the wedding it sets us up to TTC that month and hopefully succeed right away. But the waiting period is killing me. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though we only have 8 months and a few days to go it is driving me nuts since I know a lot of women having babies or have babies. It makes me want to break away from the plan and just try again. But in the end I know I wouldn’t want to be pregnant for our wedding and as selfish as it sounds I want to be able to drink and party. So I keep that in mind to help me cope. Until then I just build our list of names and I am working on the plans for our wedding 
I went to my son’s class [name_u]Christmas[/name_u] party and ended up taking care of his teacher’s infant son and his room mother’s infant and toddler daughters. And all three were perfect little angels.
I’ve been fever free so long, I thought I was immune, but, [name_m]Lord[/name_m], I’ve got it bad right now!