Im am wondering what your thoughts are on the name [name_u]Jay[/name_u] for a boy. I recently had my son [name_m]Joseph[/name_m] and I want to avoid the nn [name_m]Joe[/name_m] so have been just calling him joseph,but I really love short sweet nicknames. I saw [name_u]Jay[/name_u] in the "[name_u]BLue[/name_u] names " post today and suddenly it is seeming fresh to me. I read on here that it is the main character in the Great [name_m]Gatsby[/name_m] movie so that might be a draw back if that is where everyone thinks Im getting it from. So my question is [name_f]Do[/name_f] you like [name_u]Jay[/name_u]? Is it dated? Does it work for [name_m]Joseph[/name_m]? Is [name_u]Jaye[/name_u] a girls name/spelling?
[name_u]Jay[/name_u] can be used as a nn for any boys name that begins with “J” so I think you can use it for [name_m]Joseph[/name_m] to avoid [name_m]Joe[/name_m]. [name_m]Just[/name_m] putting an “e” at the end of a name doesn’t make it “feminine”. If you want a female equivalent, there is a Hindi/Sanskrit name [name_f]Jaya[/name_f] which is similar and means “victory”.
I know two guys that go by [name_u]Jay[/name_u] a lot, real names are [name_m]Jason[/name_m], and have known at least two more through my life . So it is definitely not girly at all. And I very much doubt anyone would think you got it from The Great Gasbty. I think it would be refreshing and a nice surprise to here [name_u]Jay[/name_u] as a NN for [name_m]Joseph[/name_m],
Well, I am a female [name_u]Jay[/name_u] (short for [name_f]Jaylyn[/name_f] but I am called [name_u]Jay[/name_u] virtually all the time), and have always wondered if the majority of people consider it to be a boys’ name. I have known several other lady Jays and an equal number of male ones so I’m rather confused on the topic myself…but in your situation, I say use it 
It can work. I love the name [name_u]Jay[/name_u]. Are you also against the NN [name_u]Joey[/name_u]?
Yes I am against [name_u]Joey[/name_u], it is cute but not my style and to me, [name_m]Joe[/name_m] and [name_u]Joey[/name_u] sound a little to close to [name_u]Noah[/name_u]. My dad is [name_u]James[/name_u] and I think [name_u]Jay[/name_u] kinda reminds me of his name so I like that about it and that it reminds me of [name_u]Blue[/name_u] Jays. I am a nature lover so that’s plus. Negatives for me are that it reminds me of [name_u]Jay[/name_u] [name_m]Leno[/name_m] and not sure if I like it more than just [name_m]Joseph[/name_m]. I feel some people are going to shorten [name_m]Joseph[/name_m] no matter what so if he is called [name_u]Jay[/name_u] at least it stops the automatic assumption that he is [name_m]Joe[/name_m] for short. [name_m]Joe[/name_m] is a nice enough name just really not one of my faves I guess. I also like Seph but [name_u]Jay[/name_u] seems a little more intuitive somehow and happy sounding I guess, his initials J.A. kinda of lend themselves to [name_u]Jay[/name_u]
If you love just [name_m]Joseph[/name_m] and don’t really care for any nicknames then don’t force it. My son has a long name and before he was born we thought we would call him Caz for short, and that’s what we told our families. Well that just does not suit him, so he goes by strictly [name_m]Cassius[/name_m], and that’s what everyone calls him. I think if you call your son [name_m]Joseph[/name_m], everyone else will as well. That is until he’s older and he or his friends give him a NN.
[name_u]Jay[/name_u] can be used as a name in it’s own right and as a nickname for boy’s who have names beginning with ‘J’.
I love [name_u]Jay[/name_u] it’s handsome and has a lovely intriguing wholesome sound. [name_u]Jay[/name_u] is an attractive boy’s name. I love the association to The Great [name_m]Gatsby[/name_m] but then I love American classics (as well as [name_m]Shakespeare[/name_m]) so for me of course I love that association. [name_u]Jay[/name_u] isn’t dated, [name_u]Jay[/name_u] just feels like a classic nickname I really that [name_u]Jay[/name_u] cannot be aged just like the nickname [name_f]Lizzie[/name_f].
I adore [name_u]Jay[/name_u]! We use it some for our son [name_u]James[/name_u]. I’d say he’s [name_u]Jay[/name_u] about 30% of the time.
[name_m]Joseph[/name_m] is one of the names we are considering for our third son. We’re also not fond of the nickname [name_m]Joe[/name_m], and there is already a [name_u]Joey[/name_u] in the family. We were thinking of either [name_u]Jay[/name_u] (which would be a nice way to honour this little boy’s godfather, who is a [name_m]Jason[/name_m] known as [name_u]Jay[/name_u]) or [name_m]Jake[/name_m] (which I love, but I don’t particularly like [name_m]Jacob[/name_m]). I think [name_u]Jay[/name_u] definitely works for [name_m]Joseph[/name_m], and despite the pop culture references, the first thing I think of when I hear the name is the men we know named [name_u]Jay[/name_u] – all of whom are cool, laid-back, friendly guys.