If you decided to choose your babies’ names after they were born, how many names were on your “hospital list” (or home, or birthing center…you get the point) and what were they?
Were they pairs? Singles? Did you include middle names on your list separately?
Did you have rules for how you created your list (I.e. each partner got to add their top name as long as it wasn’t vetoed and the rest were mutual…)?
I have never actually been in this situation. But if I was I would try to have no more than 5 name options.
3-5 First Name only options. So it is not overwhelming and shows a clearer direction.
1-3 Middle Name options. I would have a goal like an honor name or a theme (ex. cultural-name).
OR
5 First and Middle Name options. Names that can be rearranged with each other to make a complete name.
I totally agree, I think any more than five would be too overwhelming, especially having just given birth. I think this is the direction we will be heading just because it’s what our parents did and we don’t feel we can make the decision without seeing our baby. That being said, it does really worry me that we would each have the “omg they totally look like…” moment with DIFFERENT names from our list
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I can see that! That may also be a great chance for a compromise. Either it makes you turn to that 3rd option and see it works better than the others. [name_u]Or[/name_u] you find a way to layer them so both work.
I don’t have kids, but personally, I think the one who gives birth should get first dibs on the name. And if the partner has one that they really like, then it can fall to a Middle Name. As long as you both agree on the list that comes with you to the hospital, I think mommy should get the final say.
I’ve never been in this situation, but I think I would try to have 3 options for firsts and 3 middles, and maybe about 5 combos you love