Hello everyone,
I have a 6-month old baby whose name I regret. I had wanted to name her after my mother but my husband wasn’t crazy about the name so we went in another direction. I never realized how much I had wanted to name her that until I hated the sound of the name we gave her after she was born. My mother’s name is one I always wanted to use for a baby girl, ever since I was little. My husband has said that he is open to changing it since it obviously means so much to me, but I don’t know if I feel comfortable naming our daughter something that I know he doesn’t love. He insists that he is ok with it, but I think he just wants this whole thing to be over. I’m going to keep the names to myself on this thread so that the names themselves don’t influence any feedback, but I appreciate any help you all might be able to offer! 
All of our family and friends know that we are contemplating this decision so nobody knows what to call her. Everyone just calls her “baby girl,” including me and my husband. It’s getting depressing… I need to make a decision. What would you do?
I say if it bothers you that much and your husband is on board- change it! 6 months is too young to understand and a drop in the bucket compared to the rest of her life. You carried that little one and brought her into the world- go with the name you love!
Change it and move on.
I’d say change it - your husband is on board, you’re not calling her by a different name and you’ll be giving her the one you love
I think you need to have a connection to the name and you need to feel happy to say “This is my daughter __” so at 6months and hubby is on board with changing it, [name_f]DO[/name_f] IT. I would say make sure you love the name and it’s not because it is the one you did not choose (not saying that is your reason as you seem to have a solid one for a change), make sure you love/like any nicknames that can be derived and initial check to make sure it doesn’t spell anything bad/rude/odd/not wanted.
If you want more help about any cold feet you can always ask the Berries with the 2 names included in the post.
But I think you need to make the choice soon so people can call her a name! <3
Thank you for your replies! It helps to hear from others when I have been driving myself crazy about this decision for months now. We tried calling her by another name because I thought maybe we could just pick another and it would make me feel better, but I still wish she had my mother’s name. My in-laws are the only ones who don’t know that we are thinking of changing it (again, in their eyes) and I know they’ll think I’m nuts but I’m willing to live with that if it means she has the name I always wanted for her. I’m more concerned with my husband not loving it.
I agree with pp. I would change it. Especially since it’s an honor name and has so much meaning. You could always use her current name as one of her middle names if it makes you feel better. ”
I definitely think you should change it as soon as possible. I think the real question is, do you use your mothers name or find a new third option.
Thank you all for your responses! We did try calling her by a new third option for a few weeks but it just isn’t sitting right with me. I feel like I have tried so hard to find another name that he and I can agree on but none of them feel right. It’s also hard because my husband suffers from a stutter so we must find a name that begins with a vowel to avoid him struggling with her name. My mom’s name happens to begin with a vowel, but my husband said he thought it was “boring” when I was pregnant which was why we went in another direction
I understand you not feeling comfortable giving her a name your husband doesn’t love. But she currently has a name you don’t love. So I say the options are: 1. Name her after your mother. Your husband may not love the name but it sounds like he understands how much it means to you and loves you, I think they good enough. 2. Come up with a different name. Without knowing the names I don’t know if your mother’s name has different variations he might like more or som other sort of compromise.
It sounds like the name you gave her is one you like a lot but the significance I just severely lacking compared to your mother’s name… So I think option#1 is probably your best bet. Good luck. X
Thank you! I actually did try to find a variation, but he shot them all down
Change it to the name you love. Sounds like he’ll be fine with it once he sees how happy it makes you. Honoring your mother is more important than whether the name is a little “boring” in his opinion.
Thank you all so much. My mother’s name is [name_f]Anna[/name_f]…what do you all think of [name_f]Mary[/name_f] as a middle name? [name_f]Mary[/name_f] is my [name_f]MIL[/name_f]’s middle name and I thought it might be nice to include. My husband says he doesn’t have a preference on the middle name but suggested [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f].
Thank you all! My mother’s name is [name_f]Anna[/name_f]…what do you think of [name_f]Mary[/name_f] as a middle name? [name_f]Mary[/name_f] is my [name_f]MIL[/name_f]’s middle name so I thought that might be nice to include. My husband said he feels indifferent toward the middle name but also suggested [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] (and [name_u]Reagan[/name_u] which I’m not sure I care for)
I know you said he didnt like any variations of [name_f]Anne[/name_f], but here are some ideas just in case you havent seen them:
[name_f]Anna[/name_f]
[name_f]Annalise[/name_f]
[name_f]Annabelle[/name_f]
[name_f]Annabeth[/name_f]
[name_f]Anya[/name_f]
[name_f]Anika[/name_f]
[name_f]Annemarie[/name_f]
[name_f]Annette[/name_f]
[name_f]Anastasia[/name_f]
I really like the idea of [name_f]Annemarie[/name_f] as it honors both of your mothers.
Thanks Oh_sunshine! The ones I had mentioned to him were [name_f]Anna[/name_f] [name_f]Claire[/name_f] and [name_f]Annabelle[/name_f]. You all have helped me realize that I do think I need to name her [name_f]Anna[/name_f], but now I just need a middle name!