My sister is adamant about naming her daughter Lucia. She doesn’t want me to use Lucy as my new name. Should I listen to her or go ahead and change my name to Lucy? My sister is pregnant with a baby girl and she will be arriving soon. I am not sure what to do.
I am considering on using Lucy as one of my middle names so I don’t have to give it up entirely.
Other names I like but not sure if they are right fit are… Amelia, Elena, Emily, Isabella, Naomi.
violet1296 - Thank you for you suggestions. Out of your suggestions I like Charlotte, Clara and Lydia. You are right I probably should let my sister have the name but it pains me to do it since I have taken so long to settle on the name Lucy.
southernbeauty - Thank you for the suggestions. Out of your suggestions I like Elise, Evelyn and Iris.
sarah1800 - Yes I have thought of keeping my given name but I just can’t. There is more to it then not liking my name but I don’t want to post it on the internet. There is deep routed pain each time someone calls me the name Laura. However I do like your suggestion of Lauren. Just changing the ending helps.
satindollface - I do want to keep the name Lucy very much and has taken me years to finally settle on the name. However I just don’t know what to do. From your suggestions I like Leah and Leila.
I think it’s best in this case to let your sister have the name. I really love [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] for you; it fits with the style of [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] and is just so classic and elegant. Some other ideas:
[name_f]Audrey[/name_f]
[name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]
[name_f]Clara[/name_f]
[name_f]Cora[/name_f]
[name_f]Eleanor[/name_f]
[name_f]Felicity[/name_f] (Maybe Lissy and a nickname? It has a very similar sound to [name_f]Lucy[/name_f].)
[name_f]Greta[/name_f]
[name_f]Hazel[/name_f]
[name_f]Ivy[/name_f]
[name_f]Jane[/name_f]
[name_f]Lydia[/name_f]
[name_f]Matilda[/name_f]
[name_f]Nora[/name_f]
[name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Scarlett[/name_f]
[name_f]Vera[/name_f]
[name_f]Violet[/name_f]
[name_f]Winnie[/name_f]
I haven’t read all your posts, but have you considered keeping your given name and using a nickname (I think you said it was [name_f]Laura[/name_f])? Maybe [name_f]Lola[/name_f] or [name_f]Lolly[/name_f]? I also like the idea of a name similar to [name_f]Laura[/name_f] like [name_f]Lauren[/name_f], [name_f]Laurel[/name_f], [name_f]Lorelei[/name_f], or [name_f]Laura[/name_f]-[name_f]Beth[/name_f].
Maybe I’m in the minority but I think you should keep [name_f]Lucy[/name_f]. I’ve seen many of your posts and I can tell you put a lot of thought and love into [name_f]Lucy[/name_f]. [name_m]Will[/name_m] your family still refer to you as your given name or are you going to ask them to call you by your new name?
If they are still going to call you by your given name then I would still change it. Not many people will know of the name similarities besides your family which they won’t even refer to you as. If not, then if the names are too similar for your sister’s liking maybe you can go by a nickname for them like [name_f]Lulu[/name_f] and your niece can refer to you as Aunt [name_f]Lulu[/name_f] or Aunt [name_u]Lou[/name_u] or something along those lines.
Other names you may like…
[name_f]Leila[/name_f]
[name_f]Nora[/name_f]
[name_u]Julie[/name_u]
[name_f]Vera[/name_f]
[name_f]Lilou[/name_f]
[name_f]Ada[/name_f]
[name_f]Luisa[/name_f]
[name_f]Nina[/name_f]
[name_f]Etta[/name_f]
[name_f]Leah[/name_f]
[name_f]Elsa[/name_f]
[name_f]Sally[/name_f]
[name_f]Tula[/name_f]
[name_f]Jane[/name_f]/[name_f]Janie[/name_f]
[name_f]Lilla[/name_f]
[name_m]How[/name_m] about [name_f]Lila[/name_f]? [name_f]Lila[/name_f] is just as pretty as [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] and it’s not too close to [name_f]Lucia[/name_f]
Is [name_f]Lucinda[/name_f] or [name_f]Lucienne[/name_f] a possibility? You could use the full name around family but [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] outside the family?
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f]
[name_f]Celia[/name_f]
[name_f]Eliza[/name_f]
[name_f]Emma[/name_f]
[name_f]Natalia[/name_f]
[name_f]Tahlia[/name_f]
[name_u]Lindsay[/name_u]
[name_f]Ellen[/name_f]
[name_f]Autumn[/name_f]
[name_f]Alexandra[/name_f]
[name_u]Alexis[/name_u]
[name_f]Alexa[/name_f]
[name_f]Elodie[/name_f]
[name_f]Amity[/name_f]
[name_f]Caroline[/name_f]
[name_f]Claudia[/name_f]
[name_f]Helena[/name_f]
[name_f]Ivy[/name_f]
[name_f]Eva[/name_f]
[name_f]Natasha[/name_f]
[name_f]Cecily[/name_f]
Some you have said you like I think are lovely too and worth considering - ie [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f], [name_f]Clara[/name_f], [name_f]Lydia[/name_f], [name_f]Elise[/name_f], [name_f]Leah[/name_f], [name_f]Leila[/name_f].
Well it seems that you’ve been set on [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] for yourself for months now. I think that it’s a little selfish of your sister to say you can’t use a name that’s already yours.
But, if you are set on changing it, some ideas are:
[name_f]Maisie[/name_f]
[name_f]Macy[/name_f]
[name_f]Lacey[/name_f]
[name_f]Luna[/name_f]
[name_f]Selene[/name_f]
[name_f]Tatiana[/name_f]/[name_f]Tati[/name_f]
[name_f]Pia[/name_f]
[name_f]Nessa[/name_f]
[name_f]Betsy[/name_f]
[name_f]Alina[/name_f]
[name_f]Elsa[/name_f]
[name_f]Leah[/name_f]
[name_f]Noelle[/name_f]
[name_f]Evie[/name_f]
[name_f]Lena[/name_f]
[name_f]Aura[/name_f]
I have to agree with the PPs that given that you’re set on [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] and how much you love it, you should use it anyways. With each of your threads I’ve been really, really hoping that you decide to take the leap and go ahead with [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] because you love it so much. I honestly don’t believe your sister loves [name_f]Lucia[/name_f] more than you love [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], though maybe equally so. Also, correct me if I’m wrong, but is your sister even pregnant yet? Unless she is and knows it’s a girl, she may never end up having a daughter, or may change her mind beforehand. If she isn’t currently pregnant with a daughter, I think the name of a person who is already here in this world trumps that of one who isn’t and may never even eventuate.
I also think it’s fine to have a [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] and a [name_f]Lucia[/name_f] in the same family. My sister is [name_f]Kristen[/name_f] and we have a cousin [name_m]Christopher[/name_m]- they really don’t sound that similar, especially being different numbers of syllables. And my uncle married a woman with the exact same name as his mother (my grandma), and it’s never been an issue. Neither goes by a nickname either.
Would you consider using a nickname with your family and [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] everywhere else? A nickname for your new middle name, or something derived from your middle name or initials? e.g. [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] “LC” could become [name_f]Elsie[/name_f], [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] “[name_m]LE[/name_m]” could be [name_f]Ellie[/name_f], etc.
I really think you should use at least [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] with people other than your family even if it ends up being too difficult with them. I’ve seen a fair few name change threads over the years here on Nameberry and I don’t recall many who feel so strongly about one name for such an extended period of time. Good luck
Also, if you think it might help your family to know exactly how you feel about [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], consider showing them some of your threads/posts about it. It might help them to see it written out.
I love [name_f]Elena[/name_f] [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] -or [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] or [name_f]Naomi[/name_f] for you. I think it’s best to keep [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] as a middle name and also use it outside of the family. Like, if they don’t want to call you [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] that’s fine, but you can always introduce yourself as [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] to your other friends.
My sister’s called [name_f]Lynsey[/name_f] and we call her Lyns and [name_f]Lucy[/name_f]. [name_f]Lynsey[/name_f] is more sophisticated than [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] in some ways I feel and there are a ton of ways to spell it:
I might wait until your niece is born to make sure your sister doesn’t decide on something else last minute before you make a final decision either way.
Aside from that, how do you think this will affect your relationship with your sister? If you think it will hurt your relationship, you may have to decide if it’s worth picking [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] as your name. You can do it - but figuring out what the cost of that choice is and if you are okay with the potential consequences is the real question.
Have you explained the situation to your sister? It seems like it has been really stressful for you to settle on a name and if she understood that maybe she would try not to add to it (or one would hope). It may be an inconvenience to share names, but it is not the end of the world and hopefully she can get over it if she realizes how important it is to you. I have two uncle Davids because my aunt married a man with the same name as her brother, and my boyfriend is also [name_m]David[/name_m]. It is not a big deal. Families are sloppy and you can’t control everything that happens in them. If it really bothers her I like the suggestion from others of choosing a nickname just she could call you, like LC/[name_f]Elsie[/name_f] for [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] [name_f]Catherine[/name_f].
