Battle over Beatrice

I am hoping hubby will come around to [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] for our third daughter, due in [name_u]November[/name_u]. It’s the name of my ailing grandmother who I’m very close to, so it holds a lot of sentimental value; I also love the nn [name_f]Bea[/name_f]. He’s not wild about the name itself, but acknowledges and understands my attachment to it. Another option, I suppose, is to use it in the middle…though I really want to use it as a first name.

Any advice on how to navigate a naming disagreement like this? We’ve always struggled to name our babies ([name_u]Meredith[/name_u] [name_m]Jaymes[/name_m], [name_m]Nolan[/name_m] [name_u]Curtis[/name_u], [name_f]Felicity[/name_f] [name_u]Quinn[/name_u]) but this one has a personal element for me so it feels even harder to work through.

FYI, hubby likes [name_f]Eliza[/name_f].

[name_f]Eliza[/name_f] and [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] are both lovely! Does your husband like [name_f]Beatrix[/name_f] any better? Is he willing to use [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] even though he doesn’t like it, or is it important for you both to like the name? Is there a way you could use your grandmother’s middle, maiden or last name instead, or would that just not be the same for you?

What are your feelings on [name_f]Eliza[/name_f]? [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] is a great combo if you decided to use [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] for a middle.

My husband and I have a similar situation, though we aren’t expecting yet so it’s only theoretical for us at this point. I want to name our first daughter [name_f]Mary[/name_f], in part to honor my grandmother. He isn’t a huge fan, but he knows names are very important to me and they aren’t as big of a deal to him, so he’s fine with using [name_f]Mary[/name_f].

Anyway, not sure if any of this helps at all, but congrats and good luck figuring something out!

I’m not sure how helpful this is, but I think both [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] and [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] are beautiful! I [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] both names and the NNs [name_f]Bea[/name_f] & [name_f]Liza[/name_f]. [name_f]Liza[/name_f] [name_f]Bea[/name_f] is also cute:-)

Personally I like [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] better, but both are beautiful. I would definitely go with a combo of the two.

You’ve got until [name_u]November[/name_u], so if you’re at a standstill now, I would vote that you take a break from talking about it for a few weeks and mull it over separately.

I’m unclear on how you feel about [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] and on how opposed your husband is to [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] as a first name. To me (and this may well not be everyone’s experience, just a possibility), it might feel a bit too intense to him to use [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] as a first name since your grandmother is currently “ailing” as you say - if I were in your husband’s position there might be too much baggage attached to the name to contemplate using it now even if it was a name I loved. Depending on how things go between now and [name_u]November[/name_u], he may have trouble separating the name from your grandmother and seeing it as his new daughter’s name. For this reason I would suggest using [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] as a middle name, but see how you feel about it all when the baby arrives.

I think [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] sounds great, too. It also brings to mind [name_f]Elena[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f], and then [name_f]Helena[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f], all of which sound great to me on their own and with your children’s names.

I like the sound of [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] better than the reverse, and even the nn [name_m]EB[/name_m] or [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Bea[/name_f]. But I’m not wild about [name_f]Eliza[/name_f]–might be partially due to me being so attached to the sentimentality of Beatrice and what it means to me. I don’t dislike it, but I don’t love it.

We haven’t talked names in several weeks so I’m not sure if he’d consent to [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] now or not! ”

In this case, I’d definitely try to sway him with nicknames. And luckily, there’s so many!

[name_f]Bea[/name_f]
[name_f]Bee[/name_f]
[name_f]Bet[/name_f]/[name_f]Betty[/name_f]
[name_u]Tris[/name_u] (a la Divergent)

And if you’re willing to switch to [name_f]Beatrix[/name_f]…

[name_f]Trix[/name_f]
[name_f]Trixie[/name_f]
Bex
Bexy

I think [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] sounds great! If you named her this, you could both get what you want because you could still use [name_f]Bea[/name_f] as a nickname, honour your grandmother and use the names you want.

I love both [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] and [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]. You can’t go wrong either way. [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] is one of my most favorites.

[name_f]Eliza[/name_f] Beatice and [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] are both beautiful. [name_u]Meredith[/name_u], [name_m]Nolan[/name_m], [name_f]Felicity[/name_f], and [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] all also go amazing together. This is a hard one, but you’ve got a little bit of time until [name_u]November[/name_u]. I’m not a huge fan of [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] but [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] the nn [name_f]Bea[/name_f].

Thanks for the input! Any other suggestions besides [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] that would work with [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] in the middle spot?

I like [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] and I prefer it over [name_f]Eliza[/name_f].

I love both [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] and [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]. I also like the sound of a short middle with [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]. [name_m]How[/name_m] about:

[name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_u]June[/name_u]
[name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f]
[name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_u]Jean[/name_u]
[name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]May[/name_f]
[name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Maeve[/name_f]

I agree both [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] and [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] are great, so I think you should choose between those when you meet her (if not before). [name_f]Bea[/name_f] is very cute, as is [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] [name_f]Bea[/name_f], who you could call [name_f]Bea[/name_f] sometimes. Your grandmother will be honored either way. Best of luck!

[name_f]Caroline[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Hazel[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Flora[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Amelia[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Matilda[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Clara[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Lydia[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Olive[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Stella[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Rosalie[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]
[name_f]Penelope[/name_f] [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]

I am visiting my Grandma [name_f]Bea[/name_f] this weekend (who lives several hours away) and sitting with her tonight, feeling the baby kicking away inside as we talked and simply were, I just knew–this baby is [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f].

Now, to win over my stubborn husband…”

I’m with you on [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f]. I totally understand the sentimentality behind it and plus it’s a lovely name with a beautiful meaning, how much better can you get that she who brings happiness?

I think that [name_f]Beatrice[/name_f] [name_f]Eliza[/name_f] is a stunning combo! Good luck persuading your stubborn hubby. Mine was pretty stubborn when naming our girl too.