Hello Ladies,
I was just hoping for some advice. My Husband and I have been TTC since [name]March[/name] (2012) with no luck. I know it hasn`t been a year yet but I cant help but feel upset and emotional about it. [name]Every[/name] month is an emotional roller coaster right around the time I would be testing. I know stress is one of the number one reasons people who are trying dont concieve. But honestly my stress levels are not that high. I would just say I get more upset when I start my period then I used to. I really dont think it could be stress. When is a good time to start taking not getting pregnant seriously. [name]How[/name] long does it take the average couple? Am I over reacting? I wanna be a mother so bad and this is just very frustrating, two out of three of my sisters have children and I am very happy for them. But I am still waiting for my special month. =(
It took us 6 months of trying before we got pregnant, and the only way we managed it was to have sex every single day for a week and a half around my most fertile time. I was tired, but I ended up pregnant. I think the normal time you’re suppose to wait before going to the doctor is something like a year.
I used this site to help me with my fertile days and they were very spot on. It’s from the American Pregnancy Association:
I found an article that gave these stats for how long it takes most couples to conceive:
25% in the first month
60% in six months
75% in nine months
80% in twelve months
90% in eighteen months
This sounds pretty close to what I’ve read elsewhere as well. So you’re at about 9 months and 1 in 4 couples would still have not gotten pregnant by now.
[name]How[/name] old are you? If you’re over 35, it’s recommended to get checked after less time trying, as you’re likely to have decreased fertility and probably also because you have less time to waste.
Also, how are you determining your fertile days? There can be a lot of variation from woman to woman as to when she ovulates. I’m not entirely sure how it works, but my mom took her temperature to figure out when to ahem “concentrate their efforts”.
Im 26 years old. And I have been learning about pinning down my ovulation. Im very very reg as far as my cycle goes and so I assume I ovulate the same time every month. But I guess the statistics say I have nothing to worry about yet… ugggg so frustrating… but thanks for the tips
You may very well be ovulating like clockwork. If there is an issue, it could be your husband’s. I think they usually check out the man first, things like sperm count and motility.
I’d give it a couple more months–to the 1 year mark. Then talk to your doctor. Hopefully if you’re not pregnant by [name]March[/name] and have to get checked out, it will be an easy fix.
You may very well be ovulating like clockwork. If there is an issue, it could be your husband’s. I think they usually check out the man first, things like sperm count and motility.
I’d give it a couple more months–to the 1 year mark. Then talk to your doctor. Hopefully if you’re not pregnant by [name]March[/name] and have to get checked out, it will be an easy fix.
The only situation in which fertility doctors (and insurance companies!) will speed up the clock regarding the 1-yr waiting period is if the mother is over 35. Since you’re 26, you have the luxury of time, even though it’s certainly extremely frustrating to wait.
Since semen analysis is infinitely easier than checking out anything in women, it’s done first.
In the meantime relax, have regular sex, and make sure your husband isn’t inadvertently hurting his sperm by taking long hot baths, using hot tubs/saunas, or sitting with his laptop in his lap for long periods. Sperm are very heat-sensitive and temperatures over some amount (I forget-- 103 degrees or something) will kill them.
I don’t know how much of a difference it makes, but I’ve heard that even him wearing briefs instead of boxers can impact his sperm, since it holds the testicles closer to his body warmth.
I’ve heard that sometimes women can have trouble getting pregnant because their pH is off. You have to make your body more alkaline with apple cider vinegar or lots of green leafy vegetables. And you could also try taking [name]Evening[/name] [name]Primrose[/name] oil around conception to make your cervical mucous more hospitable to sperm.
When I got pregnant, it was after 4 months of “not trying, but I’m so sick of birth control” It seemed a little sudden for me, I was thinking it would take at least 6 months.
What are you doing to learn about pinpointing your ovulation? I recommend you read up on FAM (Fertility Awareness Method) if you haven’t yet. I ovulate relatively regularly, but on average on day 20 or 21 of my cycle, not close at all to day 14 which is considered to be the “norm”. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a helpful book. I’m sure there are others, but that is the only one I’ve read.
If you’ve already read up on this topic, are you charting your cervical fluid, waking temperature, and/or cervical position every day? Are you able to determine when your cervical fluid is becoming more “fertile”? [name]Do[/name] you see a temperature shift indicating that you’ve ovulated every month? These are all easy things for you to look for that can give you more insight into your cycles and help you know ahead of time if there’s a chance that you may be pregnant in any given month (thus possibly making it a bit less of an emotional roller coaster). And of course, they help you to know when to have sex if you’re trying to make a baby.
This is a common belief but thankfully untrue; the difference in temperature is small.
That was something they told my dad in the late 70s. I know it didn’t help him any to change undies, since they eventually wound up using donor sperm. I started to go into all the issues he had stacked against him fertility-wise, but it was getting pretty personal and embarrassing. At any rate, I didn’t know if that actually mattered or not, since he had several serious things going on.
Whats this about cervical mucus for friendly to sperm? [name]How[/name] do you know if your cervical mucus is hospital to sperm? And whats evening primerose?
I meant hospitable…
[name]Evening[/name] primrose oil, it’s in the supplements and vitamins aisle at most drugstores. It’s just oil from the evening primrose plant, it also has omega 3. It has been proven to improve the quality of cervical mucous and regulate hormones in women. When you are ovulating, your cervical mucous should be “egg whites” consistency. Clear and slippery. It is more hospitable to sperm.
Oh interesting… I may just give that a shot. I will look into it. Thanks!