@_thelittlefairywren & @MG1257 I think I could only ever do it for someone I care about and love. I’d never even considered it before it came up in conversation with this specific person, because I felt I could never give up a child I’d carried for 9 months. I believe I can do it in this situation, because I have such a strong bond with this person and I’d know I’d get to build a relationship with the child too.
@tori101 I can completely understand you feel that way. I’ve had three pregnancies, including one with twins, and they weren’t a walk in the park… Especially my second one. I think the fact that I know the person I’d do this for so well and that I’d have a relationship with the child even if it wasn’t “mine” helps me to accept that I won’t have the “reward” though. But again, I totally understand what you mean.
@kat.felton I’ll definitely listen to it, thank you for sharing!
@Luminen If you haven’t been pregnant before it’s extremely difficult to decide if you could do this, I agree. Before I seriously consider it I also need to be sure that my own family is “finished” I think. I couldn’t carry a baby for 9 months and then give it up, no matter how well I know this person, if I felt like my family wasn’t complete. And at this point I can’t say if it is.
@LaurenAlexis congratulations on your pregnancy. I agree that giving a baby up is very difficult if you carried it for 9 months. The person I’d want to do this for is practically part of our household at this moment, and the baby would almost be growing up as a sibling to my own children. This person is also the godfather of my oldest son. So there would definitely be a relationship with the child.