My husband and I want to try to conceive in 2020! We’re very excited about it and I have such big baby fever that I can’t wait to try! I want to start NOW just to see what happens without the pressure! However, here is my dilemma and not only mine but one that I also share with other families in my same situation and even in my graduating class! I’m 27 years old, soon to be 28. I am currently in graduate school, finishing up my Master’s degree in [name_f]May[/name_f]! FINALLY! [name_m]Trust[/name_m] me, it’s been a long time coming and I could not be happier to end this phase of my life. I will be getting my Master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling! I’m very excited to pursue my career in this field. I’ve worked for the past 5 1/2 years as a substance abuse counselor while going to graduate school and, unfortunately, I cannot stay at this job. Well, I could but I don’t want to. In order to advance and financially support a family more comfortably, I will need to move on and make more money elsewhere. I thought that I was pregnant over the holidays. Sadly, after taking three pregnancy tests, I am not pregnant right now. However, it got me thinking- What would I have done if I were pregnant now with four months left to go until graduation and with a national exam to take in [name_f]April[/name_f]? If I were solely relying on my emotions, I was bummed that I wasn’t pregnant and would have been happy if I were despite these obstacles, but then my thoughts entered. [name_m]How[/name_m] would I work, go to school, take this exam and finish my other exams for school while also being pregnant? Could I do it? Would the stress be too much for pregnancy and would that be healthy for the baby? What about getting a new job? Could I interview while pregnant? Would people hire me if I were pregnant at an interview? When would I tell them? What about maternity leave? In some companies in the U.S., you have to work for them for 12 months before you can qualify for FMLA. There’s just so many thoughts racing through my head, but my heart wants to try now. I just don’t know if I would be making the RIGHT decision, but what is?! On the other hand, I don’t want to keep putting it off and waiting until I have everything aligned- a better job, more money, more money saved. Getting pregnant can be such a gamble and the biological clock is ticking for me. I know that some within the millennial generation seem to want to brush that aside (my friends- for example! I’m the only one of my friends that wants a baby right now) and it’s okay for some people but I know for myself that I want to have a baby now!
After all of this ranting about my life, I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has ANY advice or has relevant experiences to my dilemma that might help shed some light on what to do!
Thanks in advance to you all for your help, support, and even a listening ear to allow me to work therapeutically by expressing this to you all! It helps to be able to type out what I’m feeling and have questioned for months now! Thanks again!