So me, my husband, his siblings, and our son all have names starting with A. We didn’t do it on purpose, we just went with the first name we could agree on. We have VASTLY different tastes in names, so it’s difficult for us.
Now we’re expecting a daughter and we cannot agree at all. I’ve always loved the names [name_f]Alora[/name_f] and Anna-Rose, but he doesn’t. He had agreed to [name_f]Alora[/name_f], but then changed his mind. We haven’t found a single solitary other A name that we both like, and trust me when I say that I’ve been searching high and low for one.
He started throwing around the idea of not keeping the A. The only name we both like is [name_f]Rose[/name_f]. But I worry that she would feel left out being the only odd one out. [name_u]Or[/name_u] maybe she’d feel special? Thoughts?
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I understand why this is tough! I do think above all else you should choose a name that you both like/love and that hopefully the child loves to have. [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is such a perfect classic, I would go for it if I were you.
maybe you could choose a middle name that starts with an A, or find another way to connect all 4 of your names, perhaps by meaning, or number of letters/syllables
I know you said you’ve looked everywhere for A names but I’ll suggest a few just in case you could use it
[name_f]Alina[/name_f]
[name_f]Alaina[/name_f]
[name_u]Atlas[/name_u]
[name_f]Ayla[/name_f]
[name_f]Amora[/name_f]
[name_f]Adeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Adela[/name_f]
[name_f]Amaryllis[/name_f]
[name_f]Amabel[/name_f]
[name_u]Ali[/name_u]
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Sticking with themes is nice if there are names you like that fit it but in your case I would go with [name_f]Rose[/name_f] since its the name you both like and can agree on.
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Ugh that’s tough. It’s a shot in the dark guessing how your kid will feel.
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you plan on having more kids? In that case I think breaking the pattern is pretty low-risk. If you had say 3 kids with all different initials, there wouldn’t be an obvious pattern within your family unit or any single odd-man-out.
I can’t gauge how strongly you feel about [name_f]Rose[/name_f], or if it’s just the best compromise you’ve found so far. But if you both love it, go with that! Pattern shmattern
As a compromise, I like @rosajune ’s idea of [name_f]Rose[/name_f] + middle name with A. [name_u]Or[/name_u] you could flip it and give her an A first name but call her by her middle name, [name_f]Rose[/name_f].
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Go with the name you love A or no A!
But you may like [name_f]Rosa[/name_f]?
Then she has an A but just at the end…
Good luck!!
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I love [name_f]Rose[/name_f]! I don’t think she would feel left out!
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It’s irrelevant. Choose the name you love.
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[name_f]My[/name_f] daughter’s the only W in our household (rest of us including dog are all another letter). I used to think I should have used the same letter only to be cute and because I love a name with same letter (not super relevant). BUT to allay your worries, my daughter (6) has only mentioned it once. I just asked her and she said, “I don’t mind being the only W…but she could call her Annie.” I really like Anna-Rose but [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is very elegant, one of my faves, and obviously simpler. You might tell her she was such a special rose to you that you had to break the rule!
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I agree with @rosajune and trying to find another way to connect your names. And I agree with @ocjacq50 of if you plan to have more kids picking a name for them that doesn’t start with A.
Could you use Anna-Rose but call her [name_f]Rose[/name_f]? [name_u]Or[/name_u] maybe Rose-Anna nn [name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] this helps
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I come from a family where my immediate family have the initial J as either their first or middle name. My nephews also have this initial as well. I have only noticed when doing family reports or speaking about names, but I don’t really mind as the middle name I was given was for someone important to me. The only one who shares this lack of the initial is my sister-in-law. Btw in our family, middles initials and/or names are commonly used.
- Dad - JF
- Mom - BJ
- Bro 1 - CJ
SIL - LA
Nephew 1 - JH
Nephew 2 - BJ
- Me - ML though in the future it will probably be MLA as I plan to add a 2nd middle name
- Bro 2 - RJ
I don’t think it will be a big deal to your little one as long as the name has meaning to you and you make it known to your daughter when she’s old enough to understand.
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I’d break the pattern now, tbh, if you can’t find any more A names. I think it would make her feel special - or like, literally not matter at all, so long as you loved her name and it’s her own 
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I would be willing to bet that she won’t be upset at all to not have an A name.
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It’s hard to predict exactly how your daughter will feel, but I’d say it’s unlikely that she’d feel left out. I know it’s a bit different, but my mum, grandma, grandma’s sister and I all start with the same letter, but my sister doesn’t and she doesn’t mind. I think [name_f]Rose[/name_f] is a beautiful choice!
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I vote go with [name_f]Rose[/name_f].
Going with another forced A name is really subscribing more to the theme than actually loving your daughter’s name in an meaningful way.
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