I really like [name]Torsten[/name]. It is, I agree, a very masculine name, and interesting/unusual, but not “out there” or unfamiliar sounding.
I am confused about the name [name]Lou[/name] - is your husband suggesting this instead of [name]Torsten[/name] or instead of [name]Paul[/name]?
If the first, he may be trying to say he likes a simpler or more common name. Not so “different,” like [name]Torsten[/name] is, which although a family name, maybe even his side, seems quite unusual and maybe he’s not about that. If [name]Torsten[/name] is his father, maybe he doesn’t want his father’s name [name]Torsten[/name] [surname] as his son also.
[name]Lou[/name] by itself seems somewhat hipstery though, if it’s not a nickname for [name]Louis[/name], and his own namesake, which some fathers try to root for - a little junior to take after Dad, but [name]Lou[/name] is so relaxed. That’s what he is called, and some people like to just cut to the chase. Nickname names are relaxed and they’re going to call him that anyway.
I know it’s late in the game, but [name]Tor[/name] is a great nickname too. There’s a lot of ground between a [name]Torsten[/name] and a [name]Lou[/name], not so much between a [name]Torsten[/name] and a [name]Louis[/name] (depending on if you pronounce it [name]LouIS[/name] or [name]LouIE[/name]), but perhaps he wants the child after himself first instead of grandfathers. Maybe he’s saying something extreme from [name]Torsten[/name] to get something more neutral from you that you can both agree to. One of you shouldn’t have total say in the naming of your child; you should both like it and be happy and settled with it.
If instead of [name]Paul[/name], he wants [name]Lou[/name] in the middle, then I say no. I don’t know which of your fathers is [name]Torsten[/name] and which one is [name]Paul[/name] (so if it lopsides honoring relatives to his side, a double no), but [name]Lou[/name] for a middle name is girlish, honestly.
If his name is [name]Louis[/name], then [name]Louis[/name] for a middle name is ok. But [name]Torsten[/name] is unusual and if his middle name is simply [name]Lou[/name], it might confuse people who don’t recognize [name]Torsten[/name] is a boy’s name. [name]Mary[/name] [name]Lou[/name] is a template here; I have never heard of a [name]Johnny[/name] [name]Lou[/name], e.g. [name]Lou[/name] as a middle name in combo with a boy’s name. [name]Torsten[/name] [name]Louis[/name] would be ok. I like [name]Torsten[/name] [name]Paul[/name]. I think either of them would be good with [name]Torsten[/name] in the middle as well – depends on your last name and which name he will go by.