Hey again everyone!
We had a son in [name]January[/name] and after much help from you guys we named him [name]James[/name], not because it felt perfect but mostly because we couldn’t find anything better at the moment and thought that [name]James[/name] was a safe choice. We both think its a nice name and all, but it’s not for us. I’ve had troubles saying his name ever since he was born, and each time I introduce him to someone I try not to say his name just because it feels so wrong.
For some time, I’ve been using one of his middle names instead, [name]Malachi[/name]. My SO uses both names. Since we have had a good time getting used to the name we have now finally agreed to legally change his name to [name]Malachi[/name] instead.
His name right now is [name]James[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]Malachi[/name], but our question now is, which sounds the best? [name]Malachi[/name] [name]James[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] or [name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]James[/name]?
And another question, do you guys think its the right choice to keep [name]James[/name] as a MN or should we change it to something else when we’re at it?
I think it would be right to keep [name]James[/name], unless you really cannot stand it in there and by the sound of it, it doesn’t bother you too much. In keeping [name]James[/name] at least it would be a reminder of him from birth and maybe one day you can share the story with him, about how [name]James[/name] just didn’t suit him.
[name]Malachi[/name] [name]James[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] flows really well, and I think that’s your best option.
I like [name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]James[/name] best. If you’re not wild about [name]James[/name], you could always drop it altogether. I’ve only known one [name]Malachi[/name] that went by the nn [name]Mack[/name]. It’s a great name. Good luck!
He could, but we don’t want him to. Since we’re calling him [name]Malachi[/name], we want that to be his FN. And we are thinking about moving abroad in a few years and it just feels easier to change it legally.
I agree with @wootz, of your options I like [name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]James[/name] the best, but if you don’t want [name]James[/name] there then I’d just drop it completely.
I love [name]Malachi[/name]! So handsome. I like the flow of [name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]James[/name] the best and I would definitely keep [name]James[/name].
[name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]James[/name] has the best flow [name]IMO[/name]. I would keep [name]James[/name], mainly because it is such a handsome name! Plus, I don’t think it would be wrong to have two middle names as backup, should he once decide that [name]Malachi[/name] isn’t for him. Good luck!
I’d change it to [name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aiden[/name] [name]James[/name]. I think that sounds better. I’d definitely legally change it, though. I had a friend whose FN was [name]Mary[/name], and her parents had always intended to call her by her MN, [name]Caitlin[/name]. It was just an annoyance to constantly correct people - no, I’m [name]Caitlin[/name]. I would keep [name]James[/name] in there, still. I like the way the three names sound together…[name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aiden[/name] [name]James[/name] is lovely.
If you must change it then [name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]James[/name]
[name]Malachi[/name] is a lot of name and I think having [name]James[/name] in front anchors it. And when he gets older he’ll probably feel [name]Malachi[/name] is “weird” and prefer being called [name]James[/name] or [name]Aidan[/name] anyway. I don’t think it’s necessary to legally change it but if you’re really unhappy then do what you must
I don’t understand some people’s aversion to not calling a child by their first name. It’s no different then using a nn. And used to be common when everybody was named [name]Mary[/name] and [name]Joseph[/name]. Many celebs go by their middle names- [name]Brad[/name] [name]Pitt[/name], [name]Dakota[/name] Fanning. I know a [name]Tyler[/name] (fn [name]John[/name]), a [name]Ryder[/name] (fn [name]James[/name]) and an [name]Aaron[/name] (fn [name]William[/name]). I think it’s nice a have a “normal”- some say boring- name in front with a cutesy/trendy/quirky/unusual middle name.
[name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aidan[/name] [name]James[/name] is a good combo and if you like [name]James[/name] why not leave him in the mix?
rollo
PS I do not agree with nat108 about [name]Malachi[/name] being a weird name, it is right on trend at the moment and it has the really trendy nn of [name]Kai[/name] so it is very much today.
I love my full name but most people call me by my middle name, and I absolutely love it when I have the people who call me by my first name and the people who call my by my middle name are together at the same time and I get to answer to both, it’s great fun.
What was wrong with [name]James[/name]?its a really nice name!
[name]Malachi[/name] [name]Aiden[/name] [name]James[/name] I guess …I really think you should just keep it [name]James[/name]
@pepperingram and @rollo: I don’t think there’s anything wrong with [name]Malachi[/name] either, that’s why I put weird in quotes
Most pre-teens/teens don’t like to stand out from their peers. [name]Malachi[/name] is a stand out name, keeping [name]James[/name] gives him options. At a certain point it’s not about what the parents want, the child will decide what they want to be called. An angsty teen might hate [name]Malachi[/name] and want to be called [name]James[/name], and that’s his perogative.
If they hated [name]James[/name], then I’d say drop it but they don’t; Dad even calls him [name]James[/name] sometimes. Since the issue is with the order of the names it isn’t necessary to legally change, that doesn’t mean that I’m saying it’s wrong to change it. If it’s really important that his name legally be in a certain order then go for it.
@rollo: [name]Kai[/name] is a good nn.
Again I don’t see how a nn is oh so different then going by a mn, it’s still not their fn. I’ve heard parents (like my sis) freak out about calling their child by their middle name but then they call them by a nn. What’s the difference? For example, if you call your [name]William[/name] [name]Aaron[/name], [name]Liam[/name] what’s so awful about [name]Aaron[/name]? Obviously you liked the mn enough to include it. I know a [name]Mary[/name] [name]Elizabeth[/name] that prefers [name]Elizabeth[/name]/[name]Liz[/name]. But when her parents are around, you’d better call her [name]Mary[/name] or else you’ll get an ear full
