I know this is my crazy, and I swore this wouldn’t happen to me, but I’ve been sitting with the birth registration papers for [name]Rosalind[/name] for weeks now, not filling them out because I want to name her [name]Bluebell[/name] Honeypot instead… No, not really. I’m very happy with the name we chose for her; [name]Rosalind[/name] is perfect for her and I do in no way have name regret. My boyfriend says it’s probably because it’s so final: this will be her name for forever. It’s a big thing saddling another human being with a name, and what if she won’t like it growing up? But I also think it’s because I feel like parts of me were left out of the name; my lifelong love affair with mythology and folklore drowned in the [name]Shakespeare[/name] of it all. What if all my other children have mythological names in there somewhere (which was the idea to start with), will Roo feel left out?
Is this just me being nuts and over thinking things? Have other mama’s been through this? Is it just cold feet?
Your over thinking it. [name]Rosalind[/name]'s name is absolutely beautiful, any little girl would be lucky to have it. Its probably because it seems so final, it’ll be done after this. Try not to think about it. Maybe your boyfriend could fill the forms out so you don’t have to drive yourself crazy?
Unless you might be thinking your actually genuinely regretting her name in which case I think you should think carefully before filling in the forms.
In any case, her name is stunning and I personally wouldn’t change it. x
Roo’s name is unbelievably beautiful. I don’t think any future little Otters will feel left out at all. Your names are so well thought out and have meaning for you and your boyfriend.
Coming from someone who is a huge lover of both [name]Shakespeare[/name] and Mythology/folklore - you’re over-thinking it. Her name is GORGEOUS and she’s named after some very powerful, beautiful, lovable female characters, and Illyria is also a beautiful name. [name]Even[/name] if all your other kids have some aspect of mythology, whether classical or other, [name]Rosalind[/name] will still treasure being named for great characters by one of the most influential men of literature.
And not having incorporated a mythology name into her name certainly doesn’t mean you aren’t going to be able to share your passions with her in other ways. Her name has a great story behind it, it’s absolutely not missing anything, and it’s far more important that you teach her about your interests and share them with her than you manage to stick them all inside her name.
I would love if my name had some great namesakes. My first name, [name]Reine[/name], has nothing (unless you count all the French queens with [name]Reine[/name] as their title), and my middle name [name]Rebecca[/name] is common and is most commonly tied to the Biblical character (who wasn’t all that great). When I first think of the name [name]Rosalind[/name], I think of [name]Rosalind[/name] [name]Franklin[/name], a scientist who made serious contributions to the discovery of DNA. Her story is quite amazing, and she’s a role model for any girl.
I think it’s just the finality of naming Roo. Have your boyfriend fill out the papers if you can’t bring yourself to. Nothing could possibly go wrong with such a beautiful name!
I’ve had similar worries [name]Ottilie[/name] . All my life I wanted to incorporate my love of literature into my children’s names. Howaever,pregnancy hormones/anxiety and overpowering family members allowed me to cave in and doubt myself, giving up various long loved names . I love my daughter’s name, but I compltely understand the feeling of not having that part of yourself in the name (yay , I’m not nuts). But your daughter does have a stunning name that is interesting but restrained at the same time. I think sometimes names can be too much as parents try to cram every aspect of themselves into them . This can then take away from the beauty of the individual names. [name]Rosalind[/name]'s name doesn’t do this- all 3 of her names stand well together and are beautiful individually.
On the other hand, If you are really in doubt , sleep on it. It is not too late too change it now , but wil be once you sign those forms xxxx
Thanks guys, obviously I’m just a bit nuts. Sleep deprivation and headaches. I’m not going to change her name, I love it, I just have a hard time filling the papers out. I did play with [name]Rosalind[/name] Illyria [name]Charis[/name] in my head, but I love [name]Beatrice[/name] just as much. I’m not having name regret, I’m just trying to be careful so I don’t mess it up.
Anyway, thank you all for calming my nerves. And bearing with me.
I felt nervous too when I filled out the papers for [name]Luther[/name]. I was terrified I was going to accidentally misspell something! But it was really fun getting official documents (SIN card, Health [name]Card[/name], [name]Bank[/name] card) with his name on it!
I was pretty nervous filling out the paperwork for [name]Ivan[/name]. It was absolutely his name, but it’s vowel heavy and a Russian name with a linguistically Italian name sounds a little silly. I was also a little sad that we were essentially naming him [name]John[/name]. I think it’s pretty normal to be nervous.
I know you said you aren’t changing it, I just wanted to comment. Stunning name!
Been there! It took me about 1.5 weeks to fill out the twins stuff, I knew that was what they were going to be called, because they just ‘fit’ but the minute I started to fill them out I started over thinking about things like that!!
(PS - [name]Rosalind[/name]'s name is so beautiful! I love names with 2 middle names, I wish I could have gotten my hubby on board with it He doesn’t even have a middle name and he thinks two is ridiculous but it’s so beautiful if the flow is right! [name]Rosalind[/name] Illyria [name]Beatrice[/name] makes me swoon, seriously!)
We chose my son’s name when we met him and it was a bit jarring to go from months of dreaming about names for our little baby to actually settling on one for good. -And letting go of some favorites was hard.
Okay, granted, I am crazy but it was similar to the moment we found out our baby was a boy. We were so DELIGHTED! And in love with our idea of him and could not wait to meet him. At the same time, though, we kind of mourned this little girl that we had also been dreaming of, like, wait, where is she?? We would have felt the same way if we were having a girl, HOORAY and also, wait, where is that little boy we’ve been thinking about too? And there were some similar feelings when we met him. “Oh, he IS a [name]Henry[/name] [name]Theodore[/name], how wonderful!” but then later a few pangs about the other names we might have given him. When you love names and curate a list of your very favorite combinations, even if you choose the most special name in the world to you, it still hurts a little to let go of the others.
Your daughter has the most gorgeous name and she was so lovingly named, I am sure she will treasure her name. And, any future children will get the same treatment, lovingly chosen names with a special meaning/connection for you and them. The best gift you can give your children is you and you will teach them about art, literature, mythology, and all of the things that matter to you and they will feel connected to those things whether they are all represented in each of their names or not. Anyway, I hope you are feeling better about this!
[name]Every[/name] time I am reminded that you named your daughter [name]Rosalind[/name], all I can think is “Wow! What a perfect and stunning name!” I bet she is going to love it.
Thanks again, this does make me feel better. I really appreciate it! Cygnus, thanks for all you said, you did calm my nerves. And [name]Kitty[/name], I’m looking forward to the official things as well! [name]Baby[/name] passports are hilarious… And [name]Ever[/name] & [name]Lucy[/name]; thanks, your sweet words are so kind.
It’s a pretty normal sounding name that most people would have heard of, but not too popular. And also it’s a pretty and feminine name that i don’t think hardly any people would object to. (unless she is a tomboy then she might lol)
Personally, I know this will be very hard for me. I have struggled with decisions since I was very young. I make a decision, and then when it comes to actually committing to something I back out. I always want that feeling where the decision feels perfect. It doesn’t happen though. Usually what I do is make a pros and cons list. Sometimes decisions have so many deciding factors it is impossible to go over them in your head.
And as everyone has point out. Your daughters name is gorgeous!
Although I may slightly prefer [name]Rosalind[/name] Illyria [name]Charis[/name], but just because I love [name]Charis[/name]. I love greek mythology and I think [name]Charis[/name] being one of Three Graces of womanly charm is pretty cool.
If you packed a name from all your interests in, she would have a dozen names! You have a lifetime of teaching and exposing her to those things ahead of you! You put so much love and thought into carefully selecting her name, it’s perfect for her! You should print out all your NB posts that you made trying to select the perfect name so in the future she can see the enormous efforts you went through! Enjoy reciting [name]Shakespeare[/name] to her (and before you know it with her) and reading mythology so those experiences will be incorporated into her person, if not her name.
Your daughter’s name is stunning. You and your partner put so much thought into her name. I’m sure she will love her name and the special meaning to has to her mom and dad.
He doesn’t even have a middle name and he thinks two is ridiculous but it’s so beautiful if the flow is right! [name]Rosalind[/name] Illyria [name]Beatrice[/name] makes me swoon, seriously!)