Combining two!

I just found out that we are having a boy! My SO and I have very different naming styles and are having trouble putting them together and getting ‘the’ name.

My style is more whimsical/literary and my boyfriend’s is more traditional/biblical.
My list: [name_m]Atticus[/name_m], [name_u]Sterling[/name_u], [name_m]Caspian[/name_m], and [name_m]Wilder[/name_m]
His list: [name_u]Michael[/name_u], [name_u]James[/name_u], [name_m]Paul[/name_m], [name_m]Christopher[/name_m] and [name_m]Joseph[/name_m]

He thinks my names are ridiculously out-there and isn’t willing to use any of them. We talked about using a name from my list as a FN and his as a MN, but he “can’t picture having a son named [name_m]Caspian[/name_m]” and is embarrassed at the thought…

His names bore me to tears and I will not use them as a FN. So our only option is to find a name that we both like that fits into our styles, which is hard on our own! I’m hoping some of you can throw out suggestions that will work for us!

I did try [name_m]Thaddeus[/name_m] and [name_u]Jude[/name_u] as compromises and they were shot down real quick lol

Too bad about [name_m]Thaddeus[/name_m], I love that name.



Maybe you could try a classic name with a more whimsical sounding nickname?

[name_m]Alexander[/name_m] ([name_m]Xander[/name_m])
[name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] ([name_m]Benji[/name_m])
[name_m]Nicholas[/name_m] ([name_u]Nico[/name_u])
[name_m]Theodore[/name_m] ([name_u]Teddy[/name_u]/[name_u]Theo[/name_u])
[name_m]Frederick[/name_m] ([name_m]Fritz[/name_m])
[name_m]Elijah[/name_m] ([name_m]Eli[/name_m])
[name_m]Patrick[/name_m] (Patch)

I love your list!! Especially [name_m]Atticus[/name_m] & [name_m]Caspian[/name_m]…

Some maybe in-between names


For what it’s worth, I like your style [name_m]WAY[/name_m] more :).

What about [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] (a literary name with traditional roots)? [name_m]Theodore[/name_m]/[name_u]Theo[/name_u]? [name_u]Rowan[/name_u]? [name_m]Felix[/name_m]? [name_u]Flynn[/name_u]? [name_m]Jasper[/name_m]?

I think of these as non-boring names that aren’t too out there and still have something familiar about them:


What about using a whimsical name with a tradtional nickname or vice versa?
Some ideas:
[name_m]Theodore[/name_m] - [name_u]Teddy[/name_u]
[name_m]Sebastian[/name_m] - Bast
[name_m]William[/name_m] - [name_m]Wim[/name_m]/Whim
[name_m]Christopher[/name_m] - [name_u]Kit[/name_u] ~ my favourite
[name_u]James[/name_u] - [name_u]Jem[/name_u]
[name_m]Joseph[/name_m] - Seph
[name_m]Caspian[/name_m] - [name_m]Ian[/name_m] or [name_m]Cas[/name_m]
[name_m]Atticus[/name_m] - [name_m]Cas[/name_m] or [name_m]Ace[/name_m]
[name_m]Wilder[/name_m] - [name_m]Will[/name_m] ~ my favourite

Would you go with one of his names if it had a more snazzy nickname?
[name_m]Christopher[/name_m] “[name_u]Kit[/name_u]”
[name_u]James[/name_u] “[name_m]Jack[/name_m]” or use his initials

Some other ideas:

He seems to favor Biblical names. Is that all he’s willing to consider?


[name_m]How[/name_m] about [name_m]Theodore[/name_m], [name_m]Tobias[/name_m], [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m]… somewhere in between your two styles.

So the middle would be less common classics:


With us … we both have more mild interests and then some out there ones, our kids would fit in really well in come classic lit and I get what you’re saying. We both have looked at each other and said boring or weird and our old lists looked like someone scribbled all over them… with girls names there is weighing over a little but mostly we get stuck on one and a back up and move on… boys are tough because some people really see one way and some really the other… if he hates your list tell him to cross off the ones he hates but he has to leave three, no that doesn’t mean he is approving, it means he hates them the least, make a list of your top ten faves, tell him to do likewise, talk about considering each other when choosing the names for your lists. Go over his list and leave three that you hate least. Talk about interesting Biblical names and literary names being interesting to you. Maybe something like [name_m]David[/name_m] as an example. Lets say [name_m]Davie[/name_m] is sweet and [name_m]David[/name_m] is very hard to find offensive. I know lots of [name_m]David[/name_m]'s but its not super common. Its nice. You like a lot of great names… [name_m]Alastair[/name_m] or Wilde maybe, one could be a middle… he would sound very much like a doctor or a professor, an author or an architect or an artist but … also not bland and boring… there is a way to work this and I think making his name flexible like that and you get a fun nn somewhere. Or… you can look into something a tiny bit bolder, like [name_m]Josiah[/name_m], [name_m]Joe[/name_m] is so normal but you could call him [name_m]Sy[/name_m] if you wanted… sooo many ways to make this work… make a list, go over the list and agree to compromise to the point where everyone can be happy. Also really consider naming him after someone or something you both love. As a couple you must have common interests.

What about [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_m]Wilder[/name_m]? Flows and adds some creativity to middle name.

Maybe use his style for a first name and use yours for a middle. [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_m]Caspian[/name_m] sounds lovely!

What about quirkier biblical names like [name_m]Silas[/name_m], [name_m]Ezra[/name_m], or [name_m]Simon[/name_m]? Might be a good way to meet in the middle.

[name_m]Christopher[/name_m] with the nickname [name_m]Topher[/name_m]? [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] who goes by [name_m]Jamin[/name_m]?
Or maybe go the other way, give a name like [name_m]Matthias[/name_m] which has the option of a more traditional nickname of [name_m]Matt[/name_m].

I’m surprised a name like [name_u]Jude[/name_u] didn’t get more traction. It seems like a good middle way.

What about [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] or [name_m]Henry[/name_m] or [name_m]Theodore[/name_m]?
[name_m]Simon[/name_m] or [name_m]Jonah[/name_m] or Levi?
Would a name like [name_u]Elliot[/name_u], [name_m]Colin[/name_m], [name_m]George[/name_m] or [name_m]Forrest[/name_m] possibly appeal to both of you?
Or maybe [name_m]Davis[/name_m] instead of super traditional [name_m]David[/name_m].
[name_u]Owen[/name_u] is a version of [name_m]John[/name_m]
[name_u]Micah[/name_u] is possibly a good alternative to [name_u]Michael[/name_u]
[name_m]Edward[/name_m] or [name_m]Edmund[/name_m]?

You could also try doing a double name. For example I grew up with a kid named [name_m]John[/name_m] [name_m]Gideon[/name_m]. No one ever called him [name_m]John[/name_m]. He would never come to mind if you told me to think of all the [name_m]John[/name_m]'s I’ve known, we all knew him as [name_m]John[/name_m] [name_m]Gideon[/name_m]. Maybe you could try this with one of the names your husband likes like [name_m]Paul[/name_m] or [name_u]James[/name_u]. Like [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_m]Wilder[/name_m]. [name_m]Paul[/name_m] [name_u]Sterling[/name_u].