My dear husband and I usually communicate fairly well, but when it comes to naming our first, we are short circuiting! I realized this early on and haven’t broached the subject for a while, but I’m now over 38 weeks and all my name books have to be returned to the library today - lol!
My approach was to research and make a broad list of my likes. I showed him the list and in under five seconds crossed out almost all of my pics and made a not-interested-face at the rest. I was hurt by this and it made me feel frustrated. My hormones have been rampant and when I try to explain how I want him to keep an open mind, I want to cry. Not the best negotiation technique in my repotoire.
I asked him to make some suggestions of names that he likes. He gave me his maternal grandfather’s name. His mother is also named after her father. We all also have his maternal grandfather’s last name (another story). I [name]LOVE[/name] this grandfather but don’t want my child to have both of his names. Otherwise, he has provided one girl’s name and one boy’s name, both of which are very popular and a bit bland (top 10 and top 25 respectively). He has latched onto these like a life preserver.
Last night, I asked if we could talk about it again. Instead of discussion or even considering my names he tries to strike a deal. He said, “If it’s a girl, you can have S-, if it’s a boy, I get B-”. I’m so annoyed that he hasn’t even LOOKED at my favourites, let alone considered them. Also, by providing only one choice for me, I am forced to either accept or reject with no room for movement or compromise. I also said that he isn’t being fair, I’m the one carrying the baby, and that I already have his last name (to which he responded that that was my choice - LOL!). I asked him to be ready to talk about it soon but with an open mind. FYI, I have narrowed my favs to 3 girl names and 5 boy names and have made up a spreadsheet with all of their relevant stats and info (I KNOW - I’m a nerd. But if I can’t talk about it, I needed to get the info down SOMEWHERE so that I don’t explode!)
Any ideas on how to handle this? I need help fast, because I think I just lost my mucus plug an hour and half ago.