[name_m]Just[/name_m] curious, what are the chances of conceiving after the first month of ttc for each of your children? [name_m]How[/name_m] long did it take everyone to conceive?
This article has a lot of statistics on this subject: Boost Your Fertility: Get Pregnant Faster | babyMed.com
Apparently, you have a 15-25% chance of conceiving in each cycle, assuming your timing is good and neither of you has any issues that could prevent conception. I’ve read 20% in other sources. We’ve been trying since [name_f]July[/name_f] with no success, but I hope you have better luck.
I don’t know what the odds are, but at the risk of sounding incredibly smug, we conceived the first month we tried (or weren’t careful enough with birth control).
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband joked, prior to what will have been his first vasectomy, that he could impregnate me just by walking past me on the way to the shower. In late 2005/early 2006, when we had a baby and a toddler, I started reading infertility blogs ([name_u]Julie[/name_u] Robichaux’s, followed some years later by [name_f]Jen[/name_f] Knepper’s) so that I would stop feeling sorry for myself for having more than one little one at once.
I only know one other person who conceived that quickly, and it sounds like it takes a lot longer for everyone else who is but a mere mortal. I would look up the stats in a research journal but I am currently locked out of my library login since I am not taking a research credit at the moment. Anyway, a doctor would probably know.
Please don’t hate me.
[name_m]Just[/name_m] playing the numbers-- 1/5 for each conception. So for two children, 1/25 (4%); 1/125 for three (0.8%), etc. This is a population-level calculation, independent of specific fertility challenges like PCOS, tubal damage and the like.
I’m in the smug group, first cycle for both of my two kids. But fertility is seldom what you want it to be, on both ends of the spectrum-- for me, conceiving my son so quickly was a huge wrench in the works that created a very large amount of difficulty, and I don’t say that lightly. The solution we were forced to come to was very unpalatable indeed (I had to send him to live with his grandparents, 3000 miles away, since I wasn’t able to take care of him due to the constraints of my job. He was only 2 months old at the time. Had he been born four months later that wouldn’t have been necessary, but I wasn’t sure how quickly I could become pregnant).
I know someone who got pregnant on the first try for each of her four children. I just thought that was really rare.
We didn’t try at all.
With Azula I got pregnant not even a week after coming off birth control (we had been planning to actively start TTC a few months on because I wanted an [name_f]October[/name_f] baby but I came off BC early so my hormones would even out) and with [name_f]Indira[/name_f] I got pregnant when Azula was just 9 months old, while full-time breastfeeding & just not being careful enough with birth control.
Some people are just breeders & can conceive easier than others.
That said, I do expect menopause to hit me early (my mom started in her 30s) so maybe that goes along with being super fertile.
It was a mixed bag for me- it took 12 months to conceive our daughter, probably due to a lot of stress and coming off the pill after 12 years. But then we conceived our son (who I’m pregnant with now) in the 2nd cycle of ttc.
I’d say it’s pretty rare. I’ve been trying for thirteen cycles now. We’ve conceived twice, but lost both. I know a lot of people who have taken a long time to fall pregnant; conversely, I know several who have conceived quickly. If you want the actual numbers, [name_m]Blade[/name_m]'s post can tell you!
I was chatting with my mom recently and I was shocked to hear about my parents luck when ttc. I’m one of 6 and my mom said for 5 of the 6 pregnancies my parents got pregnant right away during the first cycle. For the other pregnancy they got pregnant during the second cycle. I was stunned, but also very excited because now I know I have good genetics on my side!
It took us six months, and I was using ovulation predictor kits and taking my BBT. I really don’t know what was so special about the sixth cycle (or the first for others, or the eleventh or twentieth.) It feels like a crapshoot sometimes.
R_J, that’s exactly what it is, a total crapshoot. When you think about all the things that have to happen perfectly in order for it to happen, it’s amazing that the human race even exists.
Edited for privacy.
It took us eight months to conceive our son. And that was with using OPKs, charting and doing all sorts of crazy desperate old wives tales like drinking green tea. With my daughter we started trying when my husband got a promotion at work and got a positive pregnancy test two weeks to the day later.