So since my daughter was born I needed her within arms reach just so I can watch her sleep & wake up if she instantly moved. I ebf, & within the first month started sleeping we with her in bed (bad bad, I know), shes a now 4 months. Although I know I should be putting her in her crib so she can be safer & get used to it I still continue our nightly routine. She passes out instantly & sleeps all night & im right there if zhe even attemps to wake up.
Im worried about her starting to roll & eventually crawl though, I have a big bed high off the ground. [name_m]Even[/name_m] though I plan to try & get her in the crib had anyone comtiued cosleeping into & passed the phase of crawling babies in bed?
[name_m]How[/name_m] did it turn out, what did you do? Also any suggestions for getting baby to sleep in crib without you?
Cosleeping isn’t “bad bad” and is actually safer than crib sleeping (reduced risk of SIDS) if done properly (no excess bedding, firm mattress, parents aren’t on medications or alcohol or overly exhausted).
I started cosleeping with my daughter when she was like a month old. I also have a high mattress. Idk what I’m going to do when she begins to roll, many people I know put their mattress on the floor for a while, or even get a mattress for the nursery floor for a while. We also might get a guard rail for our bed, I’d like to know what other momberries did.
You could get one of those cosleeper bed attachments, but our room layout doesn’t make that feasible so I don’t know much about them, like if they’d fit a larger baby.
Eta: I always put my daughter in her bassinet for the first stretch of sleep. She had been sleeping “through the night” from 9-4 and then I’d bring her to bed and we’d sleep til 7. Now she’s waking at 2, though, so we cosleep from 2-7. At whatever age she sleeps through the whole night, that’s when we’ll stop cosleeping, and I don’t think the transition will be too rough
I’m sorry, but if you think co-sleeping is “bad bad” then why are you doing it? Co-sleeping can be done safely, but only in a controlled environment. I understand wanting your baby to be nearby, but can’t you have her sleeping in a cot in your room? She would be safe and you would avoid co-sleeping problems.
We co-sleep with our daughter, but I’ve got her in a co-sleeper, so she’s safe. It’s like a cot, with walls on three sides, and she’s very close by (the co-sleeper is called arm’s reach).
I started a co-sleeping thread ages ago, you can find it HERE. Lots of advice and experiences.
“Cosleeping isn’t “bad bad” and is actually safer than crib sleeping (reduced risk of SIDS) if done properly (no excess bedding, firm mattress, parents aren’t on medications or alcohol or overly exhausted).”
^This. Co-sleeping is perfectly safe when done responsibly. That includes bed-sharing, although there are plenty of other co-sleeping options if you don’t want to bed-share.
Cosleeping isn’t bad as long as you are safe about it. (no duvets or pillows on the baby, a guard rail if needed). We’ve bought a First Years Close and Secure Sleeper for our newborn to keep him/her somewhat separate (and keep pillows away), but once that is outgrown, we’ll probably just put up a guard rail. At 4 months, your baby should have much more head control which decreases the risks of suffocation (in cribs or beds). If your baby turns or starts to crawl, you’ll wake up and notice instantly (as long as you aren’t on drugs or something). It is just instinctual. Get a guard rail if your baby sleeps near the edge. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t beat yourself up about it. No other mammal in the world expects its babies to sleep separate from their mothers or at least siblings, so, in my opinion, it is silly that we expect our baby to sleep in another room. We’re not even buying a crib.
I personally felt safer knowing she was close & I do like the arrangement but from others & family claim its bad. I orginally had the arms reach co sleeper as well! For some reason I always worried she woulf rol over in it or get a blanket in her face & she didnt sleep as well in it either so we just started sharing my bed… it is a tempurpedic so in a way not board firm but its the firmest bed they made. She is so rested when she wakes up all smiles & full of energy. I just think all this modern day stuff has me worried, I mean we made it past her youngest days like you guys said - her grandma just keeps telling me what if you dont wake up the one time she crawls off is now embeded in my head.
I moved the mattress onto the floor for a while during the crawling stage. Then I got a guard rail and moved to a mattress and box spring on the floor (or you could place it in a low bedframe, depending on what kind you have). It might also be helpful to add that I was the only other person in the bed with my son so I knew I was taking every precaution. I know that many couples prefer the co-sleeper for peace of mind and for comfort, but do what feels right for you. The old thread does have a lot of helpful advice. Good luck! =]
We still have a family bed with my very mobile 1.5 year old. Now that I’m weaning it’s becoming difficult for us, but her crawling and walking was fine. Our bed is low and we have a bed gate that gets tucked between the bed & mattress & anchored on the other side. So I could move her from one side to the other while breast feeding and either the gate or her Papa blocked her from rolling. She has yet to leave the bed in the night. I should mention that our bed room doesn’t have anything in it that she would find very exciting so that might be part of why she stays put. We just have our belongings & no toys.
She has her own bed room that we do naps in and she plays in as well. It’s a small room with a memory foam mattress on the floor and no box spring. We put karate studio mats down on the floor and have a soft fabric basket full of soft stuffed toys. I’ve put her to sleep in here and she won’t make it through the entire night, but it’s good to have a space that she likes for solo sleep & in general. It’s also possible to set something like this up in a larger space if you surround it with some kind of enclosure. At any rate, if you don’t think you want to go the route of using a crib you don’t have to. You can breastfeed and sneak away without having to move her into another space. You just need to create a non-crib space that’s safe to leave her in. It’s been working great for us and now that I’m weaning her I think that we will be putting her down to start the night in her floor-bed room more & more.
Everyone sleeps differently.