Please excuse the rambliness of this post
[name]Hi[/name] there. I”ve been on the quest for a name for my coffeebean (her in utero-nickname) who is due on [name]September[/name] 10th for basically my entire pregnancy. My husband and I have one son who was named without much thought. My husband is a III, so there was little debate about whether my son would be a IV, my husband felt strongly about it and I was cool with it. So our son is [name]Courtland[/name] [name]Joseph[/name] IV, my DH goes by [name]Tripp[/name], his dad goes by [name]Joseph[/name] and his granddad (who’s still alive) goes by [name]Courtland[/name]. Our son goes by [name]Court[/name].
So here”s the dilemma. When I found out I was preggo again I was sure it was a boy and I had my heart set on naming him after my dad, [name]James[/name] [name]Montgomery[/name]. My dad single handedly raised my brother and I after my parents divorced when I was three. Growing up my dad was like a rock star to me, the coolest dad around- he was my idol. However, when we were told this baby was a girl I had a mix of emotions. In our attempt to find a name that, emotion wise, measured up to my dads name we started searching for other means of honoring him. Use a name with the same meaning? The only girls name that shares the meaning that we remotely liked was [name]Jacqueline[/name], but my brother has a son named [name]Jackson[/name], so we thought that was too close. [name]How[/name] about a feminine version of [name]James[/name]? Doesn”t exist (other than [name]Jamie[/name], and DH is not fond of nicknames as full names). So then we moved onto initials. Go with J.M? We liked [name]Julia[/name] [name]Margaret[/name] but it seemed devoid of meaning. Same initials same syllables? [name]June[/name] [name]Mirabella[/name]? Still not doing much. Then my husband said it- why don”t we just name her [name]James[/name]? Change the spelling ([name]Jaymes[/name])? Give a really feminine middle? We could call her [name]Jamie[/name], of [name]Jay[/name], or Jamsie, or [name]Jem[/name]? We could double it, [name]James[/name] [name]Bellamy[/name] = [name]Jamie[/name] [name]Belle[/name], or [name]James[/name] [name]Mae[/name] = [name]Jamie[/name] [name]Mae[/name] (to keep the initial thing). And since then I can”t get it out of my head.I haven”t mentioned the name to friends, family- even my dad (because I know he would be unbelievably happy if I named any child, boy or girl after him, and just in case we change our mind I don”t want to let him down)- and I”m terrified I will get loads of dirty looks.
[name]Do[/name] you guys have any advice? What would you do in this circumstance? And if you were to name a girl [name]James[/name], would you keep the traditional spelling (I”m a total traditionalist but for some reason this feels different, but maybe I”m crazy), and what kind of middle would you use? Also if anyone out there has a child with an unusual/gender-bending name I”d love to hear about your experiences. Thanks so much!