tw: toxic parenting
[name_m]Sebulon[/name_m] " [name_m]Seb[/name_m] " [name_m]Aatos[/name_m] Rantanen (26) is one of Margaret’s partners but isn’t father to either of her children - a decision they’ve made based on also seeing someone else in line with their polyamorous lifestyle, and want to include her in these decision making processes due to believing all of their relationships should be treated equally, especially major decision making such as starting to have children. Originally from Finland, [name_m]Seb[/name_m] and [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] met through an online forum where they discussed growing up in unpleasant environments. Seb’s upbringing was dominated by his extremely controlling helicopter parents who expected him and his younger sibling, who’s non-binary, to adhere to their will without questions. This reached a head when his father destroyed an acceptance letter offering a music scholarship [name_m]Seb[/name_m] had applied for as he wanted his son to study business or politics at university, seeing arts as pointless and barely tolerating Seb’s music lessons - which the teenager paid for himself. Thankfully, Seb’s chosen university resent his scholarship offer and he left as quickly as possible, with his sibling moving in with him the second they turned eighteen after a prolonged secret correspondence between the two siblings.
The friendship with Margaret’s other partner means a great deal to [name_m]Seb[/name_m] and he usually discusses his career with them extensively. Right now [name_m]Seb[/name_m] does composition for indie films and teaches the harp, pinao and violin as well, having never lost his passion. He also performs in a symphonic metal orchestra established by one of his uni friends - his best friend as he openly calls him, although Seb’s quick to point out the other holder of this title is his co-parent - and has a very composed, understanding and patient attitude, which he admits is cultivated to stop ever being like his own parents. Still, he misses Finland greatly and has visited several times with his younger sibling, as well as [name_f]Margaret[/name_f], her other partner and their children (but this has been on hold since her pregnancy). [name_m]Seb[/name_m] met his girlfriend while holidaying with his sibling after attending a polyamorist get-together in his home city of Joensuu; but immediately let [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] know after spending a night getting to know his other girlfriend, as he didn’t want to pursue something without clarifying things with his existing partner. As Seb’s girlfriend is still working in Finland their relationship is long-distance based for the most part but he’d like her to become a more permanent part of their family due to how equality means so much to him.