I’m sure this has already been a thread before several times but I was wondering if anyone has named their kids names that seem like very different styles. Or was part of a sibset where the names are very different.
Our boys are named [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] and [name_u]Jasper[/name_u] because we loved the names but if we have another boy we could potentially use a more “out there” name.
DH likes [name_m]Valentin[/name_m]/e, [name_m]Ulysses[/name_m], [name_u]Constantine[/name_u], [name_m]Barnabas[/name_m] and [name_m]Amadeus[/name_m]. I love all these names but they seem “big” compared to our other boys’ names.
Opinions? Does it really matter all that much if names “fit” together?
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You’re right. I suppose it’s more that they are less common than that they are truly different styles. 
I suppose I should add to the question: siblings with more common names vs less common ones.
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Personally I do think it’s nice when a sibling set has a general style. I do think it’s odd when you have names in the same family which sound in style completely different. For example [name_u]Artemis[/name_u], [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u] & [name_m]Steven[/name_m] just seem weird where does [name_m]Steven[/name_m] come from? [name_u]Artemis[/name_u] & [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u] are so stylistically different from [name_m]Steven[/name_m] I just think it looks strange. Similarly if you had [name_f]Mary[/name_f] & [name_u]June[/name_u] I think it would be strange to name your daughter [name_f]Autumn[/name_f], [name_u]Bailey[/name_u] or [name_u]Zola[/name_u]. However I think [name_u]Artemis[/name_u], [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u] & [name_m]Ezekiel[/name_m] could work despite [name_m]Ezekiel[/name_m] being VERY different to [name_u]Artemis[/name_u] and [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u]. [name_m]Just[/name_m] like I think [name_f]Mary[/name_f], [name_u]June[/name_u] & [name_f]Thea[/name_f] could work despite [name_f]Thea[/name_f] being different to [name_f]Mary[/name_f] and [name_u]June[/name_u].
So essentially I think in your case it depends how ‘bold’ your going to go I think [name_m]Valentin[/name_m] would work but I think [name_m]Amadeus[/name_m] is too stylistically clashing. In my eyes your sibling set seems nerdy cool it has a distinguished upper class British vibe. So I think some of these names could work if you changed them up slightly like [name_m]Barnaby[/name_m] instead of [name_m]Barnabas[/name_m]. I don’t see the issue with going slightly different to your previous children’s names. But I do think when you say them together make sure your not having a [name_u]Artemis[/name_u], [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u] & [name_m]Steven[/name_m] moment as that would be weird.
Good luck
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Agree. I think [name_m]Steven[/name_m] might feel left out in a way. 
@whatchamacallit yeah I think [name_m]Steven[/name_m] would be walking around with a chip on his shoulder for sure 
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I know a lot of people with stylistically different sibsets irl and it doesn’t seem to matter much to them, it really just annoys me 
. Like my best friend has a greek goddess name (he’s a boy) and his sisters have more normal greek names. But it doesn’t bother him and his name has a great family meaning behind it. I also know a sibset of J0rd@na and Sydn3y irl and it doesn’t matter to them.
On the other hand, I guess my own sibset is pretty mismatched too and it doesn’t bother me . [name_f]My[/name_f] sister has a [name_u]French[/name_u] name, me and my twin have unisex surname-names, and my 2 little brothers have traditional Hebrew/Jewish names. It isn’t really noticeable during daily life.
In the end, I think it’s more important to pick names you love than try and have all your kids match perfectly!
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I would agree with what @tori101 said.
My brothers are Oliver and Matthew, whereas my name is Katya. Our sibset works, but my name is different from the style of names they have. It’s why I more often than not go by Katie, because it makes me feel like my name fits in a bit more.
I hope that makes sense.
However, I do think it’s important to choose names that you love. Even if they don’t fit together.
Good luck 
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My name is [name_f]Liberty[/name_f], yet my brother is called [name_m]Luke[/name_m]. I think because they both start with an L they roll off the tongue so the stylistic difference doesn’t sound a o striking, but I definitely notice it! [name_m]Luke[/name_m] is a very ordinary classic with [name_f]Liberty[/name_f] being rather wacky, but I think both are made to feel more special and hand-picked because of the difference to the other.
I also know a sibset of [name_u]Toby[/name_u], [name_f]Mattea[/name_f], [name_m]Josh[/name_m] + [name_m]Rupert[/name_m]. There are no Italian connections so [name_f]Mattea[/name_f] is very random amongst such a classic British set!
Perhaps in both scenarios the fact the genders of the kids with different styles are different makes it more natural. [name_u]Toby[/name_u], [name_m]Josh[/name_m], [name_m]Rupert[/name_m] + [name_m]Mateo[/name_m] would be weirder, whilst [name_f]Mary[/name_f] + [name_f]Liberty[/name_f] or [name_m]Luke[/name_m] + [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u] would be strange, even though [name_m]Luke[/name_m] is stylistically close to [name_f]Mary[/name_f] and [name_u]Phoenix[/name_u] to [name_f]Liberty[/name_f].
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I like [name_m]Barnabas[/name_m] with your boys names! Nn [name_m]Barney[/name_m] for short!! [name_u]Love[/name_u] it
I’ll also suggest [name_u]Valor[/name_u] and [name_m]Talon[/name_m].
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I don’t think that [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] and [name_u]Jasper[/name_u] are so far away from those others because they’re all Victorian era names.
Arthur, [name_u]Jasper[/name_u] and [name_u]Valentine[/name_u] go really well together
Ulysses I think fits the least well
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I don’t think it matters that much. It’s one thing if the names are on completely different ends of the spectrum, but all of the examples you listed would make a wonderful sibset!
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The time I see this becoming an issue is when one kid has a really popular name and the other has a really uncommon name. For example, sisters named [name_f]Emma[/name_f] and [name_f]Evadne[/name_f]. [name_f]Evadne[/name_f] might be jealous that [name_f]Emma[/name_f] can find her name on every keychain kiosk while on vacation but [name_f]Emma[/name_f] might be jealous that [name_f]Evadne[/name_f] doesn’t have to share her name with someone in their class.
I don’t think A and J have super common names—familiar, but not popular. Personally, I’ve known one [name_u]Jasper[/name_u] and no Arthurs. So while some of the names you listed might be a different style, I don’t foresee you having a problem like the [name_f]Emma[/name_f]/Evadne example I presented.
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Yes, this is what I would be worried about. That the one with the more unusual name might feel like the odd man out or the others might feel like their name wasn’t as unique. I’ll try to keep a good balance to avoid that.
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