So my partner likes traditional names and I hate them.
Not even game to bring up names as I know we won’t agree again.
What do I do???
I have my heart set on a name >
[name_m]Tobias[/name_m] [name_u]Glen[/name_u]
[name_u]Love[/name_u] [name_m]Tobias[/name_m] always have and [name_u]Glen[/name_u] is my father’s name.
I’m sure he will want to change it however to [name_u]Toby[/name_u] which is fine for a nickname but I don’t want it to be his actual name on the birth certificate. Sigh how do we come to a compromise over this?? Anyone else been in a similar situation?
Did you look under the “Similair Names” tab? You might find something with a similar feel that you like. Giving your kid a name you’re positive he’ll just shorten is a risk-what if he thinks [name_u]Toby[/name_u] stinks to? Honestly, [name_u]Toby[/name_u] sounds like an old ladies dog.
My mom gave me an awful old classic name relying on me either liking it or the nickname. Neither happened. I’ve learned to live with the nickname but it’s certainly not liked!
I know you don’t want to, but I would bring the name up with your partner before you assume he won’t like it. People who lean towards traditional names seem to like [name_m]Tobias[/name_m] in my experience (or at least [name_m]Tobiah[/name_m]).
If the name is that important, your partner may be willing to compromise.
Not discussing the names will get you no where. You may be surprised in that he likes it.