I’m secretly hoping you have one girl & one boy so this dilemma is solved. For me, I don’t think I could bestow the name on either of them. Sibling rivalries are pretty intense, twin rivalries may be more so & I wouldn’t want to start with this small thorn of contention that one is carrying on the IV & the other is not. I also think it’s a stretch to use maternal names–[name]Baby[/name] A gets a macho handed down for centuries name & [name]Baby[/name] B gets a masculine deviation of a girl name?!
I sure wish I had some good options for you! If it were me, I would use your husband’s first name as both of their middle names & find unique first names for each of them.
Love Jackie, too bad you aren’t using it. I disagree with the other posters. The first son gets the name, whether you have twins, triplets, quads, whatever. Who’s to say that Jackie/Drew won’t be jealous that he doesn’t get an original name? Siblings will always have rivalry
Go international for unusual nicknames for James. I like Shea, because Seamus= James. There’s also Diego, Kimo, Coby and Tiago
Sorry if I’m out of line but, I think your husband is being kinda selfish. [name]How[/name] he can think [name]Drew[/name] won’t get mistaken for [name]Andrew[/name] yet thinks [name]Jake[/name] can’t work for [name]James[/name] is crazy. It seems like you are doing a lot of compromising.
I don’t think I would name either of them the IV, but if he’s dead set on [name]Jackie[/name] [name]Randall[/name] and you like [name]Gerald[/name], but don’t want it as a first name, what if the first born had the initials [name]JR[/name] and the second had the initials RJ and you could spell it [name]Jerald[/name]? And then pick a first name that means something to YOU.
We had a serious talk about it tonight and I don’t think he hates [name]Jake[/name] as much as he made it sound when he texted me earlier. I think he realizes that if I really can’t live with any other nickname he needs to decide which is more important…keeping [name]James[/name] [name]Robert[/name] and compromising on the nickname or starting over.
He said if that was the ONLY way I could use [name]James[/name] [name]Robert[/name] than we could go with [name]Jake[/name], but that he might call him J.R. occasionally. I said that was fine as long as [name]Jake[/name] is his primary name and we don’t confuse him. So we have an agreement for now. I don’t know what made him change his mind. Maybe the [name]Drew[/name]/[name]Andrew[/name] thing, because he even said so people are going to say, “Oh [name]Andrew[/name] and [name]Jacob[/name]?” and they will just look at each other knowingly. We both laughed about it.
So we’ve reached an agreement! [name]Drew[/name] & [name]Jake[/name]. Hopefully it doesn’t change!
[name]Glad[/name] you’ve reached an agreement. I have another idea though! If he really can’t come to terms with [name]Jake[/name], could you could have a [name]Jackie[/name] [name]Randall[/name] IV nn [name]Drew[/name], and a [name]James[/name] [name]Randall[/name] nn [name]Quade[/name] (i took this from QUADruple). So then your twin guys would be [name]Drew[/name] & [name]Quade[/name]. Now that is a killer combo!
And while, yes, [name]James[/name] [name]Randall[/name] nn [name]Quade[/name] wouldn’t technically be a quadruple (instead a quintuple), it could be that tie to his dad that you are looking for.
Also, totally out of the blue. Would it be that weird to name both boys [name]Jackie[/name] [name]Randall[/name]? Firts born the IV, second the V? [name]Drew[/name] & [name]Quint[/name]? If they go exclusively by [name]Drew[/name] & [name]Quint[/name], this might work? Or is this in any way possible even giving sons, let alone twin sons, the same name?
you are very intuitive! We actually thought about using [name]Quade[/name] (or some variation) instead of [name]Drew[/name], but DH is a bit more traditional and [name]Drew[/name] just kind of stuck. DH even said during our discussion last night what is stopping us from naming them both the 4th? LOL…it would be a little strange, but when you think about it [name]Jackie[/name] and [name]James[/name] basically are the same name. [name]James[/name] comes from [name]Jacob[/name] (hence why I am ok with the nickname [name]Jake[/name]) as do all forms of [name]Jack[/name]. They both mean “supplanter”.
So basically we are giving them two variations of the same name, honoring two different paternal great grandfathers, with the same initials and same meaning. [name]Jackie[/name] = [name]Drew[/name] and [name]James[/name] = [name]Jake[/name]. Could be confusing, but oh well. It works for us
I’m so glad you’ve come to a compromise that didn’t steamroll all of your opinions. It did seem like it was turning out that way earlier in the posts, so that’s a relief.
What about [name]James[/name], nn [name]Jay[/name]? I know someone with this name and I have always loved it. And it’s a bit more intuitive than [name]Jake[/name] from [name]James[/name] (but I agree this is a valid nn for [name]James[/name] and I’m impressed with all your research!)
I also wanted to commend your creativity in coming up with [name]Drew[/name] as a nn for “the IV”. I absolutely [name]LOVE[/name] the creative nicknames people come up with for numbered/succession names, and this is the most creative I’ve heard yet – [name]Love[/name] it!!!
Thanks! I actually had a teacher who did the [name]Drew[/name] thing and I told my DH who loved it. Senior goes by [name]Jackie[/name], [name]Junior[/name] goes by [name]Randy[/name], and DH goes by [name]Trey[/name].
