We’ve always loved [name_u]Emery[/name_u] nick name “[name_f]Emmie[/name_f]” for a girl. And had it picked out first time around but had a boy - my sister had a boy 4 months after us and named her son something super similar to it. His name is Emrik btw!
We’re TTC baby nr. 2 and have been trying to find another baby girl name we love if we were lucky enough to get pregnant again, but we keep going back to it.
If the time comes and we do have a girl I would probably talk to my sister. I’m not sure how she will react to it.
But if it was you would you be offended if I said we had picked that name out long before we had nr.1 and were considering using it for a girl now? They would be first cousins and grow up 3 or more years apart most likely not in the same school. But there is obviously family gatherings etc whenever that is allowed again.
if your nephew goes by [name_f]Emmie[/name_f], definitely too close. if not, it depends on what your sister thinks (i personally wouldn’t care but i know some people would)
I would use the name we had picked out, if that’s the only one we both love. The sister’s opinion wouldn’t matter for me because it’s not exactly the same name. And it’s not unusual to have similar/the same names running in the family, so go with what you like as it’s your baby.
If I was in your sisters position, and you explained that you’d had the name picked out for a long time, I would be ok with it. Maybe if they had different nicknames, that could make it a little less confusing
I hope she will. But she can be a bit opinionated We live in Norway, and nick names aren’t really a big thing, so she doesn’t have any for her kids. So it would be [name_u]Emery[/name_u] and Emrik at family gatherings, and she would be [name_u]Emery[/name_u] or [name_f]Emmie[/name_f] at home!
We’re having such a hard time finding something else we like just as much. We TTC’d for almost 3 years with our first. And had it picked out before that😅 but yeah a part of me wants to find one I love just as much but 5 years later I’m still going back to that…
I personally don’t think they’re too close. But I would suggest discussing it with your sister, I would hate not using a name I love and then finding out later she wouldn’t have cared!.
If she does care, and that puts you off the name, you might consider Everly as an alternative? There’s also Amerie, Amory, Avery, or maybe even Almerie or Demarest (de-mar-eh)
I dont mind [name_u]Everly[/name_u] but my wife doesn’t like it. I don’t think we have major laws, other than don’t call your child certain rude things etc. she would be the only female with the name where we live. And there are 4 or less male Emerys. So it would be different whereas Emrik is super popular.
We have [name_u]Avery[/name_u] on our list. So that’s an alternative!
I wouldn’t think it’s an issue at all if I were your sister. I can’t really imagine telling someone they can’t use the name they’ve loved for years because the first syllable is the same as my own toddler’s. That seems a bit overbearing. Go with what you love!
fine I think! It’s so important to have a name you love. And looking back, I don’t think either child will mind having names similar. It’ll just be the norm for them. It’s a sweet story to be able to tell your daughter how long you’ve loved her name and waited to be able to use it. Good luck!!!
I wouldnt worry about it that much. The names are different! If you think your sister will be bothered then be sensitive to that but don’t be bullied into not using your preferred name. I would not ask her for permission to use the name. [name_m]Just[/name_m] stick to explaining your choice if you feel you have to tell her beforehand.
I would definitely explain the situation to your sister, but ultimately go with the name you love most. Emrik & [name_u]Emery[/name_u] are close, but it isn’t like they’re siblings! Not the same exact situation, but I have two cousins named Tr!sta and Kr!sta (also cousins), and no one ever thought it was strange. The fact that they’ll be a few years apart also helps the situation.
Also, at family gatherings and such, they could just be referred to as their full names ([name_u]Emery[/name_u] or Emrik), rather than [name_f]Emmie[/name_f], and I don’t see how there would be any confusion! You also don’t know how close they’ll be when they get older, they may not see eachother very often (now that most of us are adults, I have a few cousins I haven’t seen in years!).
Hopefully your sister will understand that it’s a name you’ve always loved, and would hate to not use it! I definitely dont think you should feel forced to choose a different name though. I would feel differently if it were the same exact name, but it isn’t, so I think you’re okay!
If you’re still worried, and I see you can’t use [name_u]Ellery[/name_u], there’s also [name_u]Embry[/name_u] and [name_f]Emberly[/name_f], which still have the “[name_f]Em[/name_f]” beginning, but I think the B seperates them a bit more. There’s also [name_u]Everly[/name_u], [name_u]Remy[/name_u], or [name_f]Effemy[/name_f] which are similar in sound!
If I was your sister, I wouldn’t be bothered. They have such different vibes that I don’t really find them all that similar, even though they start the same.
Definitely speak with you sister! Hopefully she understands.
If you want some other suggestions, how about [name_u]Emerson[/name_u]? It’s got the same vibes but could use both [name_u]Emery[/name_u] and [name_f]Emmie[/name_f] as nicknames!
They arent too close.
Life is too short.
Make things as simple as possible.
It’s your kid, name her what you want.
If you love the name [name_u]Emery[/name_u], name her [name_u]Emery[/name_u].
Adults are responsible for their own feelings – including you for your own happiness.
If anyone has questions, flatly state that you and husband fell in love with it out back in [year], and the name brings u guys such joy that you couldnt imagine any other name for your daughter. And you’re excited for them to meet her. Etc
We live in Norway, and nick names aren’t really a big thing, so she doesn’t have any for her kids. So it would be [name_u]Emery[/name_u] and Emrik at family gatherings, and she would be [name_u]Emery[/name_u] or [name_f]Emmie[/name_f] at home! 
fine I think! It’s so important to have a name you love. And looking back, I don’t think either child will mind having names similar. It’ll just be the norm for them. It’s a sweet story to be able to tell your daughter how long you’ve loved her name and waited to be able to use it. Good luck!!!