As the title suggests do you have any members of your family who really try to put you off a name? How do you deal with it?
We kept our name choices to ourselves because my one of my family members is too opinionated and we didn’t want to hear it. If you love a name, use it! [name_m]Don[/name_m]’t let anyone change that. They will get used to your child’s name and eventually won’t be able to picture them named anything else. And if they don’t… who cares! Its your kid.
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Very true. It’s only with our girl option.
I love the name [name_f]Tabitha[/name_f] but my parents don’t but I think they had their opportunity to name children when they had me and my sister and bro lol. I’m sure they’ll get used to it. Of course this is all speculative anyway as will be TTC our third and last from [name_f]April[/name_f]. ( And could potentially have a third boy anyways)
Unfortunately my family has been extremely opinionated about everyone else’s names in the family, but have little opinion about my names (with the exception of a couple of highly negative comments). I plan on keeping names to myself and my SO when the time comes as I have a feeling it will most likely be the opposite at that time.
I plan on keeping everything a surprise not only because I like the idea of having a surprise for both gender and name, but I know that my pregnancies will be high risk and I won’t need the extra stress the “helpful” critiques of family members will bring.
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I think you have a great selection of names 
sorry to hear how negative they could potentially be with names. Sounds like the right approach to not tell anyone.
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Yep. Ignore them. Unless their point is valid and you hadn’t thought of it and it really is a problem. It’s important to really love a name before you share it because then you’ll feel strong enough to support your name and they’ll sense your certainty with the decision and leave you alone.
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Brilliant point. Thanks I actually went through my reasons for liking [name_f]Tabitha[/name_f] and I am determined not to be swayed!
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Also how do you deal with the pressure to reveal lmao. 
If family members really ask for the names you have.
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Tabitha is gorgeous! And, yes, I felt scared to announce my firsts name but I focused on the fact that I loved it and that’s all that mattered. It was much easier the second time, I think.
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Oh, I think I misunderstood you with my other comment. Lol
If they keep bugging you, tell them you’re going to name the baby Shoepolish Astronaut if they keep asking. [name_u]Or[/name_u], you can say her name is [name_f]Tabitha[/name_f] and that’s that. 
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I don’t think you misunderstood hah. It’s frustrating when people don’t share your views or love of a name. [name_f]Tabitha[/name_f] shoepolish astronaut has a nice ring to it Thank you for the advice
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Probably they would.
Which is why it’s best [imo] not to share with folks whose interest in the name discussion is anything besides “help my [friend/sister/cousin/etc] find a name that she loves.” If you think their mindset might even possibly be “I don’t want a [grandkid/nephew] named X Y or Z,” then… skip!
If they are bugging you to reveal and you don’t want to, all you have to say is that you’re still tossing some around and will definitely let them know! Or tell them that you’re going to wait until you meet him/her. That’s a real conversation ender. Lol.
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Unless you have already shared I would seriously consider keeping it to yourself for the reasons @shells15 and @Summs have mentioned. If you would like feedback on your choices I think forums such as NB are really helpful and being name nerds, are genuinely interested in being helpful. IMO, a surprise is more fun anyway. When I know what a friend is having and the name chosen, well just waiting to know the birth weight is kind of ho-hum. If people are bugging to you tell them I would just be honest and say “We are keeping it a surprise”, or “We are still considering names and keeping them to ourselves until baby arrives”.
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We didn’t reveal the names until they were born. I did ask my mom very early on in pregnancy (before we knew the genders) if she thought A and J went together or were too close and her response was positive, but I never told her which names we would actually pick.
My MIL straight up asked if they could name the babies and let us know that her pick was [name_u]Noah[/name_u] and [name_m]Abraham[/name_m]. 
Everyone was very positive about A’s name but when we told MIL and FIL J’s name she was like “hmmm…how about [name_m]Gaspar[/name_m]?” And FIL said it was “a little girly” (I have no idea).
This was when they were just born. We reiterated that this was his name and we liked it and no one has said anything negative since.
Funnily enough, my husband’s grandma loved both names.
Just ignore them if you can. They will definitely learn to love the name when it’s their grandkid’s name.
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A and J’s names are literally perfect together. lol I’ve always loved Noah but Abraham is a bit old school biblical lol.
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