[name]Just[/name] wondering if any of you let your friends and family influence name choices! 
If you loved a name would you use it regardless of if they all hated it and criticized you?
[name]How[/name] far do you take their opinions and feelings into account?
The more I talk to my family about their opinions on my name choices, the more I seem not to care what they think. At first, I took their opinions really seriously and now I could care less, realizing the only opinion that matters is mine.
I wouldn’t let my family or friends decide in any form or way. I honestly don’t care what my family thinks. If my friends didn’t like a name, I would be a little hurt, but it would hurt me more not to name the kid the name I love. Plus they’ll get used to it and love it because it’s my child.
I have been made fun of by an ex-best friend of mine for my name choices in the past, and that never made me stop liking a name. That could be because she was not a very nice person and I didn’t value her opinion anyway.
I occasionally run names by my parents every once in awhile, and they usually like the names, although I haven’t done that recently.
I value my sister’s opinion over anyone else, because we are very close in age and she’s one of the most important people in my life. She has always liked my names and we have gotten ideas from each other too.
I plan to keep my name(s) secret until my baby is born so they don’t get ruined for me. I will probably blab the secret to my sister and mother as long as they both promised to actually keep it a secret!
I think it depends on why they dislike the name.
A difference in style? No way would I take that in to account.
A worry about either a family problem, or negative cultural association or something like that? I’d definitely take that in to consideration.
I know I won’t be able to please everyone, though, so I’m not concerned with making anyone happy with the name choice apart from my child, its father and myself.
Yes, unfortunately. My mom laughed her head off when I told her I liked [name]Hazel[/name]. So, the name is pretty much unusable for me now. Sigh.
I wouldn’t let a difference in styles bother me but if a close friend or family member had a legitimate problem with a name (e.g. they were abused by a person with that name) then I would absolutely be sensitive to their feelings.
If someone doesn’t like my names I find out what names they like and if they are a totally different style to mine or are kreatively spelled or named after footballers then I know I can completely disregard! If a good friend with good taste raised concerns about a name I would think about it but ultimately my husband and I will make the decision and to heck with what everybody else thinks, they can name their own kids!
I don’t know. In some ways, it affects me. My mom has always been a huge proponent of [name]Charles[/name] nn [name]Charlie[/name] for a boy. If she would have had her way, I’m sure that would have been my little brother’s name, but my dad never liked it. I have come to just love [name]Charles[/name] as a MN for a boy because of that, and hopefully I’ll get to use [name]Charles[/name] one day, and if I do, she’ll have every right to call my son [name]Charlie[/name] rather than [name]Everett[/name] or [name]Bailey[/name] or [name]Caleb[/name] (and I truly hope she will!). To everyone else he’ll be Ev or [name]Rhett[/name] or [name]Everett[/name], but to my mom, he’ll be [name]Charlie[/name]. [name]Just[/name] a special nn between [name]Everett[/name] and grandma. I think that’s why I like [name]Charlotte[/name] and [name]Caroline[/name], too–not the same thing, but still tied to [name]Charles[/name], so that’s why they appeal. They remind me of my mom.
But mostly, no, they don’t affect me at all. [name]Early[/name] on in looking at names my mom made sure we all knew that even if the names weren’t her cup of tea, or my dad’s, or my siblings’, it mattered more what I liked, since it would be my child. So while I like to get their opinions on my favorites, usually it doesn’t bug me when they don’t like the names. My sisters and I have somewhat similar style in names, anyway, and we’ve already fought over half my boys’ list. haha. At least they don’t love my top choice for each gender.
When I actually get married and I start deciding on names with my husband, though, I definitely won’t be sharing names. [name]Even[/name] if my family is great about it, I wouldn’t know how to predict how his family will react, and I just want to be able to surprise everyone with our decision. [name]Even[/name] if I adopt alone, I probably won’t reveal the name until I bring my child home, or make introductions at the hospital. There’s got to be at least some element of surprise, I think. Otherwise, where’s the fun?
Not really. They were all pretty taken aback when they found out the name of my oldest daughter ([name]Delaney[/name]) but then again, I named her at the hospital. What could they say then? lol. [name]Ryley[/name]'s name was pretty set early on, no one said anything. My mom did say once that she thought my girls have “weird” middle names…but this is coming from the woman who has daughters with the middle names [name]Lynn[/name] and [name]Marie[/name]…so I wasn’t offended. I actually would have liked to have used her name ([name]Kimberly[/name]) somehow, but I know she doesn’t like her name so I decided against it. I’m willing to bet that if I have another baby, they will be a bit thrown by what I pick again. 
Not really, but then again, it depends on who I ask. Lately, I have been running names by my mom and she seems to be alright with them. She knows I like watching [name]Asian[/name] dramas, so occasionally, she will ask if I will incorporate a Japanese or [name]Indian[/name] name as a middle name. She more or less encourages me to do so, lol. Basically, she tells me she will not truly like a name that I have picked, because when she comes to like it–I will change it. Lol I do admit that I am every where with my names at times. She just smiles long enough to appease me and then continue with another topic.
My maternal grandmother, lol, she is truly laughable when I discuss names. I remember telling her that I liked the name [name]Persephone[/name] and her reaction was hilarious. “Oh come on [name]CoCo[/name], really, are you serious? That name sounds like death, some type of horrible disease. That would be just mean to do. Oh my, are you trying to curse the baby or something.” Lol, low and behold, the meaning of [name]Persephone[/name] was “bringer of death.” Lol. She is the one that will tell me the truth without really sugar coating things.
My eldest sister, when I think about a name, I may run it by her to see what she thinks. [name]Just[/name] another person to get some ideas by, even if she does not care too much for a name, I may still use it as a contender. I just want my older sister’s opinion.
My six nieces, lol, they can be very opinionated. They range from ages 8-15, so they will let me know if they know a whole bunch of people with that name, or they don’t think its cool or too overrated. They will even try to help me think of some names, but honestly, they are not truly my style, but if in a 1-10 chance they say something that I can work with, I will see if I can find an alternative I may like.
No matter what I name my blessing, my family will be happy. I figure, no matter what you name your child, people will have their own bias opinion about any name. Whether they are too old fashion, modern, spelled uniquely, boyish, girlish, etc. If my child can grow to love their name as much as I still do when I named them, then that’s all that matters. As long as you and/or your partner is happy with that name, then that’s all that matter.
It would depend on why they dislike it but what family or society thinks matters to me and is a pretty big deal to my dh.
My family and friends are very honest so they won’t sugarcoat things. If they see a problem with the name they’ll bring it to my attention but they won’t rag on me and be hurtful. They understand that I have a different style so they won’t shoot down a name just because they wouldn’t use it
Because the child will be joining a family I think it’s important that the family can at least stomach the name. For ex, if I found out a name I loved was the name of a kid that tormented my mom all through school then I wouldn’t use it. You should be considerate but not a doormat
It would make not a blind bit of difference to me since we don’t let anyone know what is on our list and they don’t find out the name until after baby is born