I used to have no problem at all telling everyone my favorite names and combos, but now that my boyfriend and I are actually discussing having children, I find myself not wanting to post my combos at all… Maybe I’m afraid that someone that’s actually having a baby right now would steal them. Is that silly? I’ve just put so much time and love into finding the perfect names and I’d hate to see a baby berry born and given one of my names. Can you guys give me your opinions on this? [name]Do[/name] you have this problem too?
Hahahaha. I feel like this all the time. I guess it helps that I’m not really a combos kinda gal. Two middle names but no set combos.
But I feel ya. It might be a little silly not to want to share them because you are afraid someone will “steal” them. However, they are the names you are thinking about giving your most precious things in the world. You want those combos to be special and unique to your child. I get that. Though I have to remind myself that it is very unlikely that the person who would steal your names would live next door to you or that you would ever really know.
I don’t post mine mostly because I fear they will be too recognizable and link specifically to me one day. With my last name being what it is (I think there might be maybe 200 in the US with the same last name) I feel uncomfortable posting my second mn and ln. And I feel the same way with my combo options. This is also something to consider if you are giving your child a name that is given about 5 times a year and pair it with an equally underused name.
I don’t feel this way at all on public forums like this, but I do hesitate to discuss names on Facebook or in person. I worry about people “stealing” names and also harshly criticize. People tend to feel that it’s okay to make fun of the name before the baby is born and are much less likely to poke fun when they’re looking at a sweet little baby with a name they might not have chosen themselves.
Anyway, I guess my answer is just, no. In my opinion names are up for grabs. They’re out there, everyone is entitled to use them, if someone wants to name their baby something they didn’t come up with or choose on their own that they know someone else is using, that is their prerogative, as strange as it may be.
I don’t have much of an issue sharing on boards but [name]IRL[/name] I’m very hesitant on sharing. My younger sister has a habit of making fun of names and my mom can be rather harsh if she doesn’t like it. And she always wants to suggest names, her latest? [name]Marigold[/name] and [name]Fritz[/name]. There’s nothing wrong with them on other people’s kids but not on mine. Although she fully expects a little [name]James[/name] [name]Robert[/name] and something equally traditional on a granddaughter.
No, I’d just think the person has good taste if they came up with or used one of the same combos I’d use.
I don’t worry at all about people stealing my favorite names [name]IRL[/name] because most of the people I know aren’t name nerds and like the uber trendy type and unoriginal names. I’ve stopped sharing any information about my name ideas because people take it as an invite to tell me how much they hate the names whilst giving me suggestions that sound like a credits list to a porno flick. SMH.
I am still trying to get over sharing my names to others because right now four of my sister in laws are pregnant. I don’t want to share any of my favorite names with them, because it would hurt more if my favorite name combo was “stolen” by a family member. Now, if it was “stolen” by someone online that lives across the world, that I will most likely never meet ever, I don’t have much of a problem. It can still feel like something special is stolen from you though.
Not really, everyone has different tastes and most people want their child to be unique, so I highly doubt anyone would take both the first and middle name… Plus if anyone on here does, meh, I don’t know them so I don’t care. In real life I only share with a select few, my DH of course, sister, and best friend. My sister and best friend have totally different tastes than me and I will most likely have a child before them, so I don’t fear them stealing my name.
There is one combo I am keeping secret/holding out for a daughter. I don’t really know why I’m concerned, as neither of the names are very popular. But otherwise if a name I like fits the person asking’s taste, why not?
I have a few of combos that I am keeping secret that I KNOW I will use for a child. I would be ticked if a nameberry “took” the name combos for lack of better word.
Yeah, I never ask for opinions on my favourite names. Mostly it’s because if I like them, I like them and my opinion probably won’t change. I like helping people who want advice though.
I don’t necessarily worry about other people ‘stealing’ my names. Because, they’re names and people can use them if they like them, its their choice. But if they steal the whole combo then yes I get a bit annoyed. But then again, I don’t fully no anyone on here so I don’t mind discussing possible names for future children. I do hesitate on Facebook or Twitter, for example, because I am friends with people who I really know and it would definitely annoy me if I couldn’t use a name I truly love because one of my friends of family got there first.
For instance, my sister, [name]Cerys[/name], posted on Facebook that she was going to name her daughter [name]Delilah[/name] [name]Faith[/name] and she got relatively good responses.Then 2 weeks before [name]Delilah[/name] was meant to be born, a very good friends of hers name her daughter [name]Delilah[/name] [name]Hope[/name]. [name]Cerys[/name] was soooo annoyed because it was quite literally her daughters name but never said anything. She ended up naming her daughter [name]Eden[/name] [name]Lilyanne[/name] which I just adore.
I have no problem putting my favourite names on here or discussing them here but I would never mention them on facebook or twitter or even to my family especially to my sisters basically because I feel they would “steal” them.
For example I want to use [name]Willow[/name] as a middle for a daughter to honor my Papa [name]William[/name], since I dont really like [name]William[/name] for a boy and the other day my sister said she liked [name]Willow[/name] and I almost screamed no that is mine. Neither of us are pregnant, but we talk about names alot.
When I do eventually have children, my names will be kept secret until after they are born, is that silly? I put alot of thought into names, I like them to have meaning and flow nicely, I would hate someone to come along and “steal” all that hard work.
Ahahah exactly this! I can NOT discuss names with my friends. I just sit there and listen to them gab on about their preferences and secretly thank whatever part of my brain is my ‘name central’ for making (subjectively) good decisions. Plus, sharing names with my friends just earns me grimaces from them. They do know my favourite name is [name]Edmund[/name], but that’s pretty much general knowledge when it comes to getting to know me. Nobody liked it at first, including my mom, lol. I couldn’t care less.
I don’t have an issue sharing my favourites online, because I’m comfortable with my picks, plus they’re constantly “on the move” so nothing is set in stone and I’m happy like that (except [name]Edmund[/name]. This is pretty definite in my mind, but whoever I marry will need to be convinced). If someone nabs my combo, then cool. I’m happy to have a name twin with (biased opinion) fantastic taste. If I share and get zero support (this is what happens more often than not) then that’s also cool because I’m comfortable with what tops my list.
I’m not possessive in this way. I’ve seen people be super possessive over names and it scares me a lot, to be honest. Not saying anyone on here is like that, though, hahah.
I don’t think I am, just now that having kids is a possibility, things feel a little different than they used to. My boyfriend doesn’t want to tell anyone, haha. He’s like “it’s our little secret. If someone else uses it, you won’t want to anymore and I love our names.” he’s so funny
No, it doesn’t make me nervous. I think that my combos are all somewhat common though, which is why I feel that way. But a lot of the double middle name combos that a lot of Berries do-I think I’d be a little more protective of posting combos especially if they are very distinct.
If anything, I’d rather do it on here than on Facebook. I don’t think anyone really owns a name, but I hate the idea of posting favorites on Facebook, and then having them stolen, and then being accused of copying that person.
I’d be more nervous to share my favorites with family and/or friends, in case they stole something off my list…like [name]Julian[/name]. Thankfully, at this point, there seems to be very little chance of that happening, because all of the new babies I know of have fairly trendy names.
Now if my child shared the name with another baby [name]Berry[/name], I’m sure I’d be pleased and think that their parent(s) obviously have excellent taste.
Around pregnant or soon-to-be-pregnant friends and family members who are actually a part of my life, yeah, I’m a little nervous. I try not to think of it as name stealing because I really do believe that names are “first come, first served,” but if someone close to me uses one of my favorites, it’s obviously not an option for my child. I’d be sad and probably hurt, even though I’d try not to feel that way.
If a stranger on the Internet, who probably lives far away and whom I’ll never meet or communicate with off Nameberry, used one of my combos, I’d be unfazed. It wouldn’t stop me from using it for my own child. Feeling like I wouldn’t “lose” the name if it was used by someone here helps me not feel nervous.
I don’t mind sharing my favourite names online, that doesn’t bother me. I don’t know anyone on here [name]IRL[/name] so it isn’t a problem. However, I would be slightly annoyed if someone on here that I know has responded to posts of mine used one of my combo’s but I like to think they are pretty unique, e.g. something like [name]Pandora[/name] [name]Alice[/name] [name]Winter[/name] or [name]Ottilie[/name] [name]Isadora[/name] [name]Snow[/name]!
[name]IRL[/name] my best friends and I have different enough taste in names that I don’t think I have to worry. Some names cross over but we all have our “favourites” and those cannot be touched by anyone in our group. I do share some favourite names with them but my girls list is far too eccentric so I don’t even bother sharing most of them because I know what response I’ll get. When I told them I loved [name]Clementine[/name], all I got was “It’s a fruit” so my reply was “Well done, [name]Sherlock[/name] but that took ages to work out.”
I don’t mind sharing some of my favorite names, but I do stray away from posting my favorite name combos on here and anywhere else. I’m a name fanatic and have been configuring name combos for my future children since I can remember. Sometimes I don’t even tell my friends about the name combos I like because we do have similar taste. I’m sure if I just posted my name combos on here and someone liked it and used it for one of their future children I wouldn’t mind as much, but I would be devastated if someone close to me chose my exact name combo if they happened to be closer to a pregnancy then me. So as of right now, I’m just going to keep a couple things to myself.
