How important is it for sibling names to ‘go together?’ I’m sure that can mean different things to different people. I love the idea of [name_u]Vesper[/name_u] (probably nn Eppie) if #2 is a girl. DS is named [name_u]Oliver[/name_u], so I feel like the full firsts sound way too similar? Would I be okay using [name_u]Vesper[/name_u] as a first, or do I have to relegate it to the middle spot?
I think [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] and [name_u]Vesper[/name_u] go well together ! I love the shared v sounds and shared er ending !!
I think [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] and Lionheart wouldn’t go but I feel like [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] is a versatile name that can fit so well with so many names !
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I don’t think whether two names go together matters unless:
- It’s really difficult to say the names together (e.g. Vesper and Lester)
- The names are almost the same (e.g. Oliver and Olivia)
- The names make up a well-known pair (e.g. Mary Kate and Ashley)
- The names make up an undesirable word (e.g. Polly and Esther)
- The parents just don’t like the names together
Those are the only situations I can think of where it would matter to me. If you think you might get tongue-tied saying Vesper and Oliver together, or if you don’t like the sound of them together, I’d reconsider.
Edit: Forgot one! I also think it’s important to consider whether siblings might feel bad about their own name in comparison with a sibling’s. I wouldn’t give one girl a long, classically feminine name while her sister has a shorter, plainer name because there’s too much potential for jealousy there.
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Oliver and Vesper don’t exactly go together, but they don’t sound crazy or anything! Go with what you love.
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I ran into the same issue because I have an [name_u]Elliott[/name_u] and love [name_f]Violet[/name_f] for a girl. I was told they were too similar. And I decided to listen and so I probably won’t get to use [name_f]Violet[/name_f] unfortunately.
I feel its the same boat here with [name_u]Vesper[/name_u] and [name_u]Oliver[/name_u]. They have the same ending so its maybe somewhat awkward. However, all the names in my family end in N and my name rhymes with my mom’s name and honestly people don’t notice or make a fuss about it as much as you would think. Its rarely been pointed out.
These names are such different styles and if you predominantly use nicknames, then I think you might be able to pull it off! It depends on what you are comfortable with and if it bothers you.
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I’d find it more off-kilter if your first was [name_f]Olivia[/name_f] and you wanted to name the second [name_u]Vesper[/name_u]. I feel people often have different styles among girl and boy names. And as long as you keep consistent for any future children, I think they can work.
In any case, I find the repeated strong V and R sounds a bit… much, I guess, so I might use [name_u]Vesper[/name_u] in the middle. [name_u]Or[/name_u] maybe [name_f]Hesper[/name_f] instead
I’ve known siblings with very different names (Sunsh1ne and @rthur came to mind), and while people may be a little taken back at first -and even that may be overatating it - most people don’t care and it’s easy to get used to.
[name_u]Vesper[/name_u] and [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] are very different and unexpected but I think they could work
I’m not big on cohesive sibsets. Not everybody out there is a name nerd, so most people would barely notice if the names “don’t go together”. And personally I don’t really care about it. I would be surprised if [name_u]John[/name_u] turned out to have a sister names [name_f]Andromeda[/name_f], but in general I don’t mind.
I think that sibling names automatically go together just because they are siblings. Some do fit the same style or vibes. But I don’t think they have to. I think [name_u]Vesper[/name_u] and [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] still together just fine!
I don’t think they’re too mismatched stylistically, and in fact they feel a little matchy because of sharing so many of the same sounds (but not overly so.)
For me personally, I am massively big on cohesion when it comes to names. I think sibling names should sound well matched. Would be weird to meet a [name_u]Jayden[/name_u] who’s brother was a [name_u]Constantine[/name_u] for example.
Whilst [name_u]Oliver[/name_u] and [name_u]Vesper[/name_u] are not matchy in terms of popularity or style, they have similar endings which make them feel cohesive, so I think you could get away with it.