I’m considering the possibility of giving my daughter two middle names, but would that make it so it’d be weird if I didn’t do so for future children?
I’ve wondered the same thing! [name_f]IMO[/name_f], I don’t think it would be weird. It’s more important to love the name you give your kiddo and not feel like you have to stick to a strict sibset pattern.
I personally would give all my kids two middle names if i did so for one but it you wanna mix it up then go for it! I had a friend whose name was [name_u]Dorian[/name_u] [name_f]Michelle[/name_f] Fairborn and her her brothers name was [name_m]Fisher[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] and that worked just fine.
I have a distinct memory of my younger sister getting upset because she thought our youngest sister had two middle names, while she only had one (my youngest sister is [name_m]Eli[/name_m]@na J0y nn [name_f]Ell[/name_f]!e, and she thought her name was [name_f]Ellie[/name_f] [name_f]Ana[/name_f] [name_f]Joy[/name_f]). Obviously it wasn’t true, but my sister was upset nonetheless. This is why I would either give all of my kids two middle names or none of them.
I would stick to the same number of middles for all kids, because I wouldn’t want any of them to feel left out. I know I’d feel put out if my siblings had more names than I did, but there’s a good chance they wouldn’t care (and I don’t actually have siblings).
I think you loving your child’s name is the most important thing, regardless of how it plays into a pattern, and I wouldn’t say it’s weird at all. My aunt has three children - the eldest has a double-barreled first name with no middles, the middle child has no middles, and the youngest has two! It didn’t make a fuss at all.
I don’t think it’s weird at all - I have one middle and my brother has two and nobody has ever found it strange.
I would think its odd but not really a big deal. I definitely wouldn’t think twice about it. I would use the name you love and worry about future kids when they come!
I think if one child was going to get a long 3 word name, and the other was a short 2 word name, that would be weird. For example, 2 of my cousins (Disclaimer, I changed the names, to other names with the same sound, but you get the idea)
[name_m]Lewis[/name_m] [name_m]Antonio[/name_m] [name_m]Paul[/name_m]
[name_m]Matthew[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u]
But you had a child with a long first name, and one middle, and another with a shorter name, but two middles, it would be fine, [name_f]IMO[/name_f]. Another example
[name_f]Isabella[/name_f] [name_f]Jade[/name_f]
[name_f]Caitlin[/name_f] [name_f]Marie[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f]
I mean, I personally prefer an equal amount of names, but I wouldn’t be fussed if I met a [name_f]Gwendolyn[/name_f] [name_f]Kate[/name_f] and a [name_f]Hannah[/name_f] [name_u]Leigh[/name_u] [name_f]Mary[/name_f]. I kinda spewed my opinion, so sorry about that.
But seriously, using names that you love are always better than using random names to make your sibset sound good.
I would give all my kids the same number of middle names (personally, I prefer one middle name only).
My parents did not give all their kids a middle name, so it’s not something I would think twice about. It was a bigger deal when we were younger, but now it doesn’t really matter.