Double mn for a twin girl?

Girl Names
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I like a lot of set-up in my posts, so bear with me. :slight_smile:

My husband and I have a 17month old. And, boy/girl twins on the way.

We’ve decided on first names and the boy’s middle name. However, I’m a little hesitant about the girl’s middle name and I want to have something picked out that I have No hesitation over before we make any sort of announcement. That way, when/if the obligatory negative comment(s) come, they won’t make me go name crazy again. :wink:

(Not looking for advice on the first names. I won’t be offended, it’s just that we’ve weighed the pros and cons for Months and have decided 100%. Here’s that thread if you’re extremely interested.)

I’m thinking of using a double middle name for our daughter. But, I don’t personally like hyphenated names. And, I would feel a little weird about her having four separate names when both of the boys only have 3 (but it wouldn’t bother me That badly, since they’re not Identical twins and it would give her something extra to stand out from the boys). So, I was wondering people’s thoughts on just putting the names together to make one name.

In presenting all of the facts we have:
[name]Conor[/name] [name]Alexander[/name] (17m old)

Twin Boy
[name]Cormac[/name] [name]Sebastian[/name]

Twin Girl
[name]Cordelia[/name] JaneMarie (On forms, Janemarie, so it will all be on there and we don’t have to choose which mn to “officially” use)

The reason is that my husband picked out the middle names and chose [name]Jane[/name]. At the time, oblivious to the fact that my mother’s mn is [name]Jane[/name]. I would hate to name her after my mother and not have anything from his family in any of the names. [name]Marie[/name] is his mother’s mn, and a popular one, in general, on both sides of the family.

So, is JaneMarie, all together, odd?

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Umm, just NMS, so I find it a little odd.

[name]Just[/name] me, but considering both the boys have longer, more traditional middle names I’d probably go for something similar for little [name]Cordelia[/name]. If you put [name]Alexander[/name] & [name]Sebastian[/name] into Nymber, some of the suggestions (avoiding C names so they don’t blend with your firsts) are:
[name]Penelope[/name]
[name]Angelina[/name]
[name]Valentina[/name]
[name]Margarita[/name]
[name]Veronica[/name]
[name]Victoria[/name]
[name]Katherine[/name]
[name]Ophelia[/name]
[name]Anastasia[/name]
[name]Phillipa[/name]
[name]Abigail[/name]
[name]Theresa[/name]
[name]Lydia[/name]
[name]Jacqueline[/name]

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Thanks for the suggestions. I’ll have to check out that service, I’ve never ran across it before.

I’m thinking he and I will have to have a couple more conversations about names. I’m open to other mn’s, but I think my husband kinda wants a C.J. There aren’t too many J names that I’m fond of. Probably even less that we could agree on. I also have a problem with having her middle name end in an “a”, since her first name ends that way, and our last name start’s with “A”. I’ve always loved “[name]Ophelia[/name]”, but [name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Ophelia[/name], and many other’s, are ott with the rhyming. [name]Even[/name] if they don’t technically rhyme, too many "a"s gets to be a mouth-full. And, it seems like a lot of the longer, traditional/classic girl’s names end that way.

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I think a double middle name is totally fine, even if the boys only have one. But I really dislike the JaneMarie spelling. It’s just wrong to me. In the middle of a word / name you can’t just use a capital letter, always hurts my eyes… [name]Jane[/name]-[name]Marie[/name] would be so much better. Or [name]Jane[/name] [name]Marie[/name]. Janemarie is okay, too. I really like the idea of her having both her grandmas middle names.

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I really like the idea of using both gma’s mn for your daughter’s mn. I love [name]Cordelia[/name] btw. I also think [name]Cordelia[/name] JaneMarie flows really well. Spelling wise, I think that is up to you. If you don’t want a hyphen, don’t use one. If you fear the second name will be dropped, join them as JaneMarie or Janemarie. I think JaneMarie looks better, I would assume Janemarie is a new name that I would have to figure out how to pronounce at first glace. I also don’t think it matters if your daughters’ middle matches your sons’ middles style wise. Good luck!

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I’m not a fan of JaneMarie…sorry :frowning:

I thought of these when you said you might want a C.J.:

[name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Juliet[/name]
[name]Cordelia[/name] [name]June[/name]

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I’m thinking about [name]Mary[/name]-[name]Jane[/name] instead of JaneMarie.
Double middle is okay, but forcing two names into one can ruin all the beauty.
[name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Jane[/name] [name]Marie[/name] is also pretty, but I don’t like JaneMarie at all.

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[name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Jane[/name] [name]Marie[/name] is so beautiful! [name]Glad[/name] youre sticking with [name]Cormac[/name] and [name]Cordelia[/name]! <3

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[name]Love[/name] [name]Cormac[/name], that’s one cool name. Especially with [name]Connor[/name]!
Janemarie… not a fan. [name]Alexander[/name] and [name]Sebastian[/name] are substantial and serious, Janemarie sounds made up.
I would love to see a 2 syllable MN.
[name]Connor[/name] [name]Alexander[/name] (2:4)
[name]Cormac[/name] [name]Sebastian[/name] (2:4)
[name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Marie[/name] (4:2)

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JaneMarie or Janemarie is fine. I prefer Janemarie mildly. Anything goes in the middle : D. A cousin of mine has a similar middle name for similar reasons, and really likes it. I believe she has the all lower case option. I also don’t think it’s disrespectful to break them up - [name]Jane[/name] [name]Marie[/name] just has better flow than [name]Marie[/name] [name]Jane[/name]. And in any case [name]Jane[/name] is still first even when they’re merged as one name. BUT of course if your preference is to merge that’s totally fine : D.

I agree it doesn’t matter if she has two while the boys have one - for one thing she’s a girl and girls deserve and get special stuff sometimes, and for another I don’t really think kids keep tabs quite that way. But if you do go with smooshing [name]Jane[/name] and [name]Marie[/name], an upshot is that technically all the kids do have one middle name.

Good luck!

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I love all three names: [name]Cordelia[/name], [name]Jane[/name], and [name]Marie[/name]…but I think it would look best if you went: [name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Jane[/name] [name]Marie[/name], instead of [name]Cordelia[/name] JaneMarie. It makes me want to say it Janemarie, all fast and jumbled. Whereas if you separated [name]Jane[/name] and [name]Marie[/name], it sounds a lot prettier, and looks nicer, for that matter.

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I think JaneMarie or Janemarie looks fine! I also think it would be fine to do [name]Jane[/name] [name]Marie[/name], with a space in bw. My DD has a double middle, and my son doesn’t, and so far it’s been no big deal. Your names are all very nice!

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Won’t the children already have his last name? I know this is an assumption, but if they do that pretty much takes care of obligation. That said, I agree it would be better to have to separate middle names rather than mashing them together. [name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Jane[/name] [name]Marie[/name]. Or, French-style, [name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Marie[/name]-[name]Jane[/name].

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Thanks everyone for all of the opinions so far! :slight_smile:

It’s still being decided on.

A few points to clarify:
~It will either be [name]Both[/name] middle names (together or separately), or a completely different name with a connection to no one. Ours will most likely be the only grandchildren for his parents, while there are 8 on my side. His mother has made it clear from the beginning (not in a pushy way) that she’d like a gc named for her in some way (her fn lends itself to various girl/boy forms). Also out of 8 gc, none are named for my mother in any way either, and I know she’d also really like it.

~At Some point in the last 12 years, my husband has known my mother’s mn. And, it’s likely that my [name]MIL[/name] does know it. [name]Even[/name] if she doesn’t, we’re currently expats living 3500 miles away from everyone, in a different country & 95% of our communication is done with everyone through fb. It [name]Will[/name] be pointed out over and over that [name]Jane[/name] is for my mother, by various friends/family. I don’t feel Obligated to honor my [name]MIL[/name], in general, but would never make a choice that would cause hurt feeling for either grandmother, especially through my [name]MIL[/name]'s only grand daughter.

~This [name]Will[/name] be my last pregnancy. So, no name saving for “future” children. And, this is most likely the last chance for both sides to get someone named for them. First was a high-risk, surprise pregnancy. This one is also high-risk & extra twin-risk on top of it. Twins increase my chances for twins again, or even triplets. I’m also pushing the 35 year old mark, when other risks get added on top of the ones I started with. I can’t see doing another high-risk pregnancy while I have 3 little ones and no family around to help out.

~Found out that my husband would really like a little “C.J.”, so it’s a J mn he’s after. Not many others out there that I like.

So, basically it’s Now or Never. [name]Both[/name] names (in some form), or neither. :slight_smile:

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I really like [name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Jane[/name]-[name]Marie[/name] (or [name]Jean[/name]-[name]Marie[/name], I’m not sure if that is too far removed from [name]Jane[/name] for you though) or [name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Mary[/name] [name]Jane[/name]. I really like [name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Mary[/name] [name]Jane[/name] the best but I’m a bit of a sucker for [name]Mary[/name] [name]Jane[/name] in general. It just feels so sweet to me. Maybe it’s the shoes?

I love [name]Jane[/name] (or [name]Jean[/name]) and [name]Marie[/name] (or [name]Mary[/name]) and squishing them together into one word takes away some of their charm for me, personally. Good luck and best wishes on your pregnancy, though! I can’t wait to hear what you decide on.

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Thanks everyone for the input!

We finally decided and announced names on [name]Sunday[/name]. I have to say that our choices got much better reception on here (and from our friends on fb) than they did from our immediate families, which I have to say was rather disappointing. Though, I figured that’s what would happen, so at least it wasn’t out of nowhere! They didn’t like the choice for our first son either when we announced it. Oh well, what can you do…

We decided to go with Janemarie, all one word, all lower case. I figured that would be the easiest to quickly explain to people. There’s sometimes name confusion with even the most seemingly simple names out there. It all depends on who you’re talking to. Like, our last name is very simple and straight forward, but it’s also a very common fn, so we have to work that one out over the phone often.

Janemarie all together assures that neither will get dropped, as would most certainly happen if they were separate names. No hyphen means no screw ups on legal/electronic forms that don’t accept them. And, all lower case means that hopefully all she’s have to say when explaining her name is that’s it’s all one word, instead of also having to get into it being all one word, but also a cap. in the middle. Which, considering some of the Crazy spellings and formation of names that are floating around out there, isn’t such a big deal.

Again, thanks to everyone for their opinions and suggestions. :slight_smile:

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Like C@29 has suggested, [name]Mary[/name]-[name]Jane[/name] is so pretty and what I would go for.

[name]Cordelia[/name] [name]Mary[/name]-[name]Jane[/name]. So pretty.