Family Name vs Favorite Name

Name Advice
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Number Two is currently the size of a poppy seed, so to me this is still somewhat hypothetical, but, I’m having a dilemma: Use a Family Name or use my [name_m]Favorite[/name_m] Name?

Myself, my husband, our son, both my parents, and all four of my grandparents (!!) have/had family names for both our first and middle names (We’re all first-borns if that explains anything :joy:). So using family names has been very deeply ingrained in me, and I’m lucky that my favorite boy name happened to be a family name that I could happily use for my son. However, when I hear non-family names that cousins, etc. have chosen I often think “Wow! I wish I could use a fabulous name like that!”, but I worry that over time I would like the non-family names less or would even come to regret not using a family/honor name.

Husband doesn’t like the “best” family names that are left on my side, and while I love his family I’m not sure I would be okay with Number Two having a first, middle, and last name from his side and nothing from mine. What do you think I should do- find a family name (from any side) that I like or use a non-family name that I love?

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I think in your shoes I’d be looking for a first I loved and pairing it with a family middle! That’s what we’ve done with our sons even though family names are not so ingrained. Congrats on #2!

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[name_m]Favorite[/name_m] name, your family middle name, his surname

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if i were you, i’d use my favorite name as a first and a family name from my side for the middle! seems like the best of both worlds.

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Maybe look for a family inspired name that you really love and get the best of both worlds?

Whatever it is just choose something you really like, family or new.

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I’d use your favourite name :person_shrugging: and then put an honour in the middle spot - so you get the best of both

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Thanks! I think this is what we’re leaning towards but trying to agree on which names is still difficult :joy:

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