So as some of you know, I recently got blessed with a gorgeous Niece. You will also know that I went off of [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] as a first name for a while because my niece was named [name_f]Olivia[/name_f].
Well now, even though my niece is only six months old, my sister is already talking about having another one (I know she won’t yet but her best friend is pregnant so she’s feeling broody), so she has been talking about baby names and she has said multiple times that she loves [name_u]Jesse[/name_u].
[name_u]Jesse[/name_u] is my favourite boy name and has been since before my niece. She knows this. Sure I’m only fifteen but I just find it frustrating.
I’m hoping by the time she has another one, she’s either gone off of it (she went off so many when she was pregnant with [name_f]Liv[/name_f]) or she has a girl.
Does anyone have any advice to get over this. It just really upsets me because my sister tends to just brush it off.
It is a difficult situation, but I’d probably just wait it out until she actually does get pregnant again. Hopefully by then she’ll have found another name to love, or as you said, have another girl.
Honestly, I find this quite… inconsiderate? Like, she knows your top names and yet would still use them. In my family (cousins and all) we’ve got a few names each that are just ours (this clarification is actually quite important as we all have very similar styles). We wouldn’t use another’s favourites. Hell, my older cousin has a top two that, while both are on my shortlist in one way or another, I’m no longer going to use and am actually dropping considering she has just two favourites and I have, needless to say, a lot more :).
If your sister actually gets pregnant again and is seriously considering [name_u]Jesse[/name_u], I’d suggest sitting down with her and just asking her to avoid your top couple names. Beyond that, I’m sadly not too sure you can do much else - more of a first-come, first-served mindset.
Thank you so much for the feed back. I love my sister so much but I do agree that its inconsiderate. She didn’t ever mention [name_u]Jesse[/name_u] six months ago. My whole family knows which names I love so its just frustrating
Honestly, I’m not sure what I would do personally as all of my siblings are respectful upon mine and each others favourite names. I think you should wait until she actually gets pregnant. If she still likes [name_u]Jesse[/name_u], then that’s a talk you can have with her. Maybe seeing you upset will make her realise that pondering upon your favourite name is not a very good thing to do.
If I was in that situation, I guess I would start saying a bunch of different names on the constant to sway my sibling away from the name I like. Hopefully all stays well and you get to use your name in the distant future.
I understand why you’d feel frustrated. But, from an outside perspective here, there is nothing to worry about yet. As you said, you sister isn’t yet pregnant. When she does have another, it could be a girl. Furthermore, at fifteen, your favorite names can change drastically between now and when you have kids 10+ years from now.
When I was a teenager (eons ago) I loved the name [name_u]Dayton[/name_u]. Then, around that time, my cousin had a son and named him [name_u]Dayton[/name_u]. Now, as a mom having and naming children, [name_u]Dayton[/name_u] and names like it are nowhere near my style.
It isn’t a nice thought to have a potential name potentially used by someone close. But that’s all it is, a potential name. I assume you’re years away from having babies so your taste will probably change by then and you don’t know if your future partner will like the name! There’s only a slight possibility your sister will use your name, she may never have a son! You may never have one either.
As a lifelong namenerd I completely understand the feelings you’re having, but it’s too soon to worry about it I’ve gone through tons of “OMG I’m so using this on a future child it’s my favourite name ever” names. So don’t worry about it just yet
Honestly, I wouldn’t care. What’s a better connections than cousins sharing a name? I have always wanted to have a cousin with the same name and she actually came when I was 18 and I was more than happy that we shared the name of a beloved, still living, family member. There are millions of people who share the same name with a family member, it’s not the end of the world
