I have a dilemma: after we announced baby’s name to our families and close friends, SIL got extremely upset because we’d chosen the name of someone who treated her badly (we don’t know the details but know that it wasn’t assault). She believes it’s an insult for us to choose this name and claims to be traumatized and humiliated by it. The other sibling in that family supports SIL and the rest of the family is trying not to take sides.
I don’t want to change the name but also don’t want to be resented for life. Should we change the name?