[name_m]Hi[/name_m] Berries! [name_f]My[/name_f] first is due in [name_u]June[/name_u], and DH and I are undecided on his family naming tradition. DH is the third generation given the first name “[name_m]Thomas[/name_m]”, but each one has a different middle name, so there’s never been Juniors or anything like that.
DH would like to name our baby [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] (with a middle name different from DH, DH’s father, etc). DH goes by [name_m]Tom[/name_m] most of the time, so I definitely don’t want a situation where I’m calling my son “little [name_m]Tom[/name_m]” or “[name_m]Tommy[/name_m]” to differentiate from DH.
So right now I’m torn…I actually love the name [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] (if it wasn’t DH’s name, I’d use it in a heartbeat) but I still think its weird to have 2 people named [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] under the same roof.
What do you Berries think? Call him [name_m]Thomas[/name_m], while DH is [name_m]Tom[/name_m]? What about [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] so I can use the nickname TJ at home?
Many families have a son that bears the same name as the father. Since your husband usually goes by [name_m]Tom[/name_m], why not use [name_m]Thomas[/name_m]? You seem to love the name, and [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] sounds delightful. TJ is cute too! If nothing really works out, then you could always use [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] as your son’s middle name. Good luck!
[name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] is dashing, and TJ is very cute and friendly. [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] is great too. I don’t think his dad being [name_m]Tom[/name_m] will cause too much confusion. I would name him [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u], and then you can decide when you bring him home if he’s more of a [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] or a TJ.
I would use [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] as his first name and whatever you want as the middle. I like the idea of calling him by his initials or maybe a nickname for his middle name.
I like TJ. Maybe look into other names than [name_u]James[/name_u]!
I also wanted to say… imo, dont be bound by tradition if you dont like it… as I think of it, you’re just passing on something that your son is going to feel pressured into keeping up, for fear of disappointing you.
Thats why im choosing to break our naming traditions anyway, I see it as passing on freedom to my kids!
[name_f]My[/name_f] dad and brother both have the same first name and different middles. [name_f]My[/name_f] brother has always gone by his middle name, but whenever he gets something in the mail, it always says his first name. It’s hard to differentiate who the mail goes to and their middle initials are usually not on the packages. [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] is very handsome and I love TJ, but having two people with the same first name under one roof can become confusing. [name_m]Just[/name_m] something to think about. I love the idea of using [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] as a middle though!
I love [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u]! [name_m]Even[/name_m] saying that as a double name sounds so nice in my opinion! Not a big fan of TJ but that’s just b/c I don’t really like initial names. But it’s not a bad idea or anything! [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] is a great name. And I like that you want to keep with the family tradition, that’s important. I’d love to name my son after my husband as I love his name but my husband isn’t really into the idea.
There are so many families that have juniors and have figured it out. I don’t think it will be a problem if your son has the same name but different middle than DH.
[name_f]My[/name_f] almost 2 year old son’s name is [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u]. Although it’s a top 100 name it doesn’t seem as popular as a lot of other names close in rank. Everyone he’s been introduced to seems to love his name and we’ve never had any negative comments. We usually call him TomTom.
[name_m]Thomas[/name_m] I adore! If it was me, and it was honestly that important to him, I would consider compromising, and doing [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] ____, but calling him by his middle, potentially. I’m not one for the whole jr. thing, but I can see me getting very excited about the option of using my husband’s FN/MN as a middle/second middle for my first son. Then again, if I hated his name, I can see me trying to avoid this, as well, haha. [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] is really handsome, though, and TJ’s okay. I would insist on just [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] before I’d opt for TJ, but I’m not one for the _J initials…
I love the name [name_m]Thomas[/name_m]. And if your hubby usually goes by “[name_m]Tom[/name_m]”, you can simply call your son “[name_m]Thomas[/name_m]”. No Nickname. Or you can give your son a different nickname. Like pumpkin (a sweet kind of pet name). Or something that relates to his interests.
However, if you can’t shake that feeling of how weird it would be to have two [name_m]Thomas[/name_m]'s in the house, then you don’t have to use it.
I think if you love the name and it’s important to DH then use it. TJ is a cute nn, but you could also call him [name_m]Tommy[/name_m] when he is young or in the house, and he can decide when to change to [name_m]Thom[/name_m] or [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] when he is older.
The only issue I see with [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] is that they both end in mas/mes, and I don’t like the repeated s sound. But TJ is super cute!
